This is my husbands first girlfriend ever, first love too. God im raging inside with jealousy but i shouldn't .. When they see each other they hug and i swear sometimes i feel that he still has a thing for her. And i have wacko dreams about them too... i think my mind is playing me. But she's in the hospital about to have a baby and he's been wanting to go see her but wants me to go with him. I don't know... im jealous of course but im sure there's nothing going on between them ( I hope ) But last time they saw each other they hugged and he rested his head with hers ... like in a really loving and tender way... something he never does with me !!! HELP !!!!!!!!!!!
2006-08-13 06:03:39 · 23 answers · asked by sourgirl 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I've already met her ... when we first got together, she's married too and this is her 2nd kid... im sure she loves her husband but still there's like something between them, i told him to stop talking to her but he said he wont, they grew up together and that's the only reason he still talks to her and thats why shes the only ex he still talks to.
2006-08-13 06:09:49 · update #1
By the way her husband is away in Iraq he wont be here for the birth of this one either. He can be so nice and dumb sometimes but he never does that with me. He never hugs me or kisses me unless im pissed off. But i guess i can go visit.. he says there's nothing going on and i believe him, she's hot that's probably why im so insecure and they were messing around in highschool.. they were going to be each others firsts and i think they went out in middle school but hell she lives accross the freakin street so yall understand where im coming from??
2006-08-13 06:23:22 · update #2
Why not share your feelings with your husband? By all means go see her in the hospital bring a gift for the baby and also for her. Tell your husband you are uncomfortable with his touching her. If he loves you he will stop. Be happy he wants you to go with him I would be suspicious if he wanted to go alone. don't make trouble where there does not seem to be any.
2006-08-13 06:11:47 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think you should share some of these responses with your fiance. The man is dying, so he's no threat to you, your children or your future marriage. It would be wrong not to support your children at the funeral home, especially if they're going to be there all day. Your fiance should also be there with you to assist you in supporting your children. I would call it a HUGE red flag if the man you are intending on marrying doesn't want to assist you in that support. You should not have to beg for this...it should be automatic.
2016-03-27 00:15:01 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You probably should go. Show him, dispite your jealousy, you should support him, and on the good side you can look after him to make sure he doesn't do anything you are afraid of. Don't worry much about the affection part. They used to be together, This is a hard time for his ex. She's going to have a baby! Give her some slack, but once taht baby's born and things settle down, put your guard back up. Keep a close eye on your hubby. He sounds like he's a good boy so you can trust him, but if you want to, talk to him about your feelings. plainly saying, "Honey, I'm jealous, and I know nothing is going on between you and your ex but Its hard for me to watch both of you do stuff together that you've never done with me. You understand don't you?" that will get him to give you reasurance or to tell you a terrible truth. hope you two get along soon. Put that great faith into your relationship again. Nothing is probably going on.
2006-08-13 06:12:57 · answer #3 · answered by teardrop 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I think if all of us women were honest, we would have to admit that we would feel jealous also. You didn't tell us how they broke up and how long it was before you two got together. You simply are feeling very insecure, but you really need to sit down with hubby and ask him where he is coming from. Why does he still want to be so close with an ex? Where is the man of the child she is having? You feel insecure for a reason and you need to get to the bottom of it with him. This jealousy will eat you up and isn't good for you.
2006-08-13 06:13:14 · answer #4 · answered by Geez Louise 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Trust your instincts. He still has feelings for her. If he knows this bothers you and continues to do it - that shows he puts her feelings ahead of yours. By the way - whose baby is it? Sounds a little weird that your husband would want to be with her when she is having a baby. The only time my husband would go to the hospital to see his ex would be if she was near death. Even then he would probably take her a congratulations card! get out of this while you can or you will spend your life competing with this woman.
2006-08-13 06:11:08 · answer #5 · answered by arkiemom 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
When my husband and i had our baby,his first love from high school was the baby's nurse.He had asked her to marry him,then found out she had been dating one of his good friends behind his back,anyway,he still,in my opinion has feelings for her.It was really hard knowing she was caring for our baby in the hospital.They were so friendly with each other and i was so drained and ugly...and she was so pretty.anyway i swallowed hard and put on a pretty smile and all was fine.my wonderful husband held close to me and let me know i had his heart.
I think its ok to be friends with some exes.i meet a lot of new people this way,and i have no reason to be insecure.
2006-08-13 06:11:06 · answer #6 · answered by luvy7e 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Think about how his other friends treat you. Like you are one of the circle? That is the way she should treat you, like you are also a friend. If that is not the case, I would not really feel obligated to go see her. Its not your family or baby, and not her place to expect YOUR HUSBAND to go with her. Sorry her husband is in Iraq, and by the way, how does her husband feel about this. Just seems inappropriate.
2006-08-13 08:53:31 · answer #7 · answered by Marrs G 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Have you talked to your husband about how much this bothers you?You should,because this is going to fester and you are going to blow up at an inappropriate time,so you need to get this off your chest,your Husband may not realize how much he is hurting you by this behavior,so give him a chance to change.
2006-08-13 06:09:30 · answer #8 · answered by pycosal 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It would be great together with your husband you will visit her ;)
About the hugs tender way thingy, talk to your husband and tell him you're a bit jealous, and make a request to lessen that sweetness towards her. be open girl! he's your husband. :)
God bless.
2006-08-13 06:12:24 · answer #9 · answered by sAn 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
um...whos the father of that baby? I'd say he has no business going to visit this woman, he's married to you and needs to let go of that old relationship. If not completely let go then there is absolutely no need for that sort of affection between them
2006-08-13 06:06:46 · answer #10 · answered by scarlet_bat 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋