At times, we're doing really well, but at times, I wonder what the HECK we're doing together, and if we'll make it...
2006-08-13 04:22:45 · 6 answers · asked by valisme 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I can understand where you're coming from. We've been together for 35 years and we are totally opposite. We can't even agree on a living room set.
I think the way we've made it this long is by respecting each others opinions even if we don't agree and sometimes letting the other person win.
We both put the other one first in anything we do. If there are two items and one is better than the other, I will give him the best and he will do the same for me.
We've been through a lot together and it seems the sorse the situation, the closer we get.
Good Luck with your relationship and stick in there.
2006-08-13 04:34:30 · answer #1 · answered by nellie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
trust me i know exactly what your going through i make 4 years w/my boyfriend in november. it's like one minute we're great then in a blink of a eye something goes wrong where we're arguing. or at times we really don't see eye to eye on things. which makes it difficult. ANd many more problems. there's days that i love him unconditionally and then theres days i want to leave him. what i have to say is that it'll last if u want to make it last. from what i was told if u want to be with him then u have to work for it.remember a good relationship has communication,trust,and of course love. if u don't have any or more than one then really think about leaving him. u too aren't destined for eachother and staying together is stopping your from meeting the person you are supposed to be with. but if it is there and just having a lot of problems try and take a vacation w/out him or give eachother some space (that doesn't mean to break up). Abscence makes the heart grow fonder. it's true that's what i did and for about a month and a half and ever since then we've been more better than how we were. just really look into your heart and ask what it is that u want and go for it.
2006-08-13 04:34:45 · answer #2 · answered by Pisces chik 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wonder if it's possible to be more opposite than me and my husband (together 10 years...total opposites!).
Good advice can be found in "The Five Languages of Love", and seriously, I've read a few Dr. Phil books (ha ha!). We've also gone to counseling when we get in a rut. But here are my personal suggestions:
Accept that some days you are just going to hate eachother. Accept that you can't do anything to change the other person. Try to talk things out and reach compromises, and love eachother unconditionally. It's okay if you don't have the perfect relationship - - keeps you on your toes!
2006-08-13 04:41:08 · answer #3 · answered by jane 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Every relationship has its ups and downs. It just takes work. Be loving and understanding to one another. Communicate with each other. When you do have those downs cool off and talk about it. When you have those ups talk about that as well. If you really love this person it is worth the work. Good luck
2006-08-13 04:37:18 · answer #4 · answered by luvlisteningtomusic 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its up to both of you to maintain, communication is a good start
2006-08-13 04:24:50 · answer #5 · answered by sweetlikehoney_73 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Communication is the ONLY way to go. Without it....you have nothing anyway.
2006-08-13 04:31:42 · answer #6 · answered by C. Tahoe 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋