my mom and my dad are split up the only time i get to go to my dads is wen theres summer and saturday and sunday wen i have school my mom gets mad wen i spend time with him during the summer but i miss him alot why does she get mad?
2006-08-13 00:55:35 · 19 answers · asked by daddys_booga 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
and my mom always works and she tells me to go and then get mad
2006-08-13 01:00:20 · update #1
it has been 11 years scince my dad and my mom broke up im 13 i have talked to her but still it didt work and my mom has a boyfriend and my dad has a girlfriend
2006-08-13 01:03:42 · update #2
out of her insecurity
2006-08-13 00:57:08 · answer #1 · answered by DEAR T 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi dear!!! I can understand the kind of situation u r facing at such a tender age!! I feel sorry !! But i guess y ur mom goes mad is that the whole week she cooks for u..she takes care of u etc etc and when its time for recreation like sundays or summer u go to ur dad's place...She might be lonely and upset in the weekends..She might plan a lot for u in the weekend but then u r not there !!! U try to visit ur dad in the alternate weekends...Then even he will miss u and who knows they might patch up too!! Good luck girl!!
2006-08-13 01:21:10 · answer #2 · answered by smashbabe 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To Errr. is human. I am sure theres a lot of reason to why she is angry..have you tried asking her? If you havent tried ask her in a therapeutic way, dont ask why questions.. try something like" mom i've noticed that your getting mad when i visit dad, is there something that I'm doing wrong?" and then most importantly tell her what you feel, let her know that you miss your father a lot, ask her when shes not busy or during times which you think shes in the good mood. And lastly be emphatic, that way you will be able to feel what she feels, you mom loves you do not be afraid to ask her questions shes your mother,she will understand.
2006-08-13 01:06:50 · answer #3 · answered by Punky 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am betting that something happened in the marriage that was pretty horrible to cause the split. I am also betting that she is in a lot of pain over it. Because of the first two points I am assuming that she is starting to see you as one of her "girl friends" and not as her daughter. This means that she is using you as a sounding board for house hold decisions. She has for gotten that you are a child (Note: being a child is different than being a kid, kids become adults, but you are ALWAYS your parents child even after you have kids of your own!) of hers and of his and that as a child love both your parents, even if they do drive you crazy sometimes.
Maybe you should tell her about it, though don't sit talk about it to her, writing a letter works wonders. Maybe having your dad proofread it would help; that way he knows what is going on.
2006-08-13 01:10:37 · answer #4 · answered by Lib 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know the details and I'm sorry for what you're going through. The simple answer is insecurity. She's afraid you are going to love him more than you love her. She's probably also hurting from the divorce and at some level wants you to be just as angry at him as she is. I don't know how old you are but, pick a moment when she seems receptive and let her know you love your dad and you love her and that she's making you feel bad for wanting to see your dad, she may not realize what she's doing. I don't know if this will help but I hope it does.
2006-08-13 01:01:30 · answer #5 · answered by phets_80231 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know. i have never met my did he lives on the other side of the united states. i have a sister that has lived with him and she found me on the internet. when i got in touch with my dad for the first time my mom freaked. she seemed upset but i think it was just fear. dont take it personally like she is mad at u. she might just be scarred that maybe u will start to love him more or want to leave her for him. if u dont have ne siblings she might feel like u are all she has in the world and might be afraid of losing that. ask why it upsets her. let her know u love her but u love him to.
2006-08-18 14:12:23 · answer #6 · answered by Monkey_lover 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your mom is in all probability out procuring having a competent time. She may well be your mom, yet she is a woman too, with needs and desires of her very own. call her and ensure she's ok, yet then depart her on my own. She seems when you and your brother and your Dad all day daily. Who seems after her? whilst does she ever get time to herself? She basically desires time to respire!
2016-11-04 11:52:19 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is afraid! Afraid you might like it there better...afraid that she will lose you. Just be patient with your mother. Tell her you love her a lot. Try to be understanding. But you do need a relationship with your dad too!
2006-08-19 08:16:51 · answer #8 · answered by Anne E 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well she's ur mom so obviously she gets mad because she either thinks that he isnt a good influence, or that she wants to spend time with u.
2006-08-13 00:59:28 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She's insecred and stills loves your dad.....and i guess she's a bit afraid that you might also leave her for him. Talk to her and make her understand that you also need to see your father but that doesn't mean you love her any less and you will always be there for her.
2006-08-13 00:59:52 · answer #10 · answered by Missylicious 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like a control or a jealousy issue to me
2006-08-13 00:59:03 · answer #11 · answered by mr. Bob 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋