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got married to him before 2 years . he was often lying to me and made me to feel as if, i am an idiot. i understood him, but i didnt say about these things to my parents. i left him before one year for my first delivery to my parent's home(its our tradition), even at that times he gave me and my parents a lot of mental tortures. i believed tht he wouldl change if he saw his child. But nothing worked. he didnt even came to see us and spreads wrong news about me all around. now he has filled a restitution of conjugal rights against me. but i dont want to go with him until he accepts his mistakes and come for counseling. but i have the doubt whether it will work or not if i go to court. he is a very good actor and makes all ppl to believe him with his crocodile tears. wht shall i do now?
and very importnt point is , i dont want to divorce him. i want to pay him back wht he did to me. he spoiled my life. iam not in the country which takes remarriage as much easy&evn i dontlike

2006-08-13 07:10:46 · 3 answers · asked by hi 1 in Family & Relationships Marriage & Divorce

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Babe, if you are strong (for your child's sake be that) and you have to be patient do as follows:
1- you have to act like a very religious person and convince people who matter in this marriage that you really are.
2- in front of people you have to be always sweet and abiding to him, and pretend to be scared even if you are not.
3- every now and then throw something bad about his personality like his Lie, or make up something and get them to think that your husband told you but dont say he did in words. this way people will have it in mind that your husband is a lier.
after a month see how peoples opinion changes about your husband. Oh when ever they ask you how are you and your husband doing, pretend that you are holding your tear IN and just say " thank god for everything" ONLY.
Let me know what happens, my friend gave me those advices and I am so very interested to see if they really work
Good luck

2006-08-13 07:44:22 · answer #1 · answered by WICCA 4 · 0 0

Study "emotional abuse." Sounds like he may be an emotional abuser and like most abusers, they rarely change. It is harder too in certain ways because there are no obvious signs, (bruises etc) of the abuse. The abused usually feels confused. But, to me, if you choose to try to "pay him back" you will stay stuck in this cycle. Do what you can to correct this situation always praying to God (or whomever is your higher power) to assist in having your life turn out according to the divine plan for your life and then walk in confidence and gratitude. I have learned from these types of people how I do not want to live my life and the kind of person I do not want to be. Trust yourself.

2006-08-13 14:20:02 · answer #2 · answered by qwestionz 2 · 0 0

if he dont want u anymore then search for better than him i think u r nice and many men will accept u

2006-08-13 14:32:14 · answer #3 · answered by micho 7 · 0 0

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