2006-08-13 01:04:21 · 21 answers · asked by ala_chica 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Not necessarily. You are TWO people after all. You are equals, but you are not one.
You have to establish strong boundaries. Decide what can be shared, and what should be seperate. I wouldn't worry about sharing money, per se. but I would be concerned about sharing the responsibility of paying the bills and household expenses.
It depends on your intentions. If you want to share money so that you purchase household goods for everyone to utilize and enjoy, that's one thing. (You can even set up a seperate account that the both of you can contribute monthly to so that you have a budget to work with.) But if you want to share money so that you can have more of it to make purchases for yourself, than this selfish act is not going to make a positive contribution to your relationship.
Your best scenario is to sit down and discuss a budget. Who is going to pay for what, how much should be saved, how much should be budgeted for certain purposes, etc. This way you're not sharing the money, but sharing the monetary responsibilities, which is more important in the long run.
2006-08-13 01:15:31 · answer #1 · answered by Chryss 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just from my personal experience, if you live together in a relationship:
1) If you don't share everything (including money) it is going to cause problems in the relationship in the long run...
2) If you do share everything, it makes it a nightmare when you break up or separate...
So my advice is, don't live together unless you are pretty sure you want to spend the rest of your lives together... and once you do, share everything.
2006-08-13 01:08:11 · answer #2 · answered by Physh 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Heck no, an aggreed amount should go into a joint bank account every payday or monthly whichever is aggreed upon and the rest into your respective serparate accounts. You never know when you might need that money and your partner might not be around or something could happen and you might need to get away fast, having your own dough is a blessing in those situations and does not leave you as a sitting duck!
2006-08-13 01:08:25 · answer #3 · answered by X's Mommy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have been in a relationship for 5 years and my G/F would never ask me to share anything with her not the house work not money nothing but our bed and intimate times.I am a firm believer in everything is fifty fifty in a relation ship and my G/F said that it hurt her to ask me for anything so I just started giving her money helping her do the house work and in general just sharing everything so I believe that if a relationship is going to run smoothly that all things shared is a burden less to carry.
2006-08-13 01:08:05 · answer #4 · answered by flying_eagle_72 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
how do you personally feel about sharing everything? Do you feel comfortable with that? If so then it might be right... But if not then I think it is fair enough to keep some things seperate... You do after all want to feel free to a certain extent as well as joined. If you dont feel like sharing anything, then Im not sure what to suggest!
2006-08-13 01:08:24 · answer #5 · answered by i dont know 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you both have an income you should share it, to pay for your things that you have together and don't be stingie about x-tras for each other. As long as you both assume that what you buy is yours together and not mine and your's then things should work. Just don't buy thing planning on splitting them in the event of break up or it's like your saying you know it wont last.
2006-08-13 01:11:11 · answer #6 · answered by BIGRED 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes you are partners and have made a commitment of being partners,,, if you don't trust that person then you are in a wrong relationship,,,money shouldn't be an issue when it come to love or trust...
2006-08-13 01:08:04 · answer #7 · answered by punkinhead0 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Money should never be shared.... It seems all good in the beginning, but in the end the other person starts spending a whole lot more money and then you have none to spend. Trust me, i learned the hard way...
2006-08-13 01:06:15 · answer #8 · answered by Bob 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes everything is shared. The banking is done by both of us so we can budget our bills and still have money for our own personal use.
2006-08-13 01:07:03 · answer #9 · answered by scrambledmolecues 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes. But you both should set a rule to share things.
2006-08-13 01:07:39 · answer #10 · answered by Eve 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋