I have been around my best friend for two years. She and I (I am a boy) used to do everything together. Whenever we were not in Uni we were always together. We were never practically seperated. Over the last term she has fancied this guy loads, and was falling in love with him. They were trying to spend all their time together and not telling me they were always doing this but lie. Now my best friend has broken up with her old boyfriend and they are now both seeing each other. I have gone on holiday for a while now but when I return I fear that I will have basically lost my best mate. All the stuff we used to do together will now be done by those two and I won't be able to catch her alone for a while without the guy being there. And whenever I try and tell her how I feel, she tells me that the relationship is changing and it will never go back to how it used to be. And I bascially end up arguing with her, and then the boyfriend also gets involved and thinks I am out of order.
2006-08-13 00:35:35 · 4 answers · asked by Michael 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
It also does not help that I used to have very strong feelings for this girl, not just as a best mate. And would tell this guy she is now seeing all my feelings and how I felt about this girl. And now he has just started seeing her now, with me still around. It hurts me to see them together. I feel left out, betrayed, jealous, angry and lonely. And I don't know whether I still have feelings for this girl or whether its just because we are such close best friends?
2006-08-13 03:02:32 · update #1
Dude, you just can't lose her. Believe me, when she gets over that guy, she'll always return to you for support and comfort. Coz youre her friend.
Even if she tells you that your friendship is not the same as before, it shouldnt be the sole reason why you should quit it.
You might or dont need to go wiht her whenever shes with that guy, as long as you still keep her as a friend. There are other ways to let her know you still care for her, like, call/send email,etc. right?
Unconditional friendship surpasses any physical or emotional obstacles.
2006-08-13 01:11:23 · answer #1 · answered by moe 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe it is changing. But might only be changing for the time being, as in could change back again. I guess of you really feel strongly about your friendship with her then try and tell her again, but say it in a way that is not being critical of her new relationship as such. Can you do things with them together at all? This may be a way of staying friends. If not, you could tell youself she is important to you and that even if it is a break for now, you may be able to be good friends with her in the future.
Have you got other good friends you could do these things with? Sounds as though you might be needing her more than she is needing you as such. Being a bit more dependent. I am not criticising this, as I think it is natural. I guess I would say, try and find other things to do as well.... There are def other people out there who you will be surprised about. It just always seems at the time as if there is noone else you would enjoy doing these things with as much.....
But remember, friendships often have their highs and lows and the fact you can argue I think is healthy in one sense. You will at least know that you have said how you felt, and not regreet having said nothing. That you can keep with you.
2006-08-13 07:48:36 · answer #2 · answered by i dont know 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She's not yours anymore. Get a new girl friend. That's how i see it.
Its hard to let go but then you must. She has chosen a new man and you must move on.
2006-08-13 07:46:01 · answer #3 · answered by Bachelor boy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
JUST TELL HER stop being stupid and do it quick before she gets away GOOD LUCK HOPE ALL GOES WELL
2006-08-13 07:39:23 · answer #4 · answered by William N 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋