2006-08-13 06:20:26 · 38 answers · asked by t0m0hawk7 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
shes already got an engagment ring, the wedding not for another 2 years.
2006-08-13 06:25:37 · update #1
A wedding ring!??
2006-08-13 06:22:20 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 2⤋
She's unlikely to appreciate anything that involves going out (meals, massages, facials etc) as she will just fret about the baby if she doesn't take it with her, and won't relax properly if she does. Maybe you could buy her the stuff and do it for her at home?
It is traditional to give an eternity ring on the birth of 1st baby.
If it was me, coming home to a clean house with a feshly made bed would be good. Perhaps buy her a pretty (not sexy as this is off the cards for a bit and she might feel pressurised) night dress and dressing gown so she can feel a bit glam which she might have missed during pregnancy, but not as though you are asking anything of her.
Alternatively, a DVD set of her favourite programme so she can watch it whilst feeding the baby in the middle of the night. Not a film, but something that can be watched in half an hour. Score extra points if it's not something you would watch!
Good luck with everything.
2006-08-13 07:25:22 · answer #2 · answered by Cazza 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
get her some help with the cooking, cleaning and laundry. all her energy is going towards the baby and it will make all the difference in her world.
don't buy her clothes as it will be impossible to know what size she is and if you get something that doesn't fit - you will both feel bad.
to pamper her a little, get her a gift certificate for a massage or pedicure. her body needs a little recovery time from all the stress of the pregnancy. you watch the baby for an hour or two while she gets to feel like your princess again.
the best thing you can give your partner would be lots of love, patience, compassion and care. reassure her that she is the center of your universe and that you still love and adore her. (the ups and downs the hormones can cause will be much easier for her to handle when she knows you are there and understand)
2006-08-13 06:28:02 · answer #3 · answered by annie - rainbow goddess 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Her hormones and engery my be way out of wack.Make sure you show her how much you love her. You don't necessaraly have to "buy" her something. But here are a few ideas.....Support her and remind her of how proud you are of her what she just did. Take th etime to also enjoy being a dad. You are part of this too. Take her shopping and spoil her if she is ready to leave the house. Get her a massage or a day at the spa. Also, do the cooking and cleaning without her asking for help. That way she can focus on the baby. Remember it's not what you buy it's the thought behind it that matters. This woman is very lucky to have you. Best Wishes!
2006-08-13 06:33:42 · answer #4 · answered by AB11 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Nice thought....no plans to marry the mother of your child, as I can imagine that an Engagement ring would go down well. If you are not going down that route, an eternity ring would be nice - as realistically, once there is a child involved, you are bound for life either way !
If you just want to show that you appreciate what she has gone through, maybe a few hours pampering, with you looking after the baby will be nice, or just spoil her a bit...in between the sleepless nights and dirty nappies !
The very best of luck..Daddy !!
2006-08-13 06:27:32 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
As sweet as that is, i personally think that it would be a hell of a lot better if you were to just give both her and your new child all the time and devotion that you can give especially considering how tiring giving birth is just trust me on this one honestly just do ALL that you can and give her as much rest as she could possibly have, don't take this the wrong way but the more rest she gets straight away the faster and better that she will feel sooner. Although something that you will need to remember while you are choosing the gift for your future wife is that you really need to get it so that it is from your heart and also she needs to know that it is a gift from you and not what you have been told or advised to get for her, do you know what i mean? She probably knows you very well and will most probably know the type of gift that she can expect from you when you do actually get her one, so make sure she realizes it's from your heart and not someone Else's. (When my partner buys me a gift, i always know whether he has chosen it or whether it was someone Else's idea,that is what i mean when i say from your heart and not someone Else's) Good luck with your final decision on what gift to get for her. xxxxxxx
2006-08-13 06:42:50 · answer #6 · answered by muncher 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Support her, she will still have some of the mood swings related to all the stress she has been through but relax. The best thing you can do for her is to help her with the baby and whenever you look up and she looks like she is tired, walk over, take the baby, give her a kiss, tell her you love her, and tell her to go take a break.
2006-08-13 06:38:41 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't need to by her anything babe, just be there for her and help out as much as possible, cooking and cleaning etc, and if she lets you then help out with the baby. You see if you help out with other things then she can get on with seeing to the baby without being stressed about keeping everything going like she would normally.
Believe me when I had my second I would have given anything for my man to have helped me out more, instead I carried on as normal fighting to get the housework, cooking etc done while trying to look after a new baby and her sister trying to make sure my eldest was not left out in anyway, it was mad but I think you will get the picture.
It is not all about what you give but what you can do.
Good luck with parenting
2006-08-13 08:33:45 · answer #8 · answered by ooooh look @ me, lol 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I suggest you make a big fuss of her cos us women always feel a bit vulnerable and low after giving birth.I would put balloons up with a welcome home banner outside the house and I would make sure the house is really clean and nice and warm as well.Some perfume would be a good idea or some new clothes,anything that shows her you still see her as the woman that she is and not just as a mum now.
Make her feel loved and appreciated,that would be my advice. My partner let me come home to a cold and dirty house and then had his friends round for a drink.I never really forgave him for that and we have since split.
2006-08-13 06:30:11 · answer #9 · answered by rhieanon6108 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
The best thing you can do is help with the baby and household chores as much as you can, that is the one thing that will help her to get back in to the swing of things. Don't let everything get on top of her. You can buy lovely little gifts (necklaces, bracelets) that will celebrate the beautiful little being you have brought in to the world.
2006-08-13 06:28:44 · answer #10 · answered by koolkatt 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Congratulations! Totally agree with taking time off and helping out, very much appreciated. Also getting vouchers for, or booking a total day of pampering and a nice night out is well worth it, coz after being on her own all day getting pampered, she gets the chance to show you how fab she looks as well as some quality time on your own as a couple. Which is valuable after having a child as you will soon find out!!!!!! Good luck and hope this has helped.
2006-08-13 06:39:21 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋