How do I handle all this mean behavior?

Question

I go to a Catholic school and the kids there are really rude. I feel like no one understands me. I have been going to one since I was in 1st grade and now I'm an 11th grader. Last year's homecoming, this girl took away my date and grabbed his hand and told him to dance with another girl. He told me later on that he'd have rather danced with me, but he still went and listened to them. Also, these guys in the lunchroom were throwing chips at me and one landed by my neck and hair and it was really greasy. Also, people spread so many rumors about me and most people believe them, but they are all lies. Also, some guys think that a guy would have to be desperate to want to go out with me. Well, I have had a few bf's in my life, and they were really sweet and said I am pretty and they liked me as I was and didn't care if I fit in or not. I start school in 2 more weeks, and I am already nervous. I want this pain to end. It hurts SO much. I never did anything to these people. What should I do?

Answer 1

Is there a rule against bullying at your school? There is at the schools where I live, and they take it very seriously. Go to the school counselor as soon as school starts, and get some advice. And if you get bullied again, report it. If there aren't any consequences, get your parents involved. They need to know.

Answer 2

I can identify with what you are going through.When I was in School, there were mean kids, and to this day I just don't understand why kids can be like that.To me its like they don't have anything better to do with their lives so they make others miserable.
You may find that when you go back to school this year things may be different. All you can hope for is that some of these people have matured in the last few months. This is their problem and not yours.
One thing I can tell you, and that is while all this has been going on, it has made you a stronger person, though you wont see it just yet. When you get out into the world, you will find that this high school crap of theirs wont be tolerated . Hang in there.Its not easy I know, I have been there myself, but just hold your head up high and have faith in yourself.
Good luck.

Answer 3

Honey, kids can be very mean and for no reason at all. If you're not doing anything to deserve this then don't put up with it. Take charge, when the girl came and took your date away, you should have said no, he came here with me. When kids throw crap at you in the lunchroom turn right around and look 'em in the face saying stop. As for rumors there's nothing you can do but laugh them off. Kids can be mean because they're bored and they need a target or they have something against you, but you don't have to take it, I know from experience but one day it will soon end and you will find people who are much different than that. You just have to hang in there and stand up for yourself. Good luck.

Answer 4

ahhhhhhhhhh the same old social problem. Kids keep saying things like accept yourself the way you are and then they turn around and make someone feel like trash. What to do what to do.

You really are what you are and it's hard to change yourself. Maybe you don't really need changing, but you really do need to not care so much about what other people think.

Out of the whole school, are there not other girls that are having the same problem? Is there someone very lonely out there that also feels the way you do that you could befriend? All you really need to do is find someone you like. Don't worry about if they are popular or if you are popular, just enjoy their friendship. Forget about fitting in and don't be a follower, be a leader, make the trail and let others follow or not. Just do what you want to do as long as it doesn't hurt anyone else and don't resort to treating other people the way you've been treated. Look people in the eye and smile and if they don't smile back don't let it worry you. A smile is contageous so you will probably get one back. Don't walk around looking at your feet because you will never see the nice people that could become your friend.

One day on your lunch break, just sit back and observe. Don't stick your head in a book and pretend you don't care. Watch for people who are feeling alone and once you've focused on someone you might like to meet, just walk over and say hi. Mind if I sit here. and let it go from there.

Remember that the people that are treating you badly must feel threatened by you for something and don't forget, people treat other people badly because it makes them feel better about themselves if they can make someone look smaller than themselves. Find out what it is that's making these people feel badly about themselves and you will understand them better. You could also try to make friends with one person from that group so that you can get to know better what is going on with them. Kill them with kindness.

I don't know what you look like but if you're in grade 11, now is the time to take great pride in your looks, be as pretty as you can be, use a little light make up, get your hair styled and knock them dead. Make them jealous and make them want to be your friend

Oh and learn to laugh and have fun. Everyone wants to be with someone who can laugh and who is fun. Don't take anything except your studies too seriously this year.

Good Luck this school year and be happy, make this the best year of your life.

Answer 5

Well, I haven't been picked on much in life (except in 7th grade, when someone spit gum in my hair, and in 9th grade, because I sucked at sports/PE), so I can't really give you any good advice. I thought by 11th grade people would be more mature than that, as that seems so middle school to me. I would tell you to transfer schools, except it's probably too late to do that at this point, with only 2 weeks before school starts. If you have any friends at the school, I guess you should hang out with them more often, as people aren't as likely to attack a group of people. That's all I can tell you. But I'm not sure about the rumors. Well, anyways, know that none of this is your fault. You definatley don't deserve this crap.

Answer 6

If you believe in God you should ask him to help you with this situation.
It sounds like you are an easy target and will respond appropriately to the mean behavior.
Stop being an easy target. Throw the chips back or dump the whole bag on the jerks head. then laugh about it.
Tell people the rumors are true then they won't be rumors anymore. People will stop spreading them if you start taking credit for them.
Dress differently. Call everyone by name. Laugh at any meanness towards you.
But most of all...STOP ACTING LIKE A VICTIM!!!!!

You are probably a very beautiful person. Let it show. Befriend the unbefriended and gather a large group of friends around you. Usually the easy targets are loners. Don't be a loner anymore, make friends of anyone and everyone. Surround yourself with friends. Friends protect friends and then you won't be the target of mean behavior.
And remember to ask God to help you with all of this.

Go girl!!

Answer 7

When a negative experience is encountered it only serves the purpose of the orignator(s) if they can reduce your quality. It is an adverse response mechanism due to misdirected intentions about applying positive results. Many conjecture it is selfish while others feel inadequate. If no logical purpose can be determined due to a confrontation you must feel compassion for these desolute creatures as their niche in life will decline while you try to avoid the negative effects that tend to destroy your sense of direction. Keep as a projection that today I am confident and I will focus on this. do the same each day until you assign a new projection. People are attracted to others that have a purpose.

Answer 8

simple my dear friend...dont go to a religious school! you can learn your religion at home in your spare time. youd think people would be nice to their fellows? i deal with alot of pain myself, and you just have to deal with it. get your mind on other things. laugh. watch comedy movies often. when they say you did something, just say sarcastically " oh yeah, cuz i always do stuff like that." work out alot alot alot, so you can get strong and beat the poi outta them. they say violence isnt the answer, but sometimes its the only option. know that everyone out there deals with some kind of pain. your not alone. dont let them get to you. you are obviously a good person and most likely very pretty. im rootin for ya!!!

Answer 9

Do you have any friends? At all? If not, well talk with your counselor or someone you can trust. Be strong and keep on going. But talk with somebody it is important so all this problems could not affect you more than they should be. Pray about your enemies you know that may change them or at least it will change you how you feel about all this.

Answer 10

stop allowing them to do that you... if they see that you are weak, they will continue... since it is going to be a new year, enter that school year strong and let them know that you will not settle for mistreatment anymore!! some situations like the chip incident... you should have stood your ground and threw one back... this will teach them that two can play that game!