im confused about being bi?

Question

like i told my friends and they all didnt want to be my friend except like 3 and i wish i had more open minded friends and what do i do if i have more feelings for girlz than guyz????????

Answer 1

it's their loss not urs
ur juz being true to urself. dont worry, u'll find friends who can understand u.

Answer 2

This is not complicated, and it's not a problem. Your feelings are a physical manifestation of the desires of who you really are. Your mind can be very clever at convincing you that your feelings cannot be trusted. When they agree, which is rarely, don't hesitate. When they disagree, follow your heart.
Congratulations! Your human!
As for your old friends, they are mental cases, consumed by thoughts of prejudice. Unfortunately a high percentage of the population of Earth falls into that catagory. Some other prejudicial beliefs common today regard monogamy, sodomy and criminal law. I see it daily in casual conversation, as if the unnacceptable were commonplace, and a constant state of terror and condemnation were a good thing.
And then we wonder why political terrorism is so popular?

Be as open hearted about the things you hate as you would like your friends to be about being bisexual, and perhaps you will find yourself around like hearted people. wether or not you remain friends with the same people is irrelevant to the desires of your heart. As Gandhi said "Be the person you wish to see in the world." Be that person from this moment on. Ok, I'll give you a second to mentally process that. How about ...

Now? Here and now! It's the only time that exists, has ever existed or will ever exist. There's no time like the Pre-sent moment. Pay attention.

Knock, Knock, Neo.

:)

Answer 3

Sweetheart, I don't know how old you are and this really doesn't matter, but the greatest advice that I can give you is this: don't focus on the gender of the person who you are interested in! Instead, try to look at their heart, what makes them a good human being! This is much more important than whether the person is a male or a female. If you find one good and true friend in your life, consider yourself blessed, for you have found Gold! As the others on this site have said, if those individuals who left you were truly your friends, they would have stayed by your side, regardless of your sexual orientation! Just be yourself and don't let the mores of society stiffle you! One more thing, going to any particular site on the internet is not going to help you solve your dilemma. Only you can do this! Best of luck to you!

Answer 4

I have been around the world as a Sailor USN I found that people have there own Identity and should be understood rather put in to a mold. Live your life the way it make you feel happy and free. And take it from me a real friend won't turn their back on you for whatever the reason! Keep your head up

Answer 5

Most people are lucky to have 3 friends who'll stick by you through troubling things, so don't sweat the ones who couldn't take it. But also, realize that just because you're bi doesn't mean you have to tell everyone. It's not something that everyone needs or wants to know. You don't have to like, keep it a secret or stay closeted the rest of your life, but you can be selective you who tell things to. Nobody needs to know about your sexual leanings, or your religion, or any other sticky, questionable topic, unless you really want them to, and yes, unless you trust them. Because some people are like those friends who left you - easily put off by things that offend them.

In the future, it might be wise to test the waters before sharing up such information - see what they think about bisexual or gay people before you talk to them about it. There's really no need to advertise it to the world. It'll still go on if your more casual friends don't know what you prefer, or who you're dating, or anything. And if your most trusted friends ditch you, they weren't worth having in the first place.

As for what to do if you have more feelings for girls than guys? Relax. I'm guessing you're young yet, and many of these feelings are just horomones in the first place. Many people experiment and get confused about their sexual preferences before they settle onto something. Don't worry about boxing yourself in. Don't rush into anything. Just take it one day at a time, and don't stress about it. And no - don't go telling everyone, unless you have a good idea of how they'll react. :) It's okay to have friends (and family) that know nothing of those sorts of things.

Answer 6

Sweetie just be yourself. I you do not like guys in a romantic way at all that is okay. I like men for relationships, but I would be your friend no matter what you liked romatically if we had things in common and you were a nice person which I suspect you are. Perhaps you need to figure out how to find more accepting people in your community and if you cannot you might need to more. Accepting people usually are around colleges. Try to look around there. I am sure you can find some. You can find both males and females who love you for who you are as a person and would love to have you as a friend. Be friends with people who accept you. I am sure you are great. Just be yourself and be with who you are attracted to. My mother is gay. I just want her to be happy. That is all.

Answer 7

It's thoose who has not the knowledge to understand, how certain girls identify there sexuality as being " bi ". And in this world it is so easy for them to accept " bi " for there preference in pleasure. In the development of a man's behavior and with the understanding in countless possibilties, inwhich he can not perform sex to satisfy the wants and needs of a woman. It creates the possibilies for a percent of women never experiencing sexual activity from a man ,as to say, knows how to make her a complete woman. Women do not have to label or discuss there sexual behavior. They enjoy the good and specal times in thier lives.

Answer 8

Be very careful about coming out, especially if you're still in high school. Lots of girls (even the ones who don't think they are attractive) believe that any gay or bi girl just wants to get with them, in my experience.

No, I don't know why.

But it's incredibly frustrating; I had some quite unattractive friends who were scared to let me touch them -- I was quite insulted by this :)

So when you're not around anyone with whom you want to pursue a sexual relationship, don't push your sexuality on them, or they'll think you want to be sexual. As long as you're not being a fool, or overly proud, your friends should get used to the idea that you are still their friend regardless of your sexual orientation.

Answer 9

There are two ways to look at this........you can say this is a major sin an you run the risk of rejection from a fair proportion of society. Or you can say to hell with everyone and all their man made morality and I willjust follow what I feel is correct for me ...period.

Answer 10

The best thing to do is get one of your open minded friends, being that it's a girl of course, then bang her and see what happens.
You can't question your sexuality then, and it'll surely reveal such.

Answer 11

Nothing is wrong with being Bi.If your friends cant accept you for who you are,then they dont deserve to be your friends.Its ok for girls to want other girls too.There are lots of Lesbian women out there,and many opportunities will present themselves.Just make sure you send the right signals.