i'll try to keep it simple, he has three i have three,his three live with their mom my three with us. ok adult weekend...base ball tournament(no kids) he decides to bring his kids cause he hasnt been able to see them for longtime. says to leave my kids with family while we all go for weekend, i say no because it would hurt my children if they werent included. i get upset cause its not fair to me,my kids or baseball team to bring his kids. he needs time with his kids, i got that part but am i over reacting? i didnt go , i stayed home with my kids but very upset that i missed out on our weekend.
2006-08-13 03:27:03 · 10 answers · asked by thepainter 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
we live together and are engaged. hes not home all the time. he works on rigs for 21 days and comes home for 7 days. he likes his kids to be with us for his week off. no problem, i love his kids, but in those 7 days he tries to make time for all of us. as you see theres not a lot of time for one on one with him
2006-08-13 03:45:45 · update #1
I agree that it was wrong for him to bring his kids and not let you bring yours. My parents are divorced and my dad is remarried. His wife doesn't have any kids but she has a niece who comes over a lot. Sometimes they do stuff only with her and it does make me and my brother feel left out.
2006-08-13 03:33:40 · answer #1 · answered by kx6593 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You may have a right to be miffed. However, there are some missing details here.
Why didn't he didn't want your kids along?
Are you two married?
Are you living together or just dating?
Was this the first time his kids were meeting you? Perhaps he felt that too many people involved in this intial meeting would be overwhelming for his kids.
If you are married, then perhaps family counseling is needed.
2006-08-13 10:36:30 · answer #2 · answered by Angela 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i dont think you over reacted at all! that would have been unfair to your kids, they wouldnt have understood why you left them and went with the step dads kids and not them! Jealousy and misunderstanding was all that could have been made of the situation if you went! Kids just dont understand things like that! I think you made the right decision. Your kids need to know that you love them the most! and you did just that by staying! Good for you!
2006-08-13 10:31:33 · answer #3 · answered by keylee l 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yeah that was kind of selfish. Your kids spend time with you guys day in and day out. For once he wanted some time for you guys and his kids to do some bonding. I think something you could do to make it up to him is to plan something with his kids, you and him the next item he has time to spend with his kids. But at the same time, everyone should get together one weekend and spend time together.
2006-08-13 10:35:07 · answer #4 · answered by heavenlysagittarius 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he was wrong too...but maybe he felt that you should also bond with his kids and since your kids live with you guys, he can spend as much time with them as you like..In a blended family, in order for it to work, there should always be compromise:)....Your husband will love you more if you can have a relationship with his kids...Not take their moms place but be a friend they can run too:)
That goes for him too.
2006-08-13 10:35:07 · answer #5 · answered by wittlewabbit 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you were right -he should have never asked you to leave your kids behind- he knew you had 3 kids when he got into the relationship he should honor that now
2006-08-13 10:32:21 · answer #6 · answered by gabby 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this is diffucult due to the fact ur kids live ywith the two of you,..his kids dont but to me its not unfair it was his time to be with his kids not just always urs...ur kids are with ther both of you every day...share
2006-08-13 10:34:23 · answer #7 · answered by Sexy LoVe 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I live in the exact situation. I have three and he has one. Mine are worthless and his is gold. His kid has to be treated special because her parents are divorced................ What are my kids parents?
2006-08-13 10:42:17 · answer #8 · answered by sometimessusie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you did the right thing... i have been in an almost identical situation....if he is not going to look out for your kids too...you HAVE to .......you have to put your feelings for him aside and put your kids' first.....good job.... hopefully someday he'll realize he was wrong...
2006-08-13 10:33:17 · answer #9 · answered by peyeratemom 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he should love your kids the as his
2006-08-13 10:32:09 · answer #10 · answered by salsa 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋