She is 12 and her mother just now finally told her about her period. (b/c we kept pushng her to.) We didn't want to take away her Mom's right to tell her. We had to say either you tell her or we will b/c we didn't want her to be with us on vacation or have her over our home when it happened and her not knowing what it is and freak out. Now we are having the same issue about sex. We have caught her listening outside our door while my husband I were having sex so she is obviously curious. She says she hasn't had the sex talk yet. So, should we threaten her mother again or should we just tell her this time?
2006-08-13 04:22:08 · 7 answers · asked by Dominika 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I think it was very thoughtful of you to give her birth mother the option of telling her about menstruation. I think that if her birth mother was as thoughtful, she would have used that opportunity to tell her about sex and the risks and responsibilities that go along with it. If it were me, I would tell her, and see what the birth mothers response is. Rather than add an extra step to the process by reminding her of her of things she should be well aware of, give her the chance to be pro-active regarding the responsibilities of parenthood. To me, these are things that a responsible parent shouldn't need to be given ultimatums about.
2006-08-13 04:38:02 · answer #1 · answered by sherrie_66 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If someone doesn't give her good information soon the world will do it for you, and the world is not particularly thorough or compassionate with distribution. While you guys are pondering who's right it is to tell her, she's displaying all the signs of being in an information vacuum. Time is not on your side. Preparing her is the best way to protect her. Do it.
2006-08-13 11:31:48 · answer #2 · answered by Captain S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell her, obviously she is curious and nowadays kids are having sex at her age. She needs to know. The worst thing to do is to keep kids out of the dark. Her mother is obviously embarrased enough to say anything to her, so you have to step it up. My stepmother talked to me when i got my pd at 13 at their house. Best experience ever because my mother is the shyest person ever.
2006-08-13 11:26:53 · answer #3 · answered by ash 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She should have already been told. This is the child's father. HE has the right & the responsibility to to this. And you are responsibile for this child's well-being as well.
Tell the child what goes where & why. Donot go into drastic detail. This is ALOT for a young mind to absorb.
There are two wonderful books; one for girls, one for boys. Get them BOTH. As she gets a little older it will not harm her to know how a man's body works.
"What is happneing to my body?" Explains in detail. Discusses every aspect, shows diagrams.
http://www.newmarketpress.com/category.asp?id=39
2006-08-13 11:42:51 · answer #4 · answered by weddrev 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell her because it sounds like that her mother was brought up in a family that anything that has to do with growing up and asking questions were not to be talked about.
2006-08-13 11:39:26 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Her father and you have the right to tell her if her mother won't. She has undoubtedly heard stuff at school...and if she listens at your door it's definitely time to tell her.
2006-08-13 11:28:00 · answer #6 · answered by Chris 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i believe u and yoru husband has the right i mean she is his daughter to. plus the more information that she gets then the better, instead of hearing it from one person she'll understand more maybe if the three of you all told her about it. that way if she has more questions or concerns about it then she can go to any of you guys.
2006-08-13 11:42:10 · answer #7 · answered by Pisces chik 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋