I just found out tonight that a good friend of mine has testicular cancer. He is kinda one of those tough guys that never lets things bother him but I know this does. He won't allow treatment and I'm worried about losing a friend, how do I help him?
2006-08-12 22:04:29 · 13 answers · asked by Jeremiah J 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Oh and no this is not a joke, please be serious this is very important to me.
2006-08-12 22:05:42 · update #1
I think the best thing you can do it is be there for him. You can't force or really even talk a grown person into something if they say they wont do it. Just be the best friend that you can and if he ends up asking your opinion about the treatment thing, tell him that you strongly encourage it.
2006-08-12 22:08:59 · answer #1 · answered by sarah_lynn 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe do some research on testicular cancer and find out statistics and then sit down and have a talk with him. Information is your best aid in dealing with an illness. Then explain to him that you are there for him and want him around for a long time and to please seek help. Tell him that you will be there every step of the way. Just remember that it is ultimately his decision and try not to push anything on him. Facing these kinds of things brings on so many different emotions that the person needs to just step back and clear their thoughts before making a decision. Your friend must be scared to death and probably a little in shock and will need some time before it all sinks in. Just be there for him and surround him with a positive attitude and laughter. These are the best things you can do when you don't know what to do. Good luck.
2006-08-13 05:18:30 · answer #2 · answered by LISA F 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Im really sorry to hear that. Its hard, but i think the only thing you can really do is just be there for him. I would maybe take him aside and have a serious talk about his reasons for declining treatment. Perhaps hes made a rash decision about it because hes in shock from the diagnosis and is scared? But just be there for him, and let him know that you are. Ive lost a good friend myself, and its really hard (not through cancer, but a motorbike accident). You can IM me is you ever need to chat - it helps to talk about things
2006-08-13 06:34:28 · answer #3 · answered by kjay 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is a good chance of survival with early treatment of testicular treatment. Your friend is probably going through the grief process. Be there for him and perhaps once he goes through the acceptance period he will accept treatment. I do not know the age of your friend but I do know that chemotherapy / radiation is a long/painful road to a chance of remission. Be there for him and do not be judgmental of his choice. If he ask your opinion give it, if he doesn't then offer positive support.
2006-08-13 05:20:34 · answer #4 · answered by rockwithelmo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if he has testicular cancer he will be seeing a doctor to know that he has it. all you can do is support him in any way you can . talk casually about this guy you know who has testicular cancer and say it was just as well he went to his doctor or it might have been fatal .don't get too heavy about it .all you will be doing is planting a seed which he will think about after you have gone home ,if he hasn't got medical support he will probably think more seriously about getting it
2006-08-13 05:10:30 · answer #5 · answered by clrdanlob 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its his choice, but.... Maybe he is in shock right now. It is a very hard thing to deal with. Give him a week or so, he will change his mind. Be there for him, and respect his decision. It is so overwhelming. Get his family involved, this will be the biggest influence in his life. If he is religious, get his pastor involved. I went through the same thing.
2006-08-13 05:10:01 · answer #6 · answered by barbaradjt 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't force him to talk about it. While you may not agree with his decision to not take treatments, just be there for him. Sometimes you don't have to say anything, being there for someone says it all.
2006-08-13 05:08:49 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He won't allow treatment? Then get mad at him. Loudly. Tell him he's a moron if he doesn't get treatment. He'll die. Then make him feel guilty for making such a selfish choice.
2006-08-13 05:09:30 · answer #8 · answered by Kanga_tush2 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best way is to convince him to go to a doctor.. And tell him how you feel.. That will surely help.. Most of all, never forget to ask the guidance and the help of God..Ã.. Hope you like my answer.. I know somehow it will help you about your problem..Ã..
2006-08-13 05:12:08 · answer #9 · answered by purple_loren 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't try to force him to talk to you or anyone else, just be there for him and show him what a good fried you are.
2006-08-13 05:26:58 · answer #10 · answered by geena_tanner 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋