when me and my guy had sex, smtime he come b4 i get my orgasam...smtimes i am okay wif it and somtimes i get irritated. when he look at my face he knows weather i am happy or not..so usually he will ask me am i happy, i will say yes. i feel like telling him "no i am not happy, i want more" am i being rude here..will it hurt his feelings.
2006-08-13 01:06:30 · 25 answers · asked by Violet Calla 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
If you're old enough to have sex, then you are old enough to sit down and discuss it with your partner. Start by telling him the things that you like about your times together. Ask him if there's anything he would like you to do for him or that he would like you to do differently. It may easily open up the conversation to you telling him your needs.
Personally, if I'm missing something, I'll just let my husband know outright. We both like it when we're direct about our wants and needs.
Good luck.
2006-08-13 01:10:29 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
For us Guys somtimes we need to have a liitle bit of help to get you gals feeling unbelivable.
He might just need a little guidence in the right direction to get things being a little bit more fun for all.
For most of us real men somtimes the best thing in sex is getting you guys going off and having fun, if its not a pleasure its a choor.
Take a little more control of the situation and if its not feeling good move him around and get yourself into a Position where you take control. This is what my first girlfriend did for me and the sex just got better and better. Just let him know that the way you guys are doing it isn't working for you anymore and you want to try some different things.
Good luck
2006-08-13 08:18:06 · answer #2 · answered by age 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are not doing him any favor by lying to him. He asks you because he wants to know. Be gentle with him, though. Just explain that you are not always satisfied, then, if he is receptive to the idea, be creative. There are some very amusing and romantic games for lovers. Also some very tasteful books on positions and such. Maybe even introduce toys into your foreplay. In any case, you owe it to both of your to be completely honest.
2006-08-13 08:12:37 · answer #3 · answered by Emm 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is because u have not played an active role in sex. if you feel that he is not able to get you to orgasam then you should guide him by being in control. In fact, he would enjoy more. you could do role playing even. just don;t tell him whom you are imagining
read the question about "rape foreplay"
2006-08-13 21:39:59 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am sure that if you discuss this topic at the right time.....in bed is not the right time..lol. Men like to make their women happy. Choose your words carefully. Make it about him and how much pleasure he brings to you and tell him the things that you like and how you would like more of it. It will work, guys like to be complimented on what they are doing and not criticized on what they are not doing. You could even add something to what he is already doing. Focus on the positive and then he will follow. After all, there is more satisfaction in giving than receiving, so this will make him happy too!
2006-08-13 08:15:30 · answer #5 · answered by chris' angel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It would hurt his feelings if you don't tell him and no you are not being selfish as mutual orgasm is the greatest feeling of all during sex wether it be through foreplay or the actual act of penetration.not all women can orgasm with penetration but they do from extended foreplay.So try letting him know that penetration sometimes leaves you without satisfaction and that you would enjoy more foreplay.
2006-08-13 08:11:30 · answer #6 · answered by flying_eagle_72 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if you want to continue being unsatisfied you may want to think about letting him no, he cant read your mind. Instead of telling him straight out try to be a little suttle so that you don't deflate his ego. Communication does a lot in any relationship and without it we are lost and unhappy.
2006-08-13 08:30:21 · answer #7 · answered by mermaiden_4_ever 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honesty is always the best policy! Always! Yes sometimes it may hurt feelings, but think how hurt he will be if he finds out later you were lying to him. Being lied to makes the pain and hurt seem bigger.
2006-08-13 08:10:55 · answer #8 · answered by goddessatanea 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know I'd be hurt a heck of a lot more if I found out you weren't happy with the sex and not telling me. So go ahead and tell him.
2006-08-13 08:09:12 · answer #9 · answered by pete_can_do 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No ! you don't tell, just play your part even though the show is over. Show your sex hungriness to him, maybe he is of more happy to go for second round with your type of hot respond. No harm trying my suggested method.
2006-08-13 08:51:08 · answer #10 · answered by James Louis 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋