2006-08-13 04:42:45 · 17 answers · asked by cancrew77 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Other - Society & Culture
This idea today that children are SOOOO important. I have a child and I love him very much, but I don't buy into the whole idea that they should be treated as little demigods. Every child needs limits and discipline. They also need to know how to be kids that do their own thing, not have their parents cow-towing to them every second of the day.
2006-08-13 04:49:14 · answer #1 · answered by Ana 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
The fact that no one has respect for anyone anymore. Look around you and you will see this in effect. The adolescents of this time are seeing that this world is not a happy bright shiny place (as they have been told) and they feel decieved and unprepared. I think that it is a sad fate, but just because you are not being respected doesn't mean that you have to treat them with the same disrespect. That is the start of the cycle. Kids don't feel as if they have anything to gain by being respectful, because the adults around them don't gain anything by being respectful, in a purely quantitative way... you have all the world to gain by being loving and respectful, but you cannot measure that gain. It is immaterial. And in this material world we have made for ourselves, it's all about what you have, not what you have done.
As for children being disrespectful toward their parents... How can you respect those that don't respect you, if you don't realize yet that that is just what needs to be done? A child cannot understand this concept, because he or she is too young to have life experiences teach them otherwise. Some will learn, others will not, and ultimately, it is really just a test. How will you react, will you sit with the child and reason with them like they have a brain? Or will you feed them the same line as always.. respect your elders and that's all? You rarely get the results you seek by trying a one-shot fix, or by treating them as if they aren't little adults. You must speak with respect before you will get it these days. And be the change you seek to see in the world.
Blessed Be.
2006-08-13 12:20:03 · answer #2 · answered by Lauralanthalasa 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
OK, it's time for me to be the bad guy again! Taking God out of the classroom and out of our government, as well as society ostracizing parents who believe in corporal punishment as a means of disciplining their children are the largest factors contributing to the lack of respect shown by children today. Coming in at third place would have to be the lack of actual family togetherness. Parents today are too busy earning money and pursuing the "American Dream" to properly socialize their children. Most children today do not know what it is like to sit down to dinner EVERY NIGHT with the entire family.
2006-08-13 12:13:32 · answer #3 · answered by Enough 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Parental guidance when young. That is parents failed to teach their kids about respects for them and elders. This is due in great part to the parents failure to know better themslves and their greater involvement in making a living first. So when kids grow up they will not know how to show respects for others. Education about respects is lacking.
2006-08-13 11:50:22 · answer #4 · answered by SK 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Parents don't know they are the parents. For real. Parents can't spank their kids anymore. Worked for me when I was a child. I'm not saying beat your children. Parents are afraid that their kids won't love them anymore. It's stupid. Most of the parents out there today have no business being parents. On the other hand, some kids are just brats, even if parents raised them properly. It's a broad question. Depends on the circumstances.
2006-08-13 11:50:15 · answer #5 · answered by shanney fan 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This from a "much" older adult. I have heard so-o-o many times the statement "I want to give my children things that I didn't have". This is fine--but "give"?? What child today has to earn something. They are given games of all kinds to entertain themselves while both parents work. They do not have to earn anything (Such as wash dishes, mow yard, carry in wood, carry in coal, work in making hay, milking cows, helping mom on wash day.) This sounds crazy to 99% of you but it is my opinion. Also children need discipline. Most parents today do not know how to discipline or do not take the time to do so. If little "Johnny" says "no" a few times or neglects to do something, the parent will do it to save the time it takes to "make" little "Johnny" do it. It is far easier and quicker. My opinion. Thanks
2006-08-13 12:08:29 · answer #6 · answered by old_woman_84 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I hate to say it but I believe it is primarily the fault of adults. Especially adults who were not educated or knowledgeable on affective ways for discipline for their children. From generation to generation ideas on parenting changes. Lets say kids growing up in the 50s with very strict parents then vowed to be more lenient so they did that for their kids. Then their kids were bad and passed that on to their kids. Its a cycle.
2006-08-13 11:47:09 · answer #7 · answered by tustudent 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Our culture of excess has spoiled most children and our aggressive war mongering has desensitized them. Why should they respect adults whom they view as materialistic and self-centered and who look the other way when children are dying all over the world and war is waging with no end in sight?
2006-08-13 11:49:13 · answer #8 · answered by kcconklin 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Not Enough A55 Beatin Goin On For Those That Do Not
2006-08-13 15:58:52 · answer #9 · answered by "DAWG" 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Moral Values
We need to start at an early age teaching moral values.
Many parents look to schools and community events to reinforce moral values in their kids' lives, but we need to start at home....
2006-08-13 12:01:11 · answer #10 · answered by Joy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋