Ok my mom died when I was 8 I am now 14, but instead of the hurt going away it comes stronger. Why does it do this??? It seems like everything I do reminds me of my mom now, what should I do???
If you are going to tell me that I need to talk to someone older like a friend, I have an 18 year old friend thats a girl and she is like a big sister to me but I don't want to bug her with my problems. But should I still try to talk to her???
2006-08-13 03:19:47 · 6 answers · asked by Hmmmm 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
Just for all yal's sake I am the same person as yesterday but just under a different account.
2006-08-13 03:27:23 · update #1
Oh yea I'm a girl
2006-08-13 03:36:19 · update #2
Sweetie, this kind of pain never goes away. You learn to cope but there will always be something that brings your mom to mind. You'll always miss her and there will be times that you really need her. One of my closests friends was in her 30s when she lost her mom. It has been a few years now and she still has a hard time dealing with it. It is just a loss you cannot get over. But you figure out a way to go on day to day. You're 14 and at an age when you especially need your mom. I feel for you. Yes, please talk to your friend. If she is indeed a friend then she will not mind letting you vent. You need someone who can listen and be there for you.
I'm not sure what your religious beliefs are but I believe that your mom is around you and if you pay attention you will see signs of this in your daily life. You just need to be open to it.
2006-08-13 03:26:56 · answer #1 · answered by Amelia 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Grief is a very difficult thing to deal with and that void never goes away, but you can learn to deal with it. In 1994, I lost 15 relatives. I had a bad year - I was 14. Sometimes, a professional like a psychiatrist or psychologist can help you. think of them as a friend that you can tell all your problems to and they don't mind listening! Not only that, but they help you understand the grief process and can even give you exercises to do when you are feeling lonely and desparate. They can help you learn how to cope with it better and look at things from a different point of view.
You are growing up and you will see your mother more and more. Not only in things around you, but even in yourself. It can be very difficult if you don't have someone to guide you through it These days there are also a lot of support groups that can help. A therapist can also guide you to one of these. There you will find others your age who are experiencing the same thing as you.
2006-08-13 10:35:50 · answer #2 · answered by aerowrite 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm so sorry you are feeling like this! I can only imagine what tit would feel like to loose a parent, especially my daddy!!! I'm 24 years old and am lucky enough to say i didn't lose a parent. I don't think you would be bothering your friend at all! She would be happy to be there for you I'M SURE. Talking to someone HELPS, you should never feel like you cant talk to someone! There is also professional help out there. There nothing wrong with seeing someone. It WILL HELP Ive had to see someone professionally for some other things and it help A LOT! I wish you the best of luck and im sorry for your loss.
2006-08-13 10:37:39 · answer #3 · answered by <<JerZygiRL>> 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes and it will probably hurt for the rest of your life since it seams as though u didn't know her all that well but gat out and do girly stuff or boy stuff or whatever is your style and have fun
2006-08-13 10:23:34 · answer #4 · answered by Craig B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I recommend consulting a psychiatrist.
2006-08-13 10:45:26 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
your imposter , why u did copy another girl that question was yesturday . get off
2006-08-13 10:24:30 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋