When you ask to hang out, they find reasons to deny you; they don’t ever say their plans because they’re afraid you might ask to join; only when they initiate the plans do you get to hang out; you’re shy, so they prefer you not hang out with their g/f, fiancees and female friends; and they’re always unreachable on the weekends. But, they hangout w/ each other.
Birthdays, trips, parties? Sorry friend, you’re not invited. But, hey, you get to hang out, but only if it’s just the boys. And even then they insult your achieverments in life that don’t compare to all the great $hit they’ve managed to do by riding people’s coattails to. And, they only seem to want to hang out when you’ve got success going on in your life. It’s true, they hang out more with the friends that are accomplished in life.
I can’t blame them for wanting to be around successful people, but…I’m the one who feels insecure and worthless. But, shouldn’t I be happy I’m not around them? I don’t, though.
2006-08-13 06:25:07 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
First of all, "counselor" posts that answer the every question he responds to.
Now to tackle the real issue. Have you asked your friends why they feel this way? I'm not shifting blame, but maybe there is something in your personality that turns them off, something you are probably not even aware of. Perhaps you feelings of worthlessness and insecurity are coming through and you're kind of a "bummer." I had that problem before. I lost all my friends because of it.
However, maybe they only like to hang around you because they are in fact insecure and making you feel weak makes them feel better. This makes them, for lack of a better term, bullies.
You may want to speak to someone, like your doctor, about your feelings of worthlessness. But if that's not an option for you, then try something to boost your confidence. Take a night course or a hobby or something like that. You'll meet new people and maybe get some nicer friends. Good luck and blessed be :o)
2006-08-13 06:38:03 · answer #1 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
enable us to weigh the situation. an generic youthful people buddy in spite of the fact that if the different intercourse will proceed to be a buddy for an prolonged time with out circumstances as long via fact the different buddy facilitates it to be. A companion in a courting besides the undeniable fact that has many circumstances and that i think of this project is incredibly unfair. i'd propose that your buddy has sensed some thing approximately your companion that your companion fears. The buddy could have the different associates pastimes at heart the place the companion could have their very own pastimes at heart. this could be a egocentric and intensely unfair ultimatum. i'd be business enterprise and tell your companion that it incredibly isn't negotiable and he/she greater useful back off and seem at it from a different attitude. the appropriate element is that if the buddy has ever tried to impact you into ending your courting with your companion, then your companion has stable grounds for taking a stand and the buddy is now a difficulty. Friendships additionally could have their boundries
2016-11-04 12:09:48 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately, your "friends" are no longer friends. But it hurts when you are the one to be blacklisted. Look at it as a cleansing of negative things in your life and move on. There are plenty of other people to hang out with. Finding them is the problem. I suggest you join some clubs or organizations in your area to meet new people. Good luck and forget those losers. :)
2006-08-13 06:29:40 · answer #3 · answered by Sirensong404 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you need to get a new circle of friends. I think they may be jealous of you because of what you have done with your life. Don't feel worthless about yourself because of a bunch of losers. Hold your head up. To thine ownself be true. Find some new friends that will value the time they have to spend with you. Besides why be friends with a bunch of kiss asses. Good luck.
2006-08-13 06:36:01 · answer #4 · answered by Medical and Business Information 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Find some new friends. Just because you may have grown up with these people doesn't mean you have to hang with them the rest of your life.
2006-08-13 06:30:21 · answer #5 · answered by theoriginalquestmaker 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I advise you to see a counselor posthaste.
2006-08-13 06:27:21 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
they sound like terrible friends. i would just find some new ones. you deserve better, cause that's total bs.
2006-08-13 06:28:45 · answer #7 · answered by Amanda K 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋