2006-08-13 01:45:00 · 6 answers · asked by blk man luvs pussc 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
people i am talking he was here 4 a visit he wanted to go back to his mom's house
2006-08-13 01:54:35 · update #1
u let him
2006-08-13 01:48:22 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You did not mention how old is your son. That would make a difference. If your son is younger, he is uncomfortable with you. You need to establish a relationship during your visits. Perhaps take him somewhere he would like to go, play games that he enjoys. Do some age appropriate things with your son that he enjoys. Make him feel special and that you really enjoy the time with him.
If your son is older, there are several possibilities why he would want to go back. One is that he does not want to go by your rules. He may not have the same with the mother, which if that's the case, I would continue the visit. He needs to learn that no matter what he does there will be rules. A talk with him with help on this issue.
Another is that children are great at playing mother against father so that they can get what they want, in their eyes, the best of two worlds. For whatever reason that the mother and father are not together, you still need to set "ground" rules so that neither of you are played against each other, and be sure to see them through. To manipulate parents is a great game for children. If they are mad at one parent, they want the other. If one buys better "toys", they want to be with that one. Do not let them establish this from either parent, they will become a "bounced" child.
The best thing to do is try to find the reason why your son wants to go back and see if it is a valid reason. Try to open that line of communication with him. That could be the key to your relationship with your son.
2006-08-13 09:30:38 · answer #2 · answered by Tweek 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my 2cents worth is... no matter how old your child is, as a parent we want to give then what they ask if its for the right reasons but in your case; i think right now the child senses safety security and love from his mom which is a wonderful thing but its time positive extra effort is put forth by u daddy that your son learn in his heart he can get that from u too... and please... i am in no way thinking u dont already do that, but maybe thats your son's way of telling u he needs that.
2006-08-13 09:23:40 · answer #3 · answered by wildest_rose1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
have u spent much time alone with him? do u have another partner/ are u tense or stressed out when he is around? cause if you are u need to loosen up cause he can feel it. and just talk to him and find out if there is anything you can do to help him get use to being with you. But never say or tell him he can't go home. i hope this helps
2006-08-13 09:17:45 · answer #4 · answered by doreen h 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The court always gives custody to the mother. I doubt you have a choice.
2006-08-13 08:49:41 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
anything wrong with it
2006-08-13 08:50:04 · answer #6 · answered by Dani 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋