I've been going out with this guy for 4 years and mom suddenly disapproves. i love him a lot and we are engaged. what can i do?
2006-08-13 03:28:46 · 6 answers · asked by deedee 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
talk heart-to-heart with your mom and ask her real reasons why she does not approve of your boyfriend. and also make her understand why you should be with this guy you love. because sometimes mothers say a lot of negative things to boyfriends and most of the time the reason is because they dont really know him. if you havent introduced your boyfriend to your family yet...then introduce them and let them get to know each other. maybe then your mother will see that he is a really good person and then she'll change her mind about disagreeing.
but if at all circumstances, or even if your mom has gotten to know your boyfriend well and still she doesnt approve of his personality, then maybe she found something really wrong in his intentions about you..and this may be worth delving deeper into to find what it really is. after all...you dont want to regret all your life on why you didnt heed your mother's advice.
or .... if you really know that your boyfriend has pure and clean intentions for you and yet she still doesnt approve of him, then the problem is not with you or with your boyfriend anymore. just continue being with him and continue to do what you know is right. after all... you're the one who's going to live with him all your life--not your mom. so its still your decision to make. but never make decisions hastily..this is your entire life we're talking about. think about it a million times if you may...then decide.
2006-08-13 03:37:25 · answer #1 · answered by Jacqueline 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your mum is only thinking of you. Mums worry! They spend their whole time bringing you up and wanting the best for you.
We always seem to rebel against it though - I dont know why we do it really. Its like the more they go on the more we want ot do something, when all they are doing really is looking out for us. I suppose we try to act like an adult and get fed up with being mothered and told what to do. We dont really realize until we grow up and have kids of our own what worry mums goes through and that you will do anything for your child.
Our parents tell us not to go to certain places and be home by a certain time and all we do is argue back when all they are trying to do is protect us, shame we dont live in a safe and happy world, mums wouldnt have to worry as much then! And dads also, they remember how they were when they were younger towards girls so worry even more for their daughters.
2006-08-13 03:34:10 · answer #2 · answered by Caterina24 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to her,see what made her change her mind after 4 years,most of the time mothers do have a point!
2006-08-13 03:39:32 · answer #3 · answered by AB 4 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Decide if her reason for disapproval is valid. If not, tell her you love him and intend to marry him. Explain that you would like to have her blessing, but if not, you intend to marry him anyway.
2006-08-13 03:30:57 · answer #4 · answered by Angela 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if mom dissaproves there is a reason -- and you should ask her -after 4 years maybe she saw something he did --talk to your mom
2006-08-13 03:35:49 · answer #5 · answered by gabby 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I dont matter what she says
2006-08-13 03:36:10 · answer #6 · answered by summerlovin6584 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋