For example...I found out my cat had cancer but it had a long time to go before death but I only cried over it when I found out it was going to die...I cried for days and my cat was acting fine. Then the morning my cat was actually dead...I didn't cry at all. It was like it died in my mind before it actually happened.
Another example is like I really liked this girl and I was in a relationship with her but when I felt that she was losing intrest in me...I cried my eyes out.But we were together for a couple more months until she actually broke up with me. When she broke up with me...I didn't cry at all because...I already cried over it.
Is that weird? Is that normal?
2006-08-13 03:38:37 · 14 answers · asked by Faye 2 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
Emotions. It's okay to cry over something that hasn't happened. One of our greatest fears is fear of the unknown, or what may happen. You essentially prepared yourself mentally for both events and when they occurred, you could garner the strength to get through them. You're pretty normal.
BTW...I'm sorry for what you had to go through.
2006-08-13 03:44:47 · answer #1 · answered by PariahMaterial 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is very normal.
In the case of your cat you knew that it would die and you began to grieve immediately. When the cat actually died you had already come to terms with the loss. You may have even felt a sense of relief because the waiting was over. This happens a lot with terminally ill people or elderly people. My great grandmother hung on for years. She was very ill and we were sad about it. But it was stressful and when she finally passed we all felt relief. We knew it would happen but now it had and we could move on. Plus we knew she was no longer in pain. It was time heal because we'd already done so much grieving.
2006-08-13 03:46:57 · answer #2 · answered by Amelia 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would think you might be a little sensitive towards traumatic situations and you'd figure the worst would occur to you. You should tell yourself "OK my cat has cancer. Maybe I could find a specialist on these issues or make his last days be his happiest" or "If she loses interest in me, we probably were never meant for each other".
Somethings really do hurt, but the pain will pass and you what doesn't kill you really does make you stronger.
2006-08-13 03:47:43 · answer #3 · answered by GoateeBoy 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't find it wrong or weird at all. To me it is a normal feeling that so many of us have, and you voiced it nicely. I cry for many reasons, for it is the kindness in our hearts towards different sitations. It is not that you have "cried out" per say, when sorrow hits home. It just that you have accepted faith as it is dealt. God Bless
2006-08-13 03:48:00 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is usually the worrying that draws the tears. And then you had ample time to accept the truth, because your situations were pretty much dead end situations.
You might still feel the pain and the sorrow, but these are more of aches than nervous tensions that make you cry, especially since you are male.
2006-08-13 03:46:51 · answer #5 · answered by winnie_1423 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
no, it's not wrong. Imagine if this cat was a person. Wouldn't you have done the same if it was someone you knew very well and had feeling for?
I think that I do the same thing. I forsee what's comiing, all the possiblilties and when it happens, I've already had time to deal with it
2006-08-13 03:46:43 · answer #6 · answered by ? 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
this is completely normal
I don't know if this counts, but i have cried over things that did not happen and they only happened in my dreams.
It probably your body's way of preparing you for whats to come so you can be strong later.
2006-08-13 03:46:15 · answer #7 · answered by oh-so- Laid-back 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, I dont think its weird. I have cried before the actual crisis.
You are just getting your mourning period over before it has happened.
2006-08-13 03:46:37 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I hope its normal cause i do the same!
I get all teary over stupid thoughts i have, like my child getting sick or hurt, or my man being hurt or my kitty being hurt, or or or or oh its just too much!!
mate, there is nothing wrong with it, it just shows that you truely are a compassionate person, the world needs more like you :o)
2006-08-13 03:42:23 · answer #9 · answered by Mrs D 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if crying BEFORE something happens, then i am a weirdo....i cry in anticipation of alot of things...then when they actually occur i am pretty much cried out......sometimes i end up with ulcers thpugh...lol...my mom always told me i was a worry wart
2006-08-13 03:42:18 · answer #10 · answered by peyeratemom 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋