How should I start. We have 3 children under 5 thats is why i am trying separation first. He has a temper problem with myself and the kids. And had carried on a relationship online with another women. Now he has just become a complete jerk to us. I am hoping this will be a reality check for him. If not I am hoping i will get used to living alone this way.
2006-08-13 05:24:32 · 9 answers · asked by SiberianHusky_8 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Any idea how much it will cost and what i should ask if for in support.
2006-08-13 05:28:41 · update #1
Before you start doing anything...you need to set yourself up.....plan...plan and plan.....
You have 3 children under 5....Do you work? If not....seek out and secure employment. Have your family help with day care for your children. You're going to need a JOB to support yourself and these 3 children.
Planning takes about 3-6 months. Put all your plans in motion....
#1 seek and find employment
#2 daycare options for your children
#3 save every penny you make (don't comingle $$$)
#4 open a savings or checking in your own name
#5 look for a place for you and your children to live
#6 seek out legal advice and counsel
#7 close out all joint accounts, savings, checking, credit cards etc
#8 have papers filed to divorce your husband
#9 have written in your decree, (maintenance (this used to be called alimony), child support is mandated too....27% of the spouses income is accross the board nationwife I do believe.
#10 make sure you make provisions for college, visitation, child care, medical and dental in the decree.
#11 Don't look back....BE happy with you and your decision to take care of yourself and your children.
Good luck
2006-08-17 01:07:32 · answer #1 · answered by aunt_beeaa 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you seen an attorney? You will have to file paperwork to get a legal separation. This will ensure that anything he does during the seperation you can't be held accountable for. You are looking at a long battle I'm afraid--problems like these are never easy on the spouse and esp. the kids. Seek counseling for yourself while you are in the process...it may help you get over any "humps" along the way. Good luck to you and your children.
2006-08-13 12:29:47 · answer #2 · answered by WonderTwit 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My suggestion would be consult a lawyer. Because you have children you dont want to get screwed if things progress to divorce. Plus you want to get the right course of action. You also want to make sure that by separating you are still playing within the rules of the law. Hope everything works out, if you need a friend, feel free to contact me...ggan_island@yahoo.com
2006-08-13 12:35:46 · answer #3 · answered by Gilligan W 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dear Amanda, to bad, many women are in the same situation as you. Depending on the " state " that you both live in, you will need to see what the laws are. Check with legal aid in your county for your rights. Who needs a reality check ? Good luck. Claudia
2006-08-13 12:34:15 · answer #4 · answered by crarcher63 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
U can live alone & take care of ur children let him go ull do just fine dont put ur children through him after what u have been ur to protect them get them away get a job be on ur own u can be fine
2006-08-13 12:28:22 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You'll need an attorney to file legal separation papers.... Then get the hell outa there. Life is more than taking abuse of any sort..... go for it....
2006-08-13 12:32:33 · answer #6 · answered by April 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
speak to an attorney in regard to the separation . . you will want it in writing as to what day you left, etc. so your husband can not accumulate debt in your name and leave you stuck with it . . there is no other advice than that
2006-08-13 12:29:15 · answer #7 · answered by wfgrg15001 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to get him out - andlive a seperate life, unfortunatley he nneds to see the children....try the seperate life for a few months and if it is what you need then speak to a good lawyer who will draft up a legal speration document for you...which is needed for your security and peace of mind.
2006-08-13 12:28:31 · answer #8 · answered by Pepper 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to consult a lawyer. He will set things in motion.
2006-08-13 12:27:11 · answer #9 · answered by weddrev 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋