triplets!!!!!!!! IM only 18?

Question

i just found out that im having triplets.i went to the emergency room the other night for cramping and told me my hcg levels were really high turns out im having triplets.i dont know what 2 do im only 18 and i never heard of somebody my age conceiving triplets naturally my friend is 19 with twins.The doctors found them early im 5 weeks and 4 days.my boyfriend wants me 2 keep them but we start college soon. anybody have advice

im not a whore a whore is someone who sleeps around and i dont so get it right.his mother is dying and wanted a grandcanhild it just shocked us when we found out there were more than one twins dont run in either of our families money is not a factor because im pretty well off and he is loaded and we both make good money i work in a hospital and have insurence and he by himself make over 70000 a year

Answer 1

i think that you need to def have the babies....you can always use the adoption system and get parents to help...you were the one who conceived the babies whether you wantedto or not but you chose to have sex and now it is your responsibility!!!.....good luck!! you can always take online college courses as well

Answer 2

If you keep them you will probably need to postpone college for a year then you can put them in daycare so you can attend college.
Since you are young and have triplets you should be able to get some sort of financial assistance to help pay for the daycare.
If you don't have a job you better get one and work while you can also make sure your boyfriend has at least a full time job.
If you decide to put them up for adoption is also another choice you have and there are lots of people that can't have children and would love a baby but I don't know how easy it is to place triplets together?
Other option would be to abort but personally I don't believe in that unless the mothers life would be in grave danger or you happened to be a victim of rape but anyway that's a whole other topic. You can also abort one to help give the other two a better chance.
But first thing you need to do is tell your parents give it a couple days for it to sink in and everyone has time to get used to what you've just told them. Then you, your boyfriend and all the parents (his as well) need to sit down and talk about what kind of help and support they are all going to offer and go from there.
Good Luck

Answer 3

That's up to you and your boyfriend. We can't give you advice like that. I can tell you that you do have options though. Good luck with what ever you decide.

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Well, don't listen to judgmental people, they have many faults themselves, know it and have no other way to make themselves feel better. If money and insurance isn't an issue....GO FOR IT!!! You are at the perfect age, physically, to have kids. Triplets will be tough but you will have 3 children and may not want anymore. Your child rearing can be over with, early, and you can have a lot of fun when you get older. I am finding that having fun older is better then younger, you can appreciate it more. Your kids will be grown up and ready for the real world by the time you are 38 years old and be able to really take care of themselves in 13-15 years. I'm 32 and wished I had all my kids by the time I turned 30, but circumstances weren't good for that. I had one at 21 and he is wonderful! I hope to have another one next year.

Listen, sweetie, good luck with you, your boyfriends and your children's future. I know things will work out.

Answer 4

Congratulations!!!

Age doesn't really matter. You can start college this year and than you can always return after you have the babies. Maybe you and your bf can take classes at different times so that the babies won't need daycare, if not and you are financially ok, than you can put them in daycare while you go to school.

Triplets will be a challenge, but even a singleton is. Try to relax and seek some family support from your parents and his. You can manage this, just think you have 3 little ones to love and nurture for the rest of your life.

Answer 5

You said his mother was dying, did you plan this pregnancy? If so, rejoice....you are triple blessed. Don't get me wrong, it will be hard, but then again, having a single is hard at times too....I have heard from mothers of twins, that it is easier because the children always have someone to be with. If this is unplanned, you can opt for adoption. The great thing about college is you can go anytime, it isn't age restrictive. Don't listen to those IGNORANT people that call you names, you know what you are and aren't. I don't know if you are a religious person, or not, but PRAY......Heavenly Father loves you and has entrusted you to 3 of his precious children, where you go from here is up to you!!! Good luck, trust what God has put in you!!!

Answer 6

Why does everyone assume that this young lady and her partner did not use protection. Not once in her posting did she say that the sex was unprotected. Calling her names is not going to help with the situation. People must remember that you can get pregnant using any type of birth control method. Some of you need to read the post carefully before responding. Not once did she say that the children's father did not want to help or be there. Conceving more than one child at a time can happen to anyone, regardless of age. Talk to your parents and his parents and make the best decision for you.

Answer 7

If you are unable to keep them you can always put them up for adoption. You might have to put off college until theyre old enough for preschool. Or take some online classes once theyre home and squared away.

You're also going to need your family for support, so start discussing with them what help theyre able and willing to help you with.

You made them, and they had no choice in the matter, you made big grown up decisions to risk, or knowingly create babies. Thats not a bad thing, it just means that now you have to follow that adult decision with the adult solution.

I know you're 18, and it is a very daunting task to raise multipuls, but if you set your mind to it you will find a way to make it work. This is the course your life is taking, and you will be fine.

There are also support groups for moms or multipuls, theyre everywhere, and even online, so you can share support with others who have already made this journey, and they can help you in many ways.

if their father is ready and willing to help you with these little babies, then make sure he is ready to pull his weight.

You guys will be fine is you choose to be. Not everything in life has to be easy.

Answer 8

i kno how u feel... i'm 17 18 in november and i was pregnant with triplets but i miscarried one of them last wk and i still have the twins.... i was so shocked when i found out. i didn't think it would happen.

u should talk to your parents and tell them that is the most important thing. talk to your bf about your concers about being pregnant and starting college....

i'm 5 wks 5 days with twins now... it is going to be hard but with the support of your friends and family and ur bf u can come to a decision on what is best for you and your triplets.

hope everything goes well gd luck.

Answer 9

keep them a child is a blessing. and if you are well off then you can always wait until the babies get older and go to college with them in daycare. of course you want to keep them. 3 babies equal 3 pairs of little eyes looking into yours and giggleing, 3 pairs of voices that will learn to say mommy, 3 pairs of feet that will make you so joyful when they walk for the first time. 3 babies equals 3 times the joy. and more then likely you wont have any more children because of the triplets. so love them and hold them and just be a good mommy. if you want your education bad enough you will get it. hun take care and i hope you make the right choice. good luck and congrats

Answer 10

My advice to you is I think you should keep them, it seems like you got everything on point just what you would be needing. I think it is a blessing to have triplets, and it don't matter what age you are. You would need lots of support from family and friends, so good luck. Think about college after they are about 1 years old.

Answer 11

It will be fine sweetie. I have triplets and here is some advice. Get help. You will need a good support system and family and friends who are willing to help you out. My daughters are 5 now and I could not have done it without them.