My wife and I have had so many problems for so long that I'm just beat to death emotionally. I have children and I do not want to leave them, but I feel the need to have a woman who I can trust to turn to. Sadly, that is not my wife. She gives me all the sex I could ever desire, but I need someone to talk to that I can trust. And divorce is not an option for me. I love my children too much to split up their happy home. And it is happy. I am an excellent actor.
What are your thoughts?
2006-08-13 03:57:22 · 8 answers · asked by evilposterchild 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Thank you all (5 so far) for your responses. I think the real problem is, I will never trust another woman as long as I live. I am wasting my time even dreaming of trusting again.
2006-08-13 04:20:59 · update #1
That which does not kill us makes us stronger.
The important thing is the kids get your head on straight
quit baiting on the drama queen and save it for the real issues...
2006-08-13 05:08:36 · answer #1 · answered by Red 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You have a right, both of you, to be in a marriage that is happy. Staying together for your children is a wonderful reason, but it's not the answer. I'm not sure why you are using the word "trust" with your wife......what has she done? Or is it that you dont' feel you get any feedback from her when you talk about things?
Whatever the issues, you need a therapist to help sort things out for you both. You can't really do this without a third party mediating......not in the state your in. You may find out that you can't stay married to her. I totally understand your need not to break up the family, it's good thing to want........but it's your responsibility to show your children a happy and loving relationship. It effects them whether you know it or not.
If you are stuck in the marriage, why not do everything in your power to make it comfortable? Therapy. Go find a good counselor. If you think you're too far gone, think again.......people go through hell in back and when they come out of therapy, some of them have a better relationship than they had even in the beginning.
2006-08-13 12:09:04 · answer #2 · answered by paintgirl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Will you be able to go on having an affair and come back home 'acting' out in front of your wife and children, like everything is just fine?
Your wife will feel something is going on. You guys will start fighting more and the children will suffer from this.
It looks like every other aspects of your life is just fine. Did you try to go see a marriage counsellor to help out on the communication problems?
If it does not work, your children will be better off with 2 happy parents than 2 'acting' parents.
2006-08-13 11:08:13 · answer #3 · answered by Shaana 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Marriage counseling.
It's inappropriate to have a woman on the side. Either be a man and be faithful, or grow some cojones and leave your wife.
If you won't go to marriage counseling, go solo. You are living a miserable life it seems and you need to get yourself some help. That is no way to live. As great of an actor as you may THINK you are, your kids will sense it. They're a hell of a lot smarter than you realize.
2006-08-13 11:03:04 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I totally understand where you are coming from but let me tell you, I've been there and its not worth it. Try to turn to your wife for what you need. You'll be happier in the long run. Suggest to her that maybe you "spice" things up? Good luck.
2006-08-13 11:41:22 · answer #5 · answered by ? 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Cheating on your wife is not the answer, nor will it solve your problems, it will only make them worrse. The both of you need to see a marriage counselor, & talk it out with someone impartial, Good luck! & DON"T CHEAT.
2006-08-13 11:17:09 · answer #6 · answered by yvonne p 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You could talk to women on line but.. do not meet in person. That would only cause more problems.
2006-08-13 11:13:01 · answer #7 · answered by Ibdreamin099 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
you need to sit your wife down and have a long talk to her
2006-08-13 11:11:22 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋