Okay, So I know this sounds like a shallow and possibly weird question, but here are the details. My boyfriend had been hinting the past couple weeks that he wanted to ask me to marry him. The other night we started talking about it, and I told him that I was really nervous of marriage and that I wasn't ready to be asked that question. Its been a couple of days and I've had time to think about it, and really go through the emotions that I was feeling about it, and I can't think of a better person to spend the rest of my life with. I love him alot!!!! And I do want to marry him. My question is how do I let him know that I'm ready without it sounds like I'm being pushy. That's the last thing I want is him to feel like I'm forcing him into it. We've only been dating 8-9 months, and I just moved in a month ago. Now what?
2006-08-13 01:25:17 · 8 answers · asked by s_tina_1999 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Well if you guys just moved in together.. then whats the rush. Believe me.. it takes only a few minutes to get married but takes forever to get out of one. So .. just enjoy each other, learn more of each other. Make the decision later on. The subject will come up again one day.. then at that time you will be more prepared. Good Luck!!
2006-08-13 01:30:04 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Personally, I think 8-9 months is not long enough to know that you are ready to get married. Even more, I'd question the ability of the two of you to communicate if you are unable to simply tell him how you are now feeling.
That being said, ask him to marry you. No one says you have to wait for the guy....and, if what you tell us is correct, you have sorta changed the parameters by squashing his courage to up and ask you.
If you do get engaged, I would hope the two of you would go through pre-marital counseling during an engagement period - it can really help you focus on just how "ready" the two of you are for marriage. Yes, you are "in love" but are you really ready for the rigors of marriage.
2006-08-13 01:43:02 · answer #2 · answered by two 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well my sister is in a similar sichuasion
i segest u go out to dinner or something romantic and start talking about your future
say something along the lines of "ive been thinking about what you said and i really have thought about it alot and i want to spend the rest of my life with the person i love that person is u"
then look into his eyes and say i love you i really do then kiss him. well thes just me. i would take my advice. it worked for my sister i should work for you. im glad i could help out. if u ever need someone to talk to or just want some advice im open for discussion. and bye the way if u just moved in together give it some time. if it is meant to be then let it happen. but dont let fait run your life.
2006-08-13 01:54:22 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take him shopping and happen into a jewelry store and suggest looking at engagement rings.
2006-08-13 01:32:35 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
since u re with him,don't worry urself he re already married to him just wait till u both say " YES I DO"
2006-08-13 03:05:21 · answer #5 · answered by shebaby 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm divorced. I don't believe in marriage any more.
Now you know where I'm comming from...
why don't you just talk to him instead of us?
2006-08-13 01:31:21 · answer #6 · answered by DM 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wait until ur in an intimate moment then let him know
2006-08-13 01:29:21 · answer #7 · answered by NIcky b 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wait until he is ready
2006-08-16 21:00:45 · answer #8 · answered by yogesh 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋