tomorrow is my first day of high school and i have no classes with any of my old friends and im like so nervous i wont make new ones. how can i stop being so shy and more outgoing to get everyone to love me better and wanna hang out around me.
2006-08-13 02:04:50 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Don't!
That's right!! There is a time when being shy is good - and when you are new to a group of people, that is the time.
1st impressions are rarely accurate, and in an environment like high school where you will have daily contact, the long term impressions are much more important.
Have you ever met someone outgoing that after a bit you thought was a dork or talked to much?
The first few weeks just keep quiet and observe others - take those weeks to decide who's character and personality you might like and get along with. Then you can start developing a relationship along the lines you want to be in, not stuck with associations you would rather not have made.
Do smile at people, and be pleasant, be yourself. Relax – you don’t have to be something your not!
Now, when you have gotten to know who you would like to know and hang out with (and I would decide by who’s personality and character you like – not on who is popular).
Some tips to making (and keeping) friends:
~ Smile, even when your on the phone.
~ Use peoples first names.
~ Listen to people, there is a natural flow of conversation, people should take turns. When it is your turn you can share, discuss… if you don’t have anything to say you can ask a question or not say anything… a short pause is an acceptable way to pass the conversation back to the other person
~ Be yourself
~ Don’t pretend to know things you don’t know – learn about the things you do know or like, your hobbies or interests. As you progress through school people will value intelligence more than how you look in jeans!
~ Do what you say you will do.
~ Don’t gossip. (Don’t repeat rumors about people – it will bite you HARD)
~ Think about your actions in a longer term (Don’t drink & drive, do drugs or have sex outside of a relationship).
~ Clubs, groups, sports are good!
That should get you started!
Cheers and good luck!
2006-08-13 02:10:52 · answer #1 · answered by shredderb 3 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Not being shy is easier said than done. But you have to realize that being shy will ultimately lead to you being lonely and an outcast, at least during your time at school. Just remember that there are probably dozens of others in your class just as nervous as you are. Even the outgoing popular ones have just as many insecurities and perceived inadequacies.
If it helps remember that nothing in high school matters. As long as you graduate a few years from now it will be a distant memory. You will have a career, a family, friends, whatever you want in life. The opinions of a few kids you met in high school will be utterly irrelevant to you. So try not to be shy and intimidated by them. You have a great opportunity over the next few weeks to meet some interesting people, some of whom may become life long friends. Be yourself, and believe in yourself. Good luck!
2006-08-13 09:20:09 · answer #2 · answered by ZCT 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
You can't "make" anyone like you, but you can project more confidence. There's nothing wrong with being shy, but you will have to act a bit more social & extroverted in order to make contact with new people. Don't look at the floor while you're walking; scan the oncoming crowd, making brief eye contact with people who look friendly. Say "hi" to those sitting near you in class. Ask questions like, "Have you had this teacher before" or "Is this teacher strict," things like that. Compliment another girl on her outfit or notebook, etc. Those are easy ways to get a conversation going.
2006-08-13 09:12:27 · answer #3 · answered by Nefertiti 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
These next few years should be the best years of your life....you've got to open up. Your friends are there, you'll just have to speak your mind. You should know some of the people right? Stand up and be proud....Your a FRESHMAN !!!
2006-08-13 09:16:42 · answer #4 · answered by kornsap 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
just say hi to everyone... be open... what do you have to lose. dont be scared... thats one thing with got me through school. When you go to your locker... start a convo with the person next to you. Dont forget too... that lunch time is the best time to make friends!
2006-08-13 09:10:20 · answer #5 · answered by skeemergyrl9056 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just speak up. Keep your head up and don't let anyone push you around. It is better to go home with a beating then to have people pick on you. Remember no one likes quiet kids.
2006-08-13 09:09:26 · answer #6 · answered by T B 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
just be confident round ppl....and always get to knw ppl 1st then be m8z wiv them...
2006-08-13 10:47:55 · answer #7 · answered by gaWjus 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
be honest & be ur self!
Good luck!
=D
2006-08-13 09:08:36 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋