Ok my mom died when I was 8 I am now 14, but instead of the hurt going away it comes stronger. Why does it do this??? It seems like everything I do reminds me of my mom now, what should I do??? Like I used to love shopping but now I hate it because whenever I go it makes me remember.
If you are going to tell me that I need to talk to someone older like a friend, I have an 18 year old friend thats a girl and she is like a big sister to me but I don't want to bug her with my problems. But should I still try to talk to her???
2006-08-13 05:29:59 · 15 answers · asked by Truthordarelover 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
Please don't tell me that i need to go see a counsler or a phsycoligist or anything like that.
2006-08-13 05:47:46 · update #1
Absolutely talk to your friend. A true friend is there for you during your ups and your downs. She probably feels like there is something wrong and just doesn't know what to do for you, so if you talk to her, she may be able to at least listen and offer support. Sometimes, that is all you need. Good luck.
2006-08-13 05:33:32 · answer #1 · answered by isabellesmommy 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I lost my mom a little over a year ago. I was 25. The hurt doesn't go away. What you need to do is accept that it's going to hurt, embrace it and don't try to run from it. Remember that it's okay to be sad. If you want to talk about it, do so. Don't worry about being a bother to your friend. If she has a problem with you expressing your feelings to her then she's not a good friend anyway.
When you are sad, try to remember the things about her that made you happy. Laugh about the times you had together.
Talk to your doctor. Tell him that you've been feeling sad. Maybe some anti-depressants would be good for you. I'm not sure since you are only 14, but they've worked wonders for me!
2006-08-13 06:03:08 · answer #2 · answered by angielynn219 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are now at a crucial time in your life when you really need a mother. Our moms teach us to become women and are role models. I thinnk you should talk to your older friend about how you feel. Maybe she can offer some good advice, just listen or help to fill that empty spot in your heart. No one will ever take the place of your mom but it sure helps to have a friend to talk to. I'm sure she would be honored that you confided in her and your bond together will grow stronger.
I'm so sorry for your loss and hope all turns out good for you.
2006-08-13 05:39:39 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey this pain is never going to go away. Now that u are getting older u want her more.. Talk to your friend about it that is what friends are for. It is so hard to lose a parent. I am so sorry this has happened to u. Its ok to have these feelings it is normal. Talk to your friend and let her know how u are feeling. Trust me it is no bother to her. I am also here to talk to if u need to get anything off your chest. I too am an older sister. : ) Things will get better. I promise
2006-08-13 05:34:13 · answer #4 · answered by alwaysperfec237 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm so sorry for your loss.
I think that you should find a counsellor who is trained in bereavement advice, and talk to who ever you can.
You won't be bugging your older friend, she'll probably be honoured that you chose to confide in her.
Also, you're going through what is a very hard and emotional time to someone who hasn't encountered your type of loss, I'm talking about adolescence which creates heightened emotional states any way, so I'm not surprised that you are feeling overwhelmed by everything.
Please talk to a grief counsellor, and also, please remember to deal with whatever emotions you feel, don't lock everything up inside you because that will lead to feeling even worse.
Please open up to those around you.
You're in my prayers.
2006-08-13 05:49:39 · answer #5 · answered by ♥Pamela♥ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Bug anybody you want... Friends do not get bugged when helping another friend. I am so sorry for your loss. I am 47 and have both of my parents, but my father is dying from asbestosis disease.. I don't think the pain ever truly goes away, I wouldn't want them to go away. Maybe you should try becoming friends with those memories, the things you and your mom used to do together.. keep her alive inside you. Continue to do the things you used to do together. It is really hard for me to watch my dad slowly fade, and one day soon he will be gone. But my dad and I are very close, and we did a lot of things together, and I am glad, because when he goes, I will have many memories to keep him alive within me. I will always be sad, I know this, but I also know that when I go to a museum, that was our thing, I will bring him with me. You lost your mom at a very young age. Do not fight against those memories, try to Cherish them. And there is grief counseling available, maybe that might help you.
2006-08-13 05:41:31 · answer #6 · answered by tootsie45414 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You could be describing one of my best friends; she had the same situation, but eventually did need some counselling just to talk about her loss. There is no shame is doing that. I think the reason why you are feeling these things now is because as girls reach your age, then tend to need their mom's guidance more than ever. I'm glad that you have an older friend, but please consider the counselling scenario. Good luck to you.
2006-08-13 05:35:21 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well yeah you can sure talk to her...she is your friend. But you need some one to help you with what you are going through even after like 6 years you have lost your mom. I know its hard...but you need to forget about it. Just enjoy life and go thorugh with it. Love shopping or not...all you got to do is to enjoy yourself...your mom is in a better place. But if you need to talk to someone about it...talk. Thats all you got to do....just get it off your mind.
2006-08-13 05:35:15 · answer #8 · answered by ♥mcmanda♥ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its must be really hard dont have a mom
well ure growing and i m sure that u become sense and i think u should talk 2 ur big sister and have nice day
4 SURE UR MOTHER DONT WANT 2 SEE U CRY
2006-08-13 05:42:21 · answer #9 · answered by t-man 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was the same way, not wanting to bug anyone else with my problems, but you really need to talk to her b/c she would want you to and it will help.
2006-08-13 05:34:02 · answer #10 · answered by little mama kat 23 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋