I am in a serious problem.I am in love wid my best friend but i dont know whether he loves me or not but i cant talk to him directly coz this will destroy my friendship and i cant think about anyone else.Please help me getting out of this problem!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
2006-08-13 01:17:17 · 17 answers · asked by ishes 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
I think when there is love in the air, u can smell it. when u can't define the kind of relation i tell u forget about it. Many girls i know had loose years of their lives hoping their friends turn into lovers. but they didn't. i say if he loves u will know it. don't leave it for time. go to action if u are not sure..wish u luck.
2006-08-13 01:44:34 · answer #1 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have had this exact problem before. Firstly, It will not destroy your friendship. The best advice I can give you is tell him straight, just on your own, that is if this is going to affect how you behave around him etc. If you tell him it may affect how the friendship is for a few weeks, but after that you will be much stronger.
That is exactly what happened to me. Friends should be very honest to each other to maintain that trust that you have. It may seem awkward at first. But put yourself in his position, if he liked you, ad he didn't know about whether you liked him back would he tell you?
I hope this helps and it all works out for you. I am sure it will Good Luck!
2006-08-13 01:24:23 · answer #2 · answered by Michael 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This can happen, after all love is not something which u can on or off.
I personally would say, that u just tell him u'r true feelings. I mean u both r good friends, and if he's really a true friend then he would know that u'r just being honest and open with him. After all not everybody finds so good friends who they can fall in love with.
In addition, if he's a good friend of u'rs he will understand u'r situation and tell u honestly what he thinks but he wouldn't destroy the relationship with u.
Love anyway doesn't destroy relationships...it makes them beautiful and valuable. The relationships which get destroyed by love are not true and strong ones.
2006-08-13 02:27:43 · answer #3 · answered by aishwaryankb 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
"Ya snooze, ya lose."
"No pain, no gain."
"Nothing ventured, nothing gained."
I could go on and on, but you get the point, I hope.
First off, you are not "in love wid" your best friend. Actuallly, there is no such word as "wid" and you can't be "in love" by yourself. You have found yourself loving your best friend and now don't know what to do. Honey, if he is - indeed - your "best friend" then you could be able to talk to him!!!! If you can't talk to your best friend directly about how you are feeling and what is going on in your life, then what kind of relationship do you really have with someone who is supposed to be your best friend ?
Best friends are supposed to endure more than this....
Anyway, if all you want to do is "get out of the problem" then you have to decide what it is you want most. If you definately do not want to jeopardize this "best" friendship and feel - absolutely - that telling him how you find yourself feeling is going to do that.... AND you are willing to remain quiet about your feelings of romantic love AND be supportive of him while you watch him get romantically involved with other girls....then, by all means, keep quiet about how you feel.
Hey - I couldn't do that, but you may well be able to....
If, on the other hand, you have a great friendship (something that is a fabulous basis for a romance, by the way) and you trust him and think that a romance with him would be just about the best thing that has come around for you BOTH in awhile, then sit down and tell him how you are feeling. No one says you have to declare undying love for him and see how he reacts....you could just go to lunch and then tell him you want to talk to him about something and see what he thinks about it. Then you tell him that you value him SO MUCH as your best friend and would never want to lose that, but part of being best friends is to trust each other and you find yourself having all these romantic and loving thoughts about him.....and - gee - what does he think about all that ?
You nevah know....he might be having the same feelings. He might not. But you have given him a chance to weigh in on how you are feeling AND left the door open to talk you way - together - back to just being friends if he does not.
2006-08-13 01:28:43 · answer #4 · answered by two 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hi i am kanika . i think u should tell him that u love him see he is ur best friend if he loves u he will say yes and if no then he will understand u as he is ur best friend and best friend means someone who knows u more than u someone who understands u so just go and tell him see time dont wait for anyone so go and if u dont have the courage so write a letter i know writing a letter i a old idea but this will also work OK
2006-08-13 05:21:55 · answer #5 · answered by k_m 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
telling this very seriously. go talk to him abt your feeling. be calm and honest and tell him everything. dont tell to anyone else. not even to a common frnd. promise him that even if he does not love u you can continue with ur friendship and nothing between u would ever change. but by the way when did it all start. give time to yourself to understand your feelings well. it may not be love. sometimes we feel that we love our best friend because we are closest to them. they understand us the best. but it may not be love and u may realise it later. so first decide and then do anything. i am telling this from my personal experience. if he is your best frnd he will understand and even if he isnt in love with u nothing between u will be spoiled
bye
2006-08-14 00:18:20 · answer #6 · answered by aahna a 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
have you ever thought perhaps he feels the same way as you do, and is also afraid of mentioning it because he does not want to risk losing the friendship?
You can always make the first move by initiating a conversation in telling him how much you care for him. See where that conversation goes.....
2006-08-13 01:22:15 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are in love with your best friend, ask him. But he can also be in love with more than one. Do you mean to say , love with marriage in mind? Better ask him whether he would like to marry you.. No one in the yahoo. answer can give you a sincere reply. People will only joke with you in this site, and rightly so.
2006-08-13 01:23:21 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
These questions are not to be asked to others. Be honest to yourself and decide what is more important to you, is it your love or your friendship. Before asking him out be sure that he think same of you. you can concentrate on his every actions whether what he think of you. try to do that things which will make him feel good about you.
2006-08-13 01:25:51 · answer #9 · answered by crazychori 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yea! It's true that if he doesn't then there may be some problems between your friendship!
But you shouldn't just sit and wait, either. you may miss something that you'll never or hard find again!
So I think..you can try to give him some HINTS first!!
Give him some little hints and see if he understands!
Best wishes for ya !
=)
2006-08-13 01:24:07 · answer #10 · answered by M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋