For the gay people?

Question

In your own belief, would you say that sexul oriantation is a choice,
or are you just born that way. How did it feel for you, when did you know, and would you be able to change it if you wanted to?
Thanks.

I believe that this question was here before, it is just that I've never seen it.

Answer 1

Alrighty then, my Dear! I can't say I "knew" I was gay until I met my Best Beloved. Then I knew I'd met the person I loved and that person just happened to be a woman. Up until then, I was rather sexually ambiguous. I'd had sex with a man and really found it to be unenlightening and rather boring. With my partner (now 25 years going on 26) it's love as well as sex. That makes all the difference for me. I don't know if I actually could go back to being heterosexual. I certainly wouldn't like it and probably wouldn't love that partner. I love whom I love.

Answer 2

I didn't even know what the word gay meant until I was around 11 or 12 years old. However, before that I knew that I was "attracted" to boys. At that age though, not sexually, just having crushes on them and such and wanting to be around them. I didn't see homosexuality as a "bad" thing until around age 14 or 15 when society finally got the best of me. I'm 22 now and I have fully accepted myself for who I am and am in the very early stages of telling people about the real me. I am the same person I was yesterday and last week, only difference is now some know something about me they didn't know, but that doesn't mean I'm a different person.

Answer 3

personally I believe there are two components. First is genetics. Genetics only gives you the potential to be gay and how strong that potential will be. Second is environment. Your environment when you are very young like around 6 to 10 years old can push you towards or away from homosexuality. I have an identical twin brother who is not gay. So obviously Genetics isn't 100% of what determines homosexuality. However I knew I was gay very early like about 9 years old and did not make any conscious decision. I do not believe I could ever become straight. I have tried.

Answer 4

I just answered this. Most studies say that we're born gay or straight. Because of societal pressures, those of us who are gay sometimes take a l o n g time coming to terms with the fact. We may even get married to hide the fact of our true feelings.
There were inklings, little signs even ewhen I was a kid, but I didn't pick up on them. It was only after I was married, that I met the person who made me accept my true feelings. It was a shock, but I'm glad I wasn't a lot older when it happened. Would I want to live as a straight woman again? HELL NO!!!!!

Answer 5

I have never been sexually attracted to women. My earliest memory of being attracted to a man, if you could call it that, was having a crush on Lee Majors in The Six Million Dollar Man. I was young, 6 to 8, but I sure like to look at him! I like Buck Rogers, too. It's never been a matter of choice for me, it's always been a matter of what stimulates me visually. Nearly thirty years later I can say that I am still not sexually attracted to women and don't think I could ever perform the deed, even if I were forced to.

Answer 6

I absolutely believe in genetics being responisible for homosexuality. Of course, some folks may be environmentally inclined too. For people who say, oh my brother isnt gay so it isnt genetic, I say this, my brothers all have different eye color as I do. So I guess eye color is not genetic either?

I have always been attracted to guys. Didnt accept my homosexuality until after I was married... Finally came out a year ago, after 17 years of marriage, two kids, and 41 years old.

Answer 7

I'm a gay male of some substantial age. In my youth, I tried so hard to be straight. Even bisexual would have seemed better to me then. By age 30, (late bloomer!) I was convinced that there was no passion for heterosexuallity available in my body. I know now that I had no choice. And I've learned to be happy with who I am and with the fact that I was made to be Gay, I am a wonderful creation of God.

Answer 8

As a gay guy i love it... you know i know guys say this a lot but i never felt like my brother did. i never felt like my sister either... i felt like i was all alone in the family. I mean my sister is str8 and like men my brother i str8 and like's girls. so here i am gay and like the same sex and gender no one knew how that felt. so i at the age of about 8 i learned what i was and how it was wronge then i spent childhood and teen years hiding in the closet. So i will let that be the answer to the next part of your question. no can not change you can only hide from who you really are. I mean i can take a str8 guy and teach him to be gay but the fact is he will always be str8 and have feeling about females. same thing all these programs do not work they only teach you how to be str8 and guys still feels trapped. I once tried one of the save my soul programs at the advice of a great friend. and i thought becuase he stood by me being gay i can try to be str8 cause he asked me to and for close to a year i was a "wanna be str8 man" but i felt like i was just hiding in the closet again and going throught motions. which was not fair on me and the girls i was seeing. so in the end my friend to me to be who i was and he and his girlfriend still support me (thanks B i love you man).

Answer 9

Well I knew I was queer for a long time but did nothing about for a lot of years. Now I guess I am gay and still live a normal life but I wish things had been different when I was younger. I probably will live a good life but alone !

Answer 10

I think i always new i was gay although i didn;t have a word for these feelings, until i met a man i fell in love with. i fought my feelings for a while but new i had always had them. So i couldn't change i was born this way!