The psychologist said I should have primary custody and the guardian ad litem is for him. What are my chances for becoming primary custodian. I am very afraid that he may get it. He's a great talker and manipulater, I'm not. He has money, and I no longer have any. Please help........
2006-08-13 06:08:38 · 11 answers · asked by kanneb29 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
It's not about the money. If you are the better parent, in the opinion of the courts, you will get custody. But you will have to be able to prove this. You don't have to show that you can give more in a material way. Concentrate on moral upbringing, Love and fair discipline. Show that it is your intention and ability to always put your child first and get a lawyer who will help you. All you have to prove to the courts is that it is in the child's best interest to be with you. If money is a problem with a lawyer get a hold of legal aid. There are family lawyers that will represent you for little or no money depending on your circumstances.
2006-08-13 06:51:59 · answer #1 · answered by shirley_corsini 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
guardian ad litem does pull a little wait here. But judges don't like to change physical custody without a real good reason. Who is the child with now?
2006-08-13 07:06:03 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you know why they are for him? Why are you afraid? Pending on the state you live in if he has any prior arrests you should be able to get access for copies. If you've ever had to call the police on him you should be able to get records of that also. I'd find away to come up with money cause their gonna think that your unable to provide for your child. i'd also get a digital recorder don't let him know your recording or the children for that matter In my state it is legal to record without their knowing as long as it's not a criminal offense (state date and time before he shows up- record every thing, and try to get him to talk and be stupid don't say or do anything to hurt yourself though)and figure out how to transfer anything recorded to cd for the judge and keep a log...make sure its organized dates and times. If their is physical abuse or neglect (such as their always dirty) take pictures of markings beside your tv on a channel that states date and times or take your child to hospital for a doctor to see and ask a report be made. You may also have your child pulled up to the stand if possible. i don't know how involved your ad litem is but invite them to the appointments with the psychologist. Try to get as many witnesses as you can about things going on the more you have the better it looks and try to stay away from family because it's a given their gonna stand up for you (the judge knows this)...if you have enough proof he's not worth a darn or that he's not fit for parenting their not going to hand that child's custody over... they'll give visitation rights though. If it's just because you guys are angry with each other don't make those children pay for it they should not be prisoners of war. Also if the children are currently in your custody make sure they are established... such as sports and school- judges don't like to rip them out of their home if they are established and this gives them more reason not to.
2006-08-13 06:53:59 · answer #3 · answered by summera76 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Judges typically put a child in the custody of the mother. So it doesnt matter how much money your ex has, as long as the psychologist believes you to be sane and the best parent then you have a good shot at full custody or shared custody.
2006-08-13 06:28:09 · answer #4 · answered by Educated 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
firstly your psychologist isn't an attorney and if you are seeing one your husband can try and declare you are mentally incompetent depending on the circumstances. Most judges favor the mother but that is slowly changing. You need an attorney for this some will give first time free consultation you need to call and ask.
2006-08-13 06:17:27 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think because the psychologist's report said that you should have custody,you have a pretty good chance. Don't forget...The ex that to go the psychologist too. They can tell if someone is trying to manipulate them.
2006-08-13 06:31:32 · answer #6 · answered by whataboutme 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why wouldn't you try for shared parenting? If you can't work things out with the ex try to get a parenting coordinator assigned that would be less than lawyers fees for both of you. I believe that putting the kids first with healthy relationships with both parents will go allot farther than fighting over them as spoils of the marriage.
2006-08-13 07:21:33 · answer #7 · answered by chancesare45 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Usually courts favor the mother in custody cases unless there is cause to believe she is unfit. Best of luck, I hope it works out.
2006-08-13 06:18:21 · answer #8 · answered by renee1724 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is he an unfit Father does he abuse his children are they afraid of him and if so do you have proof that he is such a horrible Father Does he have the childrens best interest in mind or not?it shouldn't be to hard for you to answer this question on your own.
2006-08-13 06:15:49 · answer #9 · answered by CaliMa 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I advise you to see a counselor posthaste
2006-08-13 06:37:33 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋