I want to be cooler in High School... How?

Question

Ok I want answers to how to fit in with the right crowds. I dont want to be told, "be yourself", becasue from experience of one year in grade 9, it doesnt work. I really want to fit in with crowds like the joks or whatever. BUt for that, I need to know some things.

I need to know how to talk to people and how to react to different situations. I need to know how to dress, what clothes to wear, what shoes to wear. How should my hair look. What clubs I should join and all that stuff. What my body should be like, Adverage, Physially well, or if it matters or not. And all this.

Im trying to go for a new me this year, Im even switching schools to start over. Please give me the full details on a cool lifestyle in highschool.

Answer 1

observe the cool people, do what they do, give into peer pressure, thats what i did and im cool

Answer 2

Pick a fight with the biggest stud in school and if you win, you can say, 'There's a new sexy boy in town'. If you want to take the longer route, you already know what to do. Observe the people around you and take mental notes of how popular people react to different situations, what clothes and shoes cool people wear, etc, etc. Copy a bit here and a bit there, you may just 'fit in' and maybe get a cheerleader as a girlfriend. There's 99% chance she'll dump you for no reason after a month, so be prepared to have potential replacements.

Answer 3

Wow, i had totally different advice before I read all of this. So, I'm starting on a clean page. In 8th grade I never fit in. I had maybe 5 good friends that went to my Private school. I fit in with all of the guys but all the girls there were completely CREAPY! Starting fresh is a great idea. Personally, my style is like Skater and Surf. When I would go out and meet people from other schools I was always the one getting all the guys and everyone likeing me. So switching schools- Yah great idea. I shop at like PacSun and Wet Seal. All there stuff ROX! Get bangs, I luv mine. Also, the more involved in clubs you get, the more people you'll meet. So, stand up to my advice and go full throttle. It will definentely help!

Answer 4

Kid, I know you want to fit in, but do not become something you're not because then you'll attract people who are really not your friends. If you put out a false image, people will be "friends" with that false image, but not with the real you.

On your first day, don't be afraid to introduce yourself to other people. It's easiest to make friends when you first begin high school (i.e. within the first week or two) because there are many other kids who are in the same boat. All of them want to make friends, so put on a cheerful smile and try to meet as many people as you can. Find people who have the same interests as you. Perhaps you won't be worshipped by your fellow classmates in high school, but you will at least have people that you can consider to be real friends.

Giving up real friends just so you can be at the top of the social ladder will bring about loneliness because you'll be living in a superficial world. You'll have way better memories of high school if you made real friends instead of trying to climb the ranks of social hierarchy.

I probably doesn't seem like it now, but you'll learn right after you graduate high school that being the most popular kid in school doesn't matter anymore. No one in the real world will care if you were the jock or homecoming queen.

RECAP: As lame as this sounds, be yourself and project a positive attitude. I was a braniac in high school, which isn't what most people consider cool. However, everyone in school (3000 students) knew my name and I had tons of friends, so I was really popular. So you see, being yourself can gain you popularity.

Answer 5

Well, the first advice I can give you is try not to care too much about being cool because it will drive you crazy if you obsess too much.

The only time I was ever super cool in high school was when I created my own zine and sold them for $2 each. Everyone loved the zine, and I had a lot of people coming up to me and talking to me that I would have never talked to otherwise.

Either way, making the zine was a fun way to spend some free time, and it totally boosted my popularity level to a degree where I felt that it was merited beyond any style of clothing, hair, etc. It felt good. :)

Only thing is, you have to have like $20 to blow initially for printing, and you can easily make that up if you sell them for $2 each.

Also, you can totally ask people you already know to contribute, so that it is not 100% your work. I had a guy work on interviewing a skater and a rollerblader for my article on skaters vs. bladers, and I had a girl friend help me make the quizzes.

Instead of "be yourself", my advice is to "be confident". :)))

Good luck!!

Answer 6

I think you should rent the the movies"Never been kissed" starring Drew Barrymore and "13 Going on 30" starring Genifer Garner. I think they will give you some insights. And also, remember that the richest man on Earth is a guy by the name of Bill Gates. He was probably the nerdiest and the most un-cool guy in the nation at the time, when he was in high school. If he ever got up the nerve to ask any girls out, they probably told him no, but I bet they are sorry about it now.

Answer 7

You need to try your best to be a leader and not a follower. You should try to fit in.... Thats your problem. Do whatever you do with confidence and people will start to follow you. You wont need to fit in with the crowd. The crowd will fit in with you. Get you some air force ones, some jeans that fit, nothin too baggy or too tight (depending on your race) exercise so you dont look sick and do whatever you do to the best of your ability. For example: if your smart, be the smartest and people will come to you for answers. If you play ball well, they'll ask you to play on their team. YOU set the standard and forget about everybody who doesn't like what you do.

Answer 8

Ok, no one can give you exact answers on how to fit in. Just be reaxed, don't try to hard (or make it look that way anyways) and as for how you should look... if you are chunky just try more activity and eating less junk, and pop.... go get your hair cut and tell them you want to look cool and have something up-to-date....
wear clothes that you would buy from abercrombie or american eagle (even walmart has clothes that look like you could have gotten them at these stores) and wear shoes that match your clothes. As far as the clubs and stuff at school, try ones that will get you out in front of people or ones that will involve yourself with the people you are trying to relate to. I hope that you can add your own flavor to all of this and have fun!

Answer 9

Here's what my brother is doing, he's been getting tips from teen magazines, websites and chatboards.

He also has been watching the many promo clips for the new season of 'Laguna Beach' that's being shown on MTV. the show is about the 'Kool' crowd at a high school who wear the right clothes, talk and do the fun things.

Music videos also show what is Kool talk and dress.

Good luck!

Answer 10

sorry dude, but if u need advice on this, u just arent gonna fit in. If u take advice, u'll be a try hard and thats worst. The be urself advice works because u wont fit in with the cool kids, but u'll fit in with ur friends. Seriously, u'll find out that it doesnt matter want others think about you. Just be yourself, do what YOU like to do, dress how u like to dress. Sometimes, not giving a **** MAKES u cool. For real, son!!! **** EVERYONE!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Answer 11

well if you follow thee movies, everyones a geek or a jock, there is no in-betweens and they get the girl, lots BS for sure, but from when i was growing up and to what i have told my 3 kids and they are surviving high school is to be yourself and not to be pressured into situatations you can't handle, its ok to follow trends and fads its ok to enter dark periods in life but remember your family cause in the long run, once school is done and you are out on your own it is them you have to fall back on.
my thinking is make your own statement, you decide how you should look, dress , talk or what everr you want just get the education and keep family close