He works full-time and his job is very demanding. He works in consultancy. Anyway, he has planned his holiday with his best mate to visit one of their good friends in Asia. I am very happy for him as I have been to Asia myself and it's great to visit these Asian countries. However, what I can't help to be sad about that I want to ask him to spend more time together as we are in a long-distance relationship and I don't want to come across as needy and demanding? He took me to North Africa in April for a few days with his work, which was very nice but I still feel like he plans more of his free time with his friend than with me? We see each other once a month as our full-time jobs don't allow us to visit each other more often but I have got the feeling that I plan our meetings more than him and then when he tells me that he is going with his best friend on holidays, I feel unimportant. Am I wrong? How can I solve it with him without making him feel blamed?
2006-08-13 00:42:31 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I don't intend to sound mean, but you are more serious about this relationship than he is and he doesn't sound like he is all that into you. If he were, you would have been invited on the trip or he would have come to spend his holiday with you.
He has clearly shown you his priorities, and you aren't at the top of the list.
2006-08-13 03:46:04 · answer #1 · answered by BoomChikkaBoom 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Long distance relationships can be tough. I know because I was in one before and there is more pain, than joy sometimes. I would just simply lettiing him know that you hoped he would have allocated some of his vacation time with you because you miss him and just wanted to spend more time with him. You can say that without sounding needy, because its not like you asking for the whole 2 weeks of his time.
You should even suggest places in Asia he should see., that you did before and talk about how much he will enjoy the trip ... then end with something like what I said before.
Please dont stay in a long distance for more than 2 years...
Good luck.
2006-08-13 01:03:06 · answer #2 · answered by Stacy J 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to tell him how you feel, you can start out with "I'm not trying to be needy or demanding, but I really would appreciate some more time with you being that we never get to spend time together, let him take it from there, but look at it this way if you don't ever say anything is bothering you, then he'll never know anything is wrong. Don't hold your feelings inside because he can't read your mind and good luck
2006-08-13 01:11:36 · answer #3 · answered by angel 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You communicate it with him but do it in a non-accusatory or whiny manner because this might turn him off or cause him to get angry. I personally don't blame you in feeling this way but your boyfriend will never know until you let him know. Simply tell him that you'd like to spend more of your holiday time together. What you don't do is tell him to stop spending time with his friends. That would surely backfire.
2006-08-13 01:17:27 · answer #4 · answered by cheetah7 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
properly i do no longer comprehend if he'd think of you're pressuring him...the quantity of stress you are able to prepare relies upon on how long you have been together relatively! i think of you are able to have a splash bit a natter approximately him because you are able to comprehend what variety of priority you're to him. it relatively is cool that he's going to Asia and cool which you're happy for him, yet you do no longer decide for it to consistently be like that do you? If this could be a one off, cos of traveling his associates thats different, yet whilst he's often gonna be spending his unfastened time together with his associates thats no longer what you opt for for! you are able to no longer organise the subsequent weekend assembly - this supply you a concept of ways lots he needs to work out you, permit him comprehend how no longer person-friendly you artwork on the courting, and additionally supply him a wager to truly pass over you and decide for to spend time with you. stable success chick, and ensure you flow on a wicked trip your self this 3 hundred and sixty 5 days!!
2016-11-04 11:52:08 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to communicate with him exactly how that makes you feel you feel like it should be spent with you and here he goes with some one other than that's not right. When you talk to him do it in a way that he understands and not with anger or resentments!
2006-08-13 00:54:59 · answer #6 · answered by Danette 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋