I am married. I messed around with an engaged man. He recently got married on the 5. i think im pg by him. ???

Question

my best friend is his sister. She knows everything. should i let out secrets be told or keep it a secret?

my husband is in jail and my friends brother is the only guy since!!!

also on birth control

Answer 1

Your penchant for dishonesty has caused you to cheat on your husband; (with a guy, equally dishonest, who cheated on his fiancee) now you're pregnant, and you think it's by the guy you cheated with, but you really aren't sure, are you? I recommend coming clean with your husband immediately. Further deception and lies will have disasterous consequences, in fact it's already starting to spiral out of control. Why would you tell? Because, you are going to become visibly pregnant pretty soon, and your husband will undoubtedly notice. And he'll likely be thrilled because he'll think it's his baby. But, what happens if it's not? (Before you consider never telling him, there are many scenarios that would make that information necessarily come to the surface, not the least of which is a best friend on the sidelines who already knows the truth..."She'll never tell" you might think, but your child could potentially be her niece or nephew, with broad ramifications aimed toward her brother, so maybe under normal circumstances she would keep your confidences, but where children and family are at issue, you're now playing with a more compelling set of variables. Want to gamble that she'd still choose you?) Clean up your mess, the sooner the better. One lie requires another one to cover it; it's an endless cycle. Jump off now while you can, for everyone's sake. Good luck.

Answer 2

You have three choices

1) Try to keep a lid on everything and risk complete collapse of your marriage and his if something was to get out at a later date (because in that situation you would would not have merely been unfaithful, you would have been untruthful as well.

2) Confess everything to your husband and your lover's wife. If confessions are to be made, however, then YOU must be one the one to do it - for anyone involved to hear it from anyone else would paint you in an even worse light.

3) Run away.

None of these are particularly great options, but I would imagine that the second path is the only decent one. At least that way you would have been honest and the consequences of your actions will come when you are prepared for them.

Answer 3

You and this guy need to figure out what it is you want to do. If he isn't in favor of spilling the beans, then by you going alone, you, single handedly, stand to mess up a lot of peoples lives. I want to say the moral thing to do is come clean, but in a perfect world, right? First find out for sure if your pregnant, and do the math, is this child for sure your lovers and not your husbands. Secondly, this ceased to be a secret when you informed your best friend, his sister. Can you fully trust her? She could be your down fall. Thirdly, if there is anyway, and there is, that your husband will find out from a 3rd party, YOU need to be the one to tell him. By not keeping your hormones and desires in check, you played with alot of peoples lives and emotions. And thats not fair to everyone involved, especially your unborn child. You could keep your mouth shut, stop the affair, hope the truth doesnt leak out, and pass this child off as your husbands. But think of the possibility of the truth leaking out years down the road, now you have put your child in the middle of this. But by telling the truth now or later, be prepared to live life alone and being labeled as a 'home wrecking whore'. I'm not calling you that, but your are sure to be labeled as such by your husband, family, friends, etc. Your choices have potential to make you a very lonely woman.

Answer 4

ooooh,,very bad,,unless you ever disagree with the sister your secret should be safe,,,not likely,,think ahead to any situation how it could come out,,,she doesnt agree with the way your husband treats the baby,,you need her to babysit for you and she wants to be a proper aunty,,the fact the baby doesnt look like your husbands,,what if your marriage fails and you require,,by law,child support? would you carry on the lie and make your husband pay for a child that isnt his,,,,,its your secret but you have told someone and that means the secret WILL out,,you have to tell your husband and see how he wants to deal with it,,can you imagine,,this friend goes to a family gathering,,her brother is really wanting children,,his wife is being disagreeable to the idea and she drunkedly slips it out,,,,it happens.get in there first or it wont be just you who feels the preasure,,if the brother finds out first,,the first you will know is him or his wife on your doorstep and your husband sat cuddling the baby,,very bad,,either sort it or move very far away and speak to no one you know now,the only way.sorry.

Answer 5

Well if you are married...do you love the man you married...if so then why did you mess around....if you dont then you should just let it out..i mean if you did mess around and are pg then the man you married is gonna think that the baby you are pg with is his....you should tell him...it may hurt alot but not as much as if he finds out after the baby is born...

Answer 6

What goes around comes around. Married is married and Engaged is damn close. Taboooo.
"...No man likes a SL*T for very long and only the worst kind of man will marry one..."
(Sidney Portier, in To Sir, With Love)

Answer 7

You need to determine who the father of your baby is first. If it's your husband I wouldn't say a word, and hope he never finds out about your affair. If the baby isn't your husband's then you have to come forward with the truth because the truth always comes to light anyway - better you tell it now then when this kid is just about grown up and finds out his "dad" (your husband) isn't really his dad, and that his real dad is your best friend's brother! You think it's messy now? Oh, it'll be real messy then and your child will HATE you for what you've done.

Answer 8

Tough question
If you reveal the situation, you will ruin a marriage before it begins. However, he is engaged, and has cheated already, so he will continue to do so. When the child is born, who is going to pay you child support?
What happened, has happened. I would inform him that if you are pregnant, you intend to collect child support. Let him be the bearer of bad news to the lady he wanted to marry. Then they have a decision to make, not you

Answer 9

You should be taken out and shot. You had better fess up to your husband before he finds out. He should then leave you and find someone who is not a lying cheat. When your baby is born it should run away from you too. You are destroying 2 families here just because you are a selfish immature whore.

Answer 10

Obviously you're a slut. Hope someday you get hurt too. It's called Karma. What goes around comes around. I just feel sorry for the baby. What kind of a mother would you be?