how do i know after gettin married that the girl i have married is a virgin how do i find out the first time or what to look out for
2006-08-13 05:45:59 · 44 answers · asked by steve 1 in Health ➔ Women's Health
it's none of your business unless you can't live with the fact that she had a life before you met her.
2006-08-13 05:49:16 · answer #1 · answered by Shaana 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My answer is pretty much the same as everyone elses;ASK HER!! Unless there is some religious reason she must be a virgin before you marry her, then it should be no big deal. You have not stated how old either of you are. If you both are older then the chances are, she's probably not. But even so, if you want to marry her, it should not matter. You both need to open the lines of communication BEFORE you marry. Oh and BTW.....are you a virgin?!?! Since you are making such a big deal of her being a virgin, then I assume you are too, unless you are a male chauvinist pig and have a double standard thing going on.
2006-08-13 05:55:54 · answer #2 · answered by Davesgirl 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ask her.
Why would you marry someone that you don't trust? Why does it matter if she is a virgin?
Furthermore, in this day and age, with marriages only lasting less than 10 years, why bother trying to find some virgin? Are YOU a virgin? How can she know if YOU are one?
Don't uphold double standards, and don't judge others. No one is perfect and there is no reason that a girl must keep her virginity while a guy is free to **** anything that moves.
Just live life, and enjoy the time you have.
2006-08-13 05:51:42 · answer #3 · answered by shawnybaby82 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You don't. There's no way to tell physically if a girl is a virgin. The people that try to tell you an intact hymen is the only proof are absolutely wrong, for a few reasons: (1) It already has at least one hole in it so things can escape, like for periods and such; (2) hymens come in several different shapes, and some are naturally stretchier than others; (3) there are many ways to penetrate or tear a hymen that don't involve intercourse. The only way you know for sure is to ask.
2006-08-13 06:04:07 · answer #4 · answered by medrecgal1973 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The first thing to ask you is 'Are you a virgin?'. If not what right have you to question your girl? Even if she's not and any sexual activity took place before you met her, that's her concern not yours. These days many people indulge in sex so I would imagine that the majority of people have tried it before they are 21 years old. Technically a girl who has not had sex would have an intact hymen, a sort of thin membrane at the top of the vagina but this could break even by riding a horse or a bicycle. If you love the girl and she loves you don't let her past worry you. I'm sure from your question that you've not let YOUR past become sufficiently known to her for it to bother her.
2006-08-13 05:53:55 · answer #5 · answered by quatt47 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Not everyone bleeds! If she doen't bleed, it doesn't mean she was not a virgin! Go and ask her, that's the best way o get to know it :-) If she is a virgin, she will be shy first time in bed, even a bit scared, and you would feel little barrier when first entering her. It might cause her a little pain, so try to be as gentle as you possibly can.
Good luck!
2006-08-13 05:50:38 · answer #6 · answered by angellilien 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How u define virginity? Someone who technically has not have sex (by definition is penetration of the sex organs) with anyone. So if a girl who knows how to mastubate, perform SM and gives ******* and others stunts expect the penetration part is considered as "virgin"? U can't really tell whether she is unless she tells u whatsmore with medical science so advanced in our age, prostitues can also be virgins everyday..
2006-08-13 05:53:30 · answer #7 · answered by azhen_msia 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she says she is a virgin be gentle the first time, she will bleed and experience pain upon penetration. She may even experience pain several more times until her body has adjusted to yours.
But the only way to know for sure is when you have sex.
Feeling with your fingers will let you know you will feel her Hyman or barrier this is to protect her from diseases until she is old enough for sexual intercourse.
2006-08-13 05:53:00 · answer #8 · answered by bonita_cooper2002 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you don't know by the time you are married, or if it really matters once you are married, then she's probably not the girl for you. What you should look for is that she (and you) has been faithful for the duration of your relationship prior to vows. Once you get have decided that you want to make her your life partner, her sexual status should not matter. Hope that helps!
2006-08-13 05:51:39 · answer #9 · answered by lovethosebosox 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you can ask her. some women will bleed during their first sexual encounter, i didnt, so thats not always the sure way to tell. if she is a virgin, you may be able to tell by her lack of experience or not knowing what to do in the bed. she may be tense, scared, hesitant. it's hard to say. your best bet is to just ask. she probably wont lie about that. that is truely a special a gift a woman can give to her husband on her wedding night that most women can't give.
2006-08-13 05:51:41 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There should be a flap covering the vaginal opening if she's a virgin. This is 95% accurate. If you already had intercourse, was there a flap that broke off the first time?
2006-08-13 05:50:40 · answer #11 · answered by BTS 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋