he calls consistantly, tells me where he is and what he is doing, calls when he wakes up, go to bed, looks me in the eyes, always happy when he is with me, spends as much time as possible cause he has two boys he is raising by himself, when we are together he kisses constantly, hold my hand and kisses it, takes me out, he paid my phone bill, took me to meet his sister, cousin, best friend and even the other day i met his mom by myself to pick up something for him on my way to meet him for lunch at work. and the sex is wonderful because even after it done and over with we lie there and he holds me close and kisses. he is very passionate with me.
2006-08-13 07:04:34 · 3 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
This looks like a good situation. The guy is being responsible and raising his two boys, he's accountable with you about how he spends his time, he's letting you meet his family.
However, I think there are a lot of questions that need to be asked here:
1. What happened to the mother of his children? How did they break up? Is she deceased, did she run off with someone else and, for example, marry that person? If none of these things apply, is there any chance she will take him back (even though he has gone off with you)?
2. Let's assume for the sake of argument that she is deceased or married to someone else. Then the question to ask would be: what is the effect of having sex before having made a permanent commitment?
See, millions of people find out the hard way when they jump into sex without thinking about this first, and then down the road some third party intrudes or there's a breakup, that such things just are not supposed to happen.
The bond created by sex is one of oneness - too close to break up without serious damage. Either there will be tremendous emotional pain, or if there isn't, that is a sure sign that destruction of the person's ability to love and give themselves has occurred.
So a permanent relationship really is a necessity if you're going to have sex. And it will not happen by chance. What you do, however, by placing each other in first place (even above Mom and Dad, indeed above everyone except God), taking complete responsibility for your decisions and actions, and making a permanent commitment to each other (in front of others, so you are accountable), is that you spare yourself a lot of temptation and trouble by choosing to focus your mind instead on doing what needs to be done to make the relationship good and lasting.
Everything you say about this guy (except the fact that he has chosen to have sex with you before making a permanent commitment to you) suggests that he is suitable for such a relationship, so I think you should answer your question as follows: Yes, it is love.
And then choose to love him the same way, if you haven't already - and keep in mind, he is going to want to be sure you are willing to be a good stepmother to his boys, so you need to be ready to discuss that with him if you haven't already - and then make an appointment with him in some suitable, memorable location and propose to him.
I wish you all the best - may God bless you!
2006-08-13 07:26:20 · answer #1 · answered by songkaila 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
By the sounds off it, he loves you but to make sure try talking to him about it, tell him how you really feel and if he comes back and shares his true feeling with you then its love but don't push him to answer it,because most men are scared to admit there true feeling for a woman.
2006-08-13 07:34:24 · answer #2 · answered by lauren b 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you love him, tell him.
2006-08-13 07:08:04 · answer #3 · answered by renee1724 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋