Is it better to marry someone from the same cultural background?

Question

I'm writing a essay on this topic, but I do not know how. Please kindly help. Please kindly give me information on the following outlines: An Introduction, Pros and Cons, A conclusion

Answer 1

Intro: mention your point of view ( if you agree with the address or not).
Body: set what convince others with your opinion.
Conclusion: confirm your idea.

Well I think yes it is better to marry someone from the same cultural background.

Answer 2

Im not sure if this is gonna help you but, i think it would be cool to marry some one with the same backround but my family isnt one culture. I also think it is great to marry some one that has a different backround then you because you can also learn more about there culture and be apart of it in some way.

Answer 3

Well, what do you think? Base your answer off of that. Then, try putting yourself in that situation mentally. You're interested in marrying someone from another culture...good things and bad things. Then someone from your own culture...good and bad....the intro needs to grab reader attention and lead into your thesis and its support, and your conclusion needs to wrap it up into a package with a neat bow to prove your point.

Sorry, can't help more than that without knowing your p.o.v. I'd go mostly with it varies by the writer's values.

Answer 4

I understand your reasoning. Here is the flaw. The reason people think it's racist is the fact you are judging scores of people as inferior for a long term relationship. You can find a person who complements your spirituality, values, and similar background but still be another race.

Answer 5

Ever seen "Fools Rush in?" I think that it can be easier the more you have in common with a person, but that shouldn't be a governing factor in who you're falling in love with. Easier? yes, Better?, not necissarily. The beauty of relationships is what you can learn from someone else, you will realize that the differences between two people can be what makes their relationship so much better than anothers.

Answer 6

It is usually better to marry in your own culture, but who can say who we fall in love with.
If two people from different cultures marry , there are some cultural differences to contend with. but usually, Love conquers all boundaries and differences.

Answer 7

it is better as you celebrate the same festivals and have same culture. you would not have to celebrate a festival you dont know. you also most likely eat the same things.

Answer 8

personally,i would prefer same culture but not the same family

Answer 9

When you marry someone i would hope that you would marry for love regardless of where they come from, when you love someone, it really doesnt matter where they come from. The colour of their skin, the religion they practice, and thier heritage are all trivialities........meaning that you love, simply because you can their are no explainations as to why, you just do, and sometimes you fall in love with the last person you would expect too, and yes this can even happen after marraige has taken place, it doesnt mean that you are cheap, or common or that you are a whore ,or anything like that, emotions are emotions because we cant control them.

When marrying within your own culture you have the advantage of being within someone who beleives in the same things you were taught, chances are, they were raised with the same religion, and you have similiar backgrounds. In some cultures arranged marraiges are the 'norm', for instance in places such as Israel, Lebanon, African Nations, Italy, India, Greece, and Russia, the bride or groom is chosen by the parents or grandparents, tribal elders, and the prospective bride/groom does not have a choice, the decision is made based soley upon, how much dowry can be brought to the family, or whether the bride will bear many children (and in some cases the bride is no more than 8 or 9 years old.), and if the groom will work hard and earn his keep, it is NEVER based on love, usually the bride and groom have to get to know each other in a period of 'adjustment', in which time they have to 'bear fruit' or become pregnant, otherwise if it doesnt happen in a period of time, in some cultures the bride can be considered as 'bad dowage',even if she is not at fault, quite often there after some quite horrific practices can take place, (this in particular happens in places within the African Nations, for more information about shaming practices, see the UNICEF website.)

In my personal opinion, you should ALWAYS marry for love, irregardless of what your culture may be, the cultural practices still in play in many nations today, are outdated and in most cases derogatory and cruel (in particular to the wife of the union.)

Here is some information from some websites regarding cultural and interacial marraiges.......

From Boloji.com....hindu website

The new generation of urban, educated and middle class Hindus in India is breaking the shackles of the caste system by marrying outside their caste and linguistic group with our without their parents' blessing. Young Hindu Canadians have gone one step further, choosing non-Hindu life partners against the wishes of their parents.

Interfaith marriages are on the rise among Hindus in Canada. According to Dr. Ravi Shrivastava, a volunteer priest at the Missassauga Arya Samaj, three out of every four wedding ceremonies he performed this year were 'mixed' marriages: young Hindus marrying mostly white Christians. Hindu-Muslim marriages, however, are still not very common.

It's been my experience that Hindu parents who oppose marriage outside the religion tend to eventually reconcile themselves, sometimes reluctantly, to their children's choices. Bitterness often melts away on the arrival of a grandchild.

When young Hindus quarrel with their parents over their choice of partner, they often misinterpret their parents' objections as bigotry or racism. I have found, however, that Hindu parents' opposition to cross-cultural marriages does not usually emanate from any dislike for other faiths or races.

Although Hindu Canadians tend to be religious moderates, they are nonetheless proud and protective of their cultural heritage and strongly desire to perpetuate it. They believe that children marrying within their own faith is the surest way to achieve their goal. Like other religious minorities, they fear that cross-cultural marriages eventually would result in the disappearance of their culture and religion in Canada. It is a question of survival, not bigotry, they argue.

Will Hinduism survive the tide of inter-religious marriages? This is a hot topic at social gatherings among Hindus.

From Srikandi.org

Srikandi is a non political and non profit organization for Indonesian women of all religions who are married or were previously married to foreigners. Its mission is to create a mutual bond between members by providing a forum for networking, support, sharing of experiences and information for self improvement, and to enhance family life. This organization is from us and for us.

Those who are familiar with the wayang from the Mahabharata epic most likely recognize the name “Srikandi.” She was a very beautiful, popular wayang character, admired for her courage and loyalty to her family and her country. Her name was chosen as the name for a new organization founded for Indonesian women in multi-national marriages, officially and legally formed on October 10, 2000.

Srikandi is an Indonesian women’s organization designed to provide a forum for networking, support, experience and information sharing for self improvement, and programs to enhance the family life of members. All Indonesian women who are married or were previously married to foreigners, regardless of their nationality, are cordially invited to join Srikandi’s membership. Srikandi’s activities revolve around focal issues that are of interest and concern to members, including legal matters and the raising of a multi-national family. Social, recreational, and spiritually uplifting activities are also planned for members. Activities are held at various venues. Members can get more information about the organization by attending Srikandi presentations and activities, or from our newsletter, Berita Srikandi.” It is the hope of Srikandi’s founders that members who need support and have inquiries regarding international, mixed marriages will receive guidance through these endeavors.

As a new organization, Srikandi is presently making long range plans. To strengthen our efforts, help is needed to spread the word about Srikandi. Although we are aware of the many challenges we are facing, we are optimistic that, with strong support from all members and the community at large, our goals will be realized. Prospective members are welcome to participate in our activities and familiarize themselves with our organization.

Srikandi was officially and legally established through the notary, Mrs. Agustina Junaedy, S.H. on 10 October 2000.


What can a member expect from Srikandi?
A member can expect friendship, support, information and creative activities from the organization. Information can be obtained through our newsletter, “ Berita Srikandi”, as well as presentations provided at our meetings. Members who need support or have enquires regarding international mixed marriages will receive assistance from this organization.

What are the activities of Srikandi?
Srikandi’s activities include a series of presentations that are of interest to our members such as legal issues or raising a multi-national family. A variety of activities encompassing religious, social, charitable and recreational themes are provided to the members. While different activities may be held at different locations, the center of activities for Srikandi is located at the International Community Activity Center (ICAC), Jl. Bonavista Raya, Lebak Bulus, Jakarta Selatan.

How is Srikandi financed?
Financial support for Srikandi comes from the members through annual membership fees. Occasionally, Srikandi also holds fund raising activities. Donations or sponsorships are greatly appreciated. These contributions will enable Srikandi to better serve its members and the community at large. All funds collected go toward activities of the organization - including charity programs.
The structure of Srikandi

The organization is governed by a Board who are elected by members for a two year period at an annual meeting. The Board, consisting of two Co-Chairman, Secretary and Treasurer are responsible for the members.

Program Coordinators take charge of each chosen program activity. Board members and Program Coordinators are volunteers who are dedicated to the success of the organization.


Why is it important to join Srikandi?
We already know that our mission is to create a mutual bond between members by providing a forum for networking, support, sharing of experiences and information for self improvement, and to enhance family life. This organization is from us and for us.
One of the problems that Indonesian women have in multi-national marriages is that they are not allowed to sponsor their husbands and children who are foreign citizens to live in Indonesia when or if they don't receive sponsorship from a company. This is because of the different rights for Indonesian men and women in the law regarding multi-national marriages, which discriminates against women. Foreign men married to Indonesian women can also not easily attain Indonesian citizenship, and children of these marriages are not automatically entitled to Indonesian citizenship. This is particularly difficult when the foreign husbands of Indonesian women don't have a job and are applying for employment, and must leave Indonesia with the children. In this case, the wife is the only one entitled to live in Indonesia.

From the perspective of the children of multi-national marriages, the law that rejects their presence unless their fathers have sponsors can be emotionally troubling. They are perceived as foreigners even though many of them are born and raised in Indonesia. Wherever they are, they feel a part of Indonesia and also have Indonesian values and traditions, even though it may not fully account for their upbringing. They have high social responsibility and are concerned about the progress and the social welfare of the Indonesian nation.

From the Indonesian state's point of view, children from these multi-national marriages can act as part of the human capital resources needed for the development of the country. They are trained to work and effectively compete with their peers from different cultural and national backgrounds. They also can speak both English and/or the other languages of their fathers as well as Indonesian. Their abilities, either in cultural understanding, creativity or skilled knowledge and financial capital, are an asset for Indonesia that can contribute greatly to facing this era of globalization.

Based on the above consideration, we, Indonesian women who are married to foreigners, want very much to receive the same treatment as well as the rights and obligation of Indonesian men married to foreign women, based on the laws and regulations regarding multi-national marriages. As citizens who love our country and care about problems faced by our needy fellow citizens, Srikandi members also wish Srikandi to be a place that can support the government in all humanitarian aspects.

If we can reach our dream, Indonesian women will be able to sponsor their husbands and children of foreign citizenship to live in Indonesia, as Indonesian men can sponsor their wives and children of foreign citizenship.

We still have a very long way to go to reach our dream. We have to work together to give our support to the efforts to reach our mutual goal. You can give your support, among other ways, by joining the Srikandi membership and becoming actively involved or simply by joining the activities, whenever and wherever possible. Because of that, please, answer the above question in your heart, and join Srikandi.


If you are interested in learning more about the legal issues of buying property in a mixed marriage ... Srikandi has compiled 1 31-page booklet entitled "Pemilikan Tanah Dalam Perkawinan Campuran di Indonesia". It is available (in Bahasa Indonesia) for Rp 50,000. Contact Srikandi for more information

From Traditionalvalues.org....christain website

Same-Sex Marriages Threaten Cultural Foundations
Summary: National Review writer Stanley Kurtz says that the battle over same-sex marriage is not simply about homosexuality but about efforts to overturn democracy.

The culture war being waged in San Francisco and Massachusetts against traditional marriage is not just about homosexuality but about the future of democracy and the will of the people, says Stanley Kurtz.

Writing in "Can't Afford to Lose," Kurtz notes that the efforts by San Francisco Mayor Gavin Newsom to overturn Proposition 22, which defines marriage as a union between a man and a woman, could ultimately lead to the U.S. Supreme Court overturning all state laws banning homosexual marriages.

The ultimate effect would be to undermine the will of the people-and the democratic process by having cultural decisions made by unelected judges.

The only solution to this dilemma, says Kurtz is passage of a federal constitutional amendment defining marriage clearly as a one-man, one-woman union. Kurtz also notes that if Republicans lose control of the presidency, the homosexual movement will become more aggressive-and we will have to endure more liberal activist judges on the federal bench.

In a previous article, Kurtz describes how our nation is drifting toward the eventual destruction of marriage altogether: "Slipping Toward Scandanavia."

Christianity Today's feature, "Why Gay Marriage Would Be Harmful?" is important reading.

San Francisco Mayor Newsom considers himself a Catholic. If so, he should adhere to the Vatican's statement against same-sex marriage published in 2003: "Consideration Regarding Proposals to Give Legal Recognition to Unions Between Homosexual Persons."

From Zawaj.com - a muslim website....

"CROSS CULTURAL MARRIAGES HAVE THE ADVANTAGE OF BRINGING MUSLIMS TOGETHER AND GETTING RID OF THE RACISM THAT OUR UNISLAMIC TRADITIONS ENCOURAGE."

"Of course, Allah created us to know each other. As long as our aims are the same, the union has to work."

"Opposites attract!! and this is true for cultures too."

"Those against intercultural marriages only promote and setup devides within the Deen."

"If you know the path of Allah and your duties you should be fine."

"Women can't live without men. Men can't live without women. Why all these disputes? Fear Allah.. have good intentions.. & you'll definitely succeed."

Your three marriages failed because you kept choosing the wrong person-not because of the cultural difference.Some women are bitches,whatever race.


A few people however, disagreed, such as the following person:


Three failed marriages - all cross cultural. I am giving up.