Compare and contrast love and hate at the interpersonal level, not the group level. I'm referring to one persons love for or hatred of another person.
How do you recognise love or hate toward you?
How do you recognise love or hate from yourself?
Is it possibel for an individual to feel both love and hate for the same person? Why or why not?
2006-08-12 23:34:55 · 26 answers · asked by Anonymous in Arts & Humanities ➔ Philosophy
San S
Yes, our feelings are complex. Yes, the same person that loves can also hate.
How do you recognise hatred, at the interpersonal level, when there is no violence or death?
If you hate your reflection, would you kill it?
2006-08-13 11:19:14 · update #1
Dragon Han
How do you recognising your love for hatred, your hatred for love, and the difference between them from this minute to the next?
2006-08-13 11:20:09 · update #2
Excel
Will you give me some personal examples of your feelings destinguishing between love and hate? What does each feel like. Use metaphors if necessary.
2006-08-13 11:21:17 · update #3
shardf
How is it possible for God to take away hate when God feels hate just as humans do? God hates gossips, backstabbers, liars, etc. If God can take away human hate for certain humans, who takes away Godly hate for certain humans?
2006-08-13 11:23:20 · update #4
Pathfinder
Being diametrically opposite doesn't describe how each feels. Will you describe how you've felt hate and love, be it for the same person at different times or for different people at any time?
2006-08-13 11:24:34 · update #5
I think... when I'm loved, the way I know is there's this... personal, warm feeling of lightheadedness... and an inner warmth curling deep down in my heart. It's odd, to say that, because logically, your feelings come from your brain and not your physical heart, but... it's almost as if your heart throbs harder when it's warmed. But if you meant outer signs of being loved... I can tell when someone loves me when they show they care in the littlest things they do. Things they don't even realize they're doing, but are doing it anyway subconsciously because they care deep down, and that it's so pure that thoughts don't adulterate the actions. Something like bringing a cup of water in when I'm thirsty, or bringing a cool towel when I'm feeling feverish and the like. Nothing too big... well that's always been my outlook anyway. Sometimes, the smallest things, the littlest actions mean the most-- more than rings and gifts, more than kisses and cuddles... it just shows that the person cares for you when they don't think about what they do, but are unknowingly showing that they care. Like when you have ice cream on your nose, and they lean over to wipe it off, without saying anything or even looking up, just as if it was natural.
Ah, hate is easier to recognise. It's when you see that person repeatedly trying to demean you, degrade you, disrespect you. When all you can do is hold in the angry tears, waiting to plan out some revenge that you might not ever get to carry out, just to spite them by "being the bigger person." When they bully you to the point where... you can't even stand the thought of him. When looking at him makes you want to roll your eyes-- hearing his name makes you want to scribble angrily on scrap paper, poke holes into styrofoam in cold fury. When you feel all this anger for someone, you know they must hate you that much to make you feel that way about them. When they ridicule you, and oppress you. It's so... frustrating and results in a headache.
When I love someone, I think I'd know by the way I can never seem to look in his eyes. When I fancy someone like mad, I just can hardly talk to them directly, instead looking away. It's odd because I become uncomfortable around people I fancy, and instead start... blushing a lot. and looking at anything but them. I don't know... hmm.
When I hate someone, I avoid them. I don't talk to them at all, and utlimately, forget about them. It's happened before, actually. It's a bit disconcerting how well I can manipulate my memory to be able to forget even the names of some of the people I've come to hate over the years. I don't believe in bugging someone that you sincerely dislike-- it shows that you give a sht about them. If I really dislike someone, I just situate myself as far away from them as possible, hoping to forget and never run into them again.
Hm, it is possible to feel both love and hate for the same person because... people often claim that the line between love and hate is quite fine. Sometimes, I love and hate some of my closest friends... I love them to bits and care about them so much... but I hate some of their ideals. Sometimes, we have such a different idea of different politcal and social ideals, that I feel so angry, such a great hatred for my friends that I love so dearly. It's as if... I care for the person and their soul, but sometimes our conflicting opinions makes me hate them for not understanding.
Hm. but those are just my opinions. A bit rambly... but it's a bit late (nearly 5 am) so I'll try to edit this later today. Hope this answer was adequate though.
2006-08-19 00:35:42 · answer #1 · answered by Zyxxin 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
The word love is used for different meanings. Affection can come and go within minutes. The ultimate love does good to the soul of the person loved. The ultimate hate does evil to the soul of the person hated. Two people can be in a relationship whereby they affirm one anothers feelings with sexual pleasure and call it love yet at the same time they are harming each other's souls. One can tell between love and hate by whether good or harm is being done. This can be difficult to determine.
2006-08-20 10:31:48 · answer #2 · answered by taxigringo 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
How do you recognise love or hate toward you?
How do you recognise love or hate from yourself?
Is it possibel for an individual to feel both love and hate for the same person? Why or why not?
I feel that one can only hate those they once or maybe still do love. People you don't care about or dislike a lot, you would not invest a lot of energy into. Believe me, both love and hate require energy and work. I believe one can only truly hate another who they feel has totally betrayed them in the most unthinkable way.
2006-08-20 09:25:41 · answer #3 · answered by chriscornelluv@sbcglobal.net 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
The question has become entirely too complex to get any firm grip on whatever prompted you to ask.
Love and hate follow a generally equal, but often experienced level of 'extremes' available from both people involved in personal relationships. Hate CAN be just as strong, if not stronger than love in any shared relationship. Mental perceptions, and emotions follow levels of love 'lost' into levels of hatred personally available from ANY other experienced feelings of hatred. Kind of like a bad childhood with experienced levels of love and hatred should always be recognized as relavent in future relationships. Basic character developed very young affects both ability and disability to love, or hate.
Depending on the situation, love follows the lines of shared benefits, while hate distinguishes perceived 'damage' done.
For instance ~ A child that hated a parent for something done to the other parent would be affected by a spouse doing basically the same thing, and the level of hatred, or love developed in the past enters into the personal relationship with references of experience.
This could help ~ my love for my spouse may overcome a situation of hate/anger/get out of here ~ LATER ~ but right now ~ NOT! Also, I hate you right now, but yesterday I didn't, and my love for you tomorrow depends on how right now works out.
It can end with love appreciated, or not, and hatred realized that needs to be avoided. That does not mean the love will EVER go away, it just means the hatred was involved in the battle. Love generally is forever, and hatred depends on the future abilities, or inabilities to resolve the issue.
2006-08-19 04:24:59 · answer #4 · answered by friojc 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
This is a good question. Love and hate are one of the Ten Worlds that the human mind goes thru at a given point of time. These are hell, hunger, animality, rapture, anger and culminates in the state of Buddhahood (or the purest form as interpreted in one of the doctrines of Buddhism). Even if one does not take this argument, in pure and simple terms these terms are different states of the human mind. The action taken against me may reflect the hatred or love of the person taking that action against me. Similarly the human stimuli or responses to such action and i may act accordingly. It is only purely human to act in such a manner. Yes it is possible for us to feel both love and hate for the same person but only when we have different situations to judge the same person and arriving at a conclusion which we can easily categorise as the ones that deserve our love or hatred.
2006-08-19 01:31:53 · answer #5 · answered by easyboy 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
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ur beging could go lik this many things have been written about love and hate. love, a strong positive pasion for someone. hate, a negitve way of being. both have their pros and cons, both their dislikes and likes. i dont know something lik that. ur point or thesis could be that love and hate are to oppisites and can not b compared. there r no simmilarities except that every persons feels love and hate sometime in their life. just some ideas. good luck
2016-04-08 23:58:38 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hate is accompanied by anger, in my experience. But I realized that I was spending as much time (or more) thinking about the person I hated as the people I loved, so I just quit focusing on them. I still allow myself the anger and I express it, but I don't waste time plotting revenge - that seems to take care of itself somehow. When someone hates me, I just put up a wall around myself, mentally, and bounce their negativity right back at them. I think you could love someone and hate what they do. That is sometimes confusing. Praying helps.
2006-08-20 10:28:10 · answer #7 · answered by R. F 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It is very true that they say that there is a thin line between love and hate. they aren't opposites. the opposite of love/ hate is indifference. Love and hate are two emotions that require intense concentration, obsession and effort. To let the person that you loved or hated know that you felt such a way for them would require much effort.
It is very possible to love and hate someone at the same time. I think that there are people out there who afraid to love someone or show their love for someone so they show how much they dislike them or hate them. It all goes back to grade school when the boy would pull the hair of the girl that he fancied. It may be easier to show hatred than love because admitting one's love opens the door for vulnerability. Chosing to hate someone or pretend to hate someone shows a bit more strength (superficial strength). No one wants to be vulnerable so they would much rather feel stronger with hatred.
2006-08-19 18:38:13 · answer #8 · answered by Regine R 2 · 3⤊ 1⤋
You know, I think it is possible in some sick cases to actually love and hate someone, but I do not believe it is a true feeling. You have to examine yourself and ask yourself, why, do you love someone that you hate. It is just a sickness that you have to be strong enough to get over. You think you need that person, and it is like a curse. You have to pray with all your heart that God will take this feeling away. Many times this person is not good for you, and you have to say to yourself that you are a good person, a person of God, that He loved you so much that He came to earth and gave himself to die for us. You have to get out of yourself and into something that is bigger than yourself. Recognize if you can, the goodness in people, also say, that you are your best friend, and you are going to take good care of that person and not let them get hurt. Say over and over that you are a good person. I think that there are some people that maybe you see the evil in their eyes, and you either do not want to be around them, and yes, actually hate them. I always give people the benefit of the doubt, but if my gut feeling is to stay away, I will stay away. I do not know if I answered your questions, but without God in your heart, you can be easily mis-lead, and even take chances that are very dangerous. Pray that God will put peace in your heart, and be cautious if your innner self tells you that this is a person to stay away from. I pray that the angels will protect you, and do listen to the inner voice, it is usually right on. Good luck.
2006-08-13 00:21:12 · answer #9 · answered by shardf 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Remember the song, "It's a thin line between love and hate". Sometimes we love so much that we turn to hatred of the same beloved due to various reasons. We also hate others because they trespass against us in some form or another. Even God hates, and He is defined as "Love". Yes. You can hate yourself to the point of suicide, but I often wonder; Is it themselves they want to kill, or just the pain inside that haunts them?
2006-08-19 18:29:09 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
love and Hate are relative, and can appear in different manner, but let me ask you first what is love? and who is a lover? is mothers love to her child different then love of a tow individuals from different sex?
and if so, which one is stronger and Hate, don't we Hate sometimes the picture of our selves, the must Philosophical thinker would argue that the one how can love stronger can hate at the same way, but i believe such a love who can be turned into a Hate is not love of the others it is love of ones self. and now I come the question who is capable of loving ,and the study shows that in louts of cases some could blooded killer of some are sometimes a very loving and caring people towards others? if they kill repeatedly , must be some Hate in them but to love some others and care for them isn't that a contrast of very different and totally opposite and passionate feeling ? aren't our fillings more complexer them we realize.
2006-08-13 00:49:30 · answer #11 · answered by san s 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋