My boyfriend of two years is questioning his sexuality. I'm pretty understanding, and I want him to be happy, so I've opened up the relationship enough that he can see if he wants to pursue that or not. But the first person he starts talking to is hugely selfish and insisting that he leave me or make a decision or blah blah blah. He's caught in the middle, and (1) he doesn't seem very sure-footed in his handling of it all and (2) i have no idea what he's telling her that could be leading her to such a different understanding of the relationship than I have.
What should I do? What should I tell him? How in the world do I handle this???
2006-08-13 03:41:09 · 11 answers · asked by Michael C 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Easy.....you need to separate for a while and not be involved with his personal life until he makes up his mind. You go, or he goes. It might not be permanent; but for your own peace of mind, remove yourself from his daily life for a while and let him grow up. You're very understanding; but at the same time, you could be destroying yourself if you stay involved. God Bless.
2006-08-13 03:44:49 · answer #1 · answered by Sassy OLD Broad 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to all three sit down and talk. You and he have been together and she is the newcomer. I can tell you from my point of view, we women are selfish and don't like to share. She probably thinks he's never truly been gay, but it's just a phase. You need to let her know how much you love him and don't let this guy do the talking for you. It sounds like he's a little selfish to want his cake and eat it too. I'm so sorry for you. You deserve more than this. I wish I could say something to help, but it's really up to you..do you want to continue to share your lover? Who knows where this girl has been....
2006-08-13 03:47:48 · answer #2 · answered by shynomore 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well well well to start i would like to congratulate u for the bravery of handling ur man like a real woman that loves her man.
well let us say the other giirl has got guts to say that kind of nonsense. but i will blame ur man for letting her talk that way and too his inability to make a decision btw two of u show that u are on the way out of his life.
as for what u should do.....
try talking to him. bring history back to him and let him know what happened before u are in this condition. Tell him that the other girl will not be as understanding like u so let him think well before deciding what to do. as for the other girl keep ur kul head and don't even make as if u know she exist. behave as if no one can shake ur man from u...
2006-08-13 04:00:47 · answer #3 · answered by abohrandy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you either are or you arnt. ther is no deciding eg; like if you were deciding on should i go to the toilet well you just do.
It just sounds like he is being pressured or bullied at work or school. I would question this because if he is roughly 18yrs to 23yrs and every one is pushy or bullying then that brings ya down. suggest take up a martial art. if he thinks that a bloke is good looking some can be but if he is thinking I want that donut then donut it is.
2006-08-13 03:53:00 · answer #4 · answered by parra nipples belt 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Uh. . . run from this part time polesmoker as fast as you can and never look back!!! He is selfish and taking advantage of your niceness. Would he let you see other guys? This guy is messed up and needs to find himself. . . if he finds he is gay then he needs to hide in a closet as the only acceptable gayness is that between two hot chicks!
2006-08-13 03:45:13 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
ummm.....you dont mind him cheating on you ???with a girl?? then she is going to take him away from you and then your gonna be the one that is heartbroken....if he is questioning his sexuality he might be bi so just let him go, he might just want to use you for the time being...and since she is such a B i t ch you dont need that type of drama...screw it...or just take him back he's yours and you should keep it that way
2006-08-13 04:09:53 · answer #6 · answered by Sexy LoVe 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow...you must love him a lot..i dont know what advice to give you except if you really love him, fight for him..but have a little pride too...give him a time table..as for the girl, well you cant blame her...its an ego booster if she suddenly turned him straight. Just let her whine...trust me..he will run to you in no time:)
2006-08-13 03:47:53 · answer #7 · answered by wittlewabbit 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well good for him, we are all very proud that there is one less gay man on this earth
oh but to answer your question...is run away and seclude yourself from the rest of the normal straight world because you're gay an acceptable answer...TEN POINTS --- RIGHT HERE!!!
2006-08-13 03:46:22 · answer #8 · answered by mtugodfath3r 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can be there for him... however be prepared that you could very likely get hurt.
If it were me, I would go my own way until he finds himself.
2006-08-13 03:46:04 · answer #9 · answered by sahm2boys 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you are the one with the problem and it has nothing to do with sexuality
2006-08-13 03:44:50 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋