My boyfriend of a year and a half is always so irritable and moody when there is the slightest problem. If I dont say the right word he gets mad and says he has to go. He accuses me of things that I dont do but when he does them he always has the right answer for it. It is so hard because he doesn't know how to communicate. When things are great we can talk about anything and have fun but if there is the slightest problem, he walks out on me or shuts his phone off. I am sick of him hurting me but lin the same way I want to be with him. I am so confused and would appreciate any good advice because I cant go to the direct source to talk, for he wont.
2006-08-13 07:04:58 · 17 answers · asked by Kit Katt 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
He is a gutless person. These type of people have tendency to blame others. He is fair weather person.If you keep him ingood humor i,e, do whatever he wants he is Ok but moment you you disagree ( even justifiably ) he becomes irritated. Leave him he is not for you or anyone else for that matter.
2006-08-13 07:29:44 · answer #1 · answered by shribharatpshubh 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its hard to know how a parent "rejecting" a family and leaving
it will effect the kids. It is rarely a positive influence.
If you were married and/or had a big committment to him, I would
suggest that you should try couples therapy.
As boyfriend/girlfriend, I guess the only thing you can do is
tell him what you think is going wrong. If he leaves, he leaves.
At least you said it.
And if you get fed up, tell him why are you fed up. He needs
to know.
For something like this, I think it might actually be a good idea
to write a letter and then read the letter to him and then give
it to him.
The idea is that you leave evidence of what you did and didn't
say, but you aren't wimping out by not being there or not saying
it yourself.
And to think that some women find "moody" attractive!
2006-08-13 07:10:26 · answer #2 · answered by Elana 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, the 'why' is a real mystery. But it definately shouldn't be because of his father leaving. My dad did the same, and I'm probably the opposite.
On the other hand. It just seems that if he doesn't have the answer he doesn't want to face the problem and thus walks out. Try and get him to stay and solve whatever the prob is before leaving.
Though this is only MY opinion. I don't actually know this guy, so the only option, difficult as it is, is to get it from him. 'Cos he's the only guy that knows. The answer might not be great, but at least it's an answer.
Hope it works out.
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2006-08-13 07:22:02 · answer #3 · answered by LukeyM 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-24 23:11:36 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are not able to communicate with him and you never have been able to, then chances are that this problem will always go on. So you really need to sit down with yourself and write down all the good points about him and all the bad ones. If there is more bad than good, then I would think about leaving him. He accuses you of things cause, he is too coward to admit that he is wrong when he does something against you, so he justifies it and thinks he is right. Don't put up with that. You deserve better. Whatever good things you saw in him, you can also find in someone else plus more. Don't settle for less than what you deserve. You are lucky he walks out, other guys would hit a girl. I hope he isn't one of them. Good luck!
2006-08-13 07:42:36 · answer #5 · answered by curious_boricua_soul 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well done for staying with him you must really love him to go through that.
You need to decide if that's what you want for the future.
Try and talk to him maybe he doesn`t realise how bad it is and how much it upsets you if he wont listen to you do the same to him walk out see how he likes it!. If he realises that he could lose you through this he might try changing.
Good luck for the future
2006-08-13 07:15:57 · answer #6 · answered by pinky p 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You want to pay attention to the way he was treated . He has problems and it could get worse .
This is a wake-up call , dear . Tell him to get some help and get away from him .
You don't deserve to be treated like that . Where is your pride and self-respect .
There is someone out there , that will love you for your self , he's waiting for you , go find him
2006-08-13 07:15:34 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would sit down and have a good think about this guy, and I would think you would arrive at the decision to cut the year and a half out of your mind and get on your way as far away as possible
2006-08-13 07:18:26 · answer #8 · answered by srracvuee 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry for your boyfriend.... Maybe if he had the proper Male figure in his life he'd know how to really treat a woman. He sounds like he's insedure and is afraid of you leaving him the same way his dad did... Try to talk to him and convince him (somehow), that you love him and love doesn't HURT>>>
2006-08-13 07:09:05 · answer #9 · answered by amylr620 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
WHY ARE YOU WASTING YOUR TIME WITH THIS LOSER? HE DOESN'T REALLY LIKE WHO HE IS SO HE CAN'T REALLY SHOW IT TO YOU.
JUST BECAUSE YOU THINK YOU CARE ABOUT HIM, HE DOES NOT OWE YOU ANYTHING.
HE IS CARRYING BAGGAGE FROM BEING ABANDONED BY HIS FATHER, SO HE IS AFRAID TO GET EMOTIONALLY INVESTED IN OTHERS.
HE HAS ISSUES TO WORK OUT AND YOU ARE JUST IN THE WAY. YOU PUT YOURSELF IN THE LINE OF FIRE, SO DON'T EXPECT TO AVOID TAKING A HIT.
YOU CAN'T FIX OR CHANGE HIM. YOU CAN ONLY REINFORCE HIS BLAME OF OTHERS BY BEING THERE TO TAKE IT.
THE SELF FULFILLING PROPHECY SAYS THAT YOU WISH SOMETHING WOULD NOT HAPPEN, AND END UP MAKING IT HAPPEN.
GET AWAY FROM HIM AND FIND A GUY YOU CAN BRAG ABOUT.......
2006-08-13 07:23:28 · answer #10 · answered by pandora the cat 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋