I'm a 26 y.o. Female to Male transsexual, and lately, this whole transition process has gotten me extremely depressed. I feel as though I'm not taken seriously as a male, or even a female. Like I'm somehow not "complete", and the reality of who and what I am keeps getting thrown into my face when I attempt a real dating/social life. I feel very isolated, alone, and frustrated. I get SO tired of non-trans people telling me they "understand" or "relate"..trust me, they DON'T and they NEVER will. I've been having suicidal thoughts. Anyone have any suggestions of what I can do?
2006-08-13 05:18:07 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
I'd suggest looking for local GLBT resources in your area with Google. You aren't alone and others DO care.
2006-08-13 05:22:07 · answer #1 · answered by IndyT- For Da Ben Dan 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately, what you are going through is not easy... more than not easy, it is VERY DIFFICULT. I know this because my sister's best friend from college had his final surgery to become a female last year. (I call him a 'he' because I haven't seen him in years and that is how I remember him)
He was a mechanical engineer and was eventually fired... which didn't surprise him because he worked on a Nascar team.. go figure. I think he made the right choice by moving to a more liberal place... a city in Florida. Luckily you are in a more accepting state.
So if I were in your shoes, I would definitely get online or something to find support groups. You should not go through this alone and the thing is that you DON'T have to. Reach out to transsexual support groups. All of them have been through exactly what you are going through and I am sure would be very helpful and supportive.
2006-08-13 05:49:53 · answer #2 · answered by BeachBum 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
okay, I am not trans, but I just met a trans MtF...he is depressed as well, he says even though he is a woman, he will never be one. He was unhappy in his marriage and his marriage broke. His family rejects him now and probably will forever...He feels sorry now that he hasn't got a p-nis anymore, because he stopped liking boys and started liking girls. He said he felt he made a mistake the moment he looked down and it wasn't there anymore.
I've also known other MtF transsexuals, and I'm not saying that it's like that all the time, but the one's I've met WERE frustrated and depressed. One has even killed himself because he said it wasn't like he thought it would be.
The only advice I can give you is not to do the operation, if you didn't already do it.
You are probably going to hate me for giving you an advice, as I am not trans...well, whatever.... There's one thing you can do for me, and that is: don't, please don't tell me that you don't believe me, because these stories are true. OK, they're just examples in a multitude of possible outcomes, but they're still true.
2006-08-13 13:16:55 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
most transsexuals still don't really look like their new sex. new males look like little boys with a fuzzy face. new females look fairly homely and too big. most people are confused and too frightened to accept the change thing, at least in a sexual way. have patience - there's someone out there for you, it just might take a while. NOTHING is worth killing yourself over!!!
What's done is done - get over it and find things to enjoy. at least you can stand up to pee now !!! Practice writing your name in the snow. Enjoy farting in public. Above all -- HANG IN THERE !!!
2006-08-16 20:14:40 · answer #4 · answered by watcher 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm a fully transitioned M to F so I do know where your coming from. Most of us go through these thoughts, that all is hopeless and we're all alone with no one to turn to. I hope you have a GID therapist and a support group.
In the early stages of transition it's easy to get overwhelmed, please remember there are those of us in the community who really want to help please contact me through my 360, so we can converse in privacy.
Love,
Tammi Dee
2006-08-13 06:05:15 · answer #5 · answered by tammidee10 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you can't accept that people are having the same problems as you, somewhere in the world, you're never going to find help. I suggest changing your attitude towards it, find people like you to talk about it too.
2006-08-13 06:38:15 · answer #6 · answered by Adam G 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look like that's a good way to tell that you did the wrong thing. I am not being rude, but it may be your wake up call. Forget about what I said, don't listen to me, go to counseling and try out different counselors until the right one will listen to you and help you. What about books on the subject that you are referring to?
2006-08-13 05:56:36 · answer #7 · answered by curly98 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
im a trans in my heart but not planing to go under the knife stick withthe lesbians they seem to understand me and exept me more
i am a female to male i feel the same way
2006-08-15 04:28:45 · answer #8 · answered by crazzykid 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think the most important thing is to feel good about yourself. You can work on how you feel about yourself. You cant change what others think about you. Accept yourself and others will too. Take care and be kind to yourself!!!! Best wishes!!
2006-08-13 12:39:05 · answer #9 · answered by Michelle : 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
try www.urnotalone.com and keep the faith! stay with what u believe
2006-08-13 05:39:20 · answer #10 · answered by jason 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋