2006-08-12 21:53:41 · 36 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
What? If you do someone I am going to someone. Don't play a game. Getting even by having sex with another wont work. Your husband broke you trust. You either deal with it and forgive or you kick his mother F------- butt out.
2006-08-12 22:56:19 · answer #1 · answered by Mit 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If your goal is only to get even, then that's the best way to get even. After that, what next?
Suppose you had the affair first: How would you feel if your husband then had an affair to get even with you?
If I can not satisfy my mate I would let her, with my blessings and support, play with a another partner. I would be concerned for her safety and I would tell her so. I wouldn't be angry or vindictive. That is how I am.
If your marriage is focused on exclusivism, and you both agreed to it with full knowledge of the ramifications on sexual needs, your having a "getting even" affair will NOT resolve any issues.
You both need to sit down and talk about your mutual feelings. No yelling, screaming, shouting, or throwing insults at each other. Actually talk this through. Find out why.
Was it an accident? Yes, sexual accidents happen. All humans have sex drives that can suddenly, and unexpectedly, kick into high gear without our intention.
Was it loneliness? My wife and I work very odd hours. Sometimes, we don't see each other awake, at the same time, for days. We both have freinds who could decide to help us cope with our loneliness through sexuality. We both understand.
Think and feel this through with one goal in mind: Healing.
2006-08-12 23:05:43 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
No, no,no.... What are you proving that you can get down on his level. Will you feel dirty and down in the gutter with him the next day? Just casual sex, to me, is just asking for trouble. You know, if you love your husband, and he asks for forgiveness, go to counseling. It is a hard one for a wife to get over this kind of hurt, so you naturally want to hurt him, but in the long run, you only hurt yourself. Don't do it, just take it one day at a time, and pray that you will not want to get revenge. God has a way of getting even in other ways, but it is for Him to do, not you. If you do not love him, and cannot ever get over it, kick the bum out. Go on and get someone that will be faithful to you. If they do it once, well, they will probably do it again. That is just the way it generally works. If you caught him once, there is probably a dozen other times, that you didn't.
2006-08-13 00:27:11 · answer #3 · answered by shardf 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
no, tit for tat never works and moreover it gives u the edge in the matter u see, he is in the wrong not u, he is the one who is guilty not u, if u'd do the same then both of u have done wrong and nobody is right. here u are right and right is always the heavier side of the matter. make it known to him what he has done and how it hurt u, more than what he and what u did is the attitude he has towards all this, is he still no big deal about it or is he down on his knees begging u to forgive and let him return, i think u should look for that instead of getting even, at the end it is what u think is right
2006-08-13 07:58:45 · answer #4 · answered by prats 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
no it is not ok for a wife to also do that,what she should do is talk to him ,informing him how it hurts you and find out why he does it and inform him he needs to stop because both party can be infected with HIV Aids. you can also help him by introducing to church or lots of programme on T B N where lots of work is been done on these area to enhance family relationship,and if he still wants to do it then it does not make any sense for you to stay in the relationship because it will only affect you and your children if you have children so again if he can't stop it means he don't have any respect for you and you should move on and lean on the lord Jesus Christ who is always there for you and will alyaws comfort you,for the bible said behold i stand at the door and nock if any person hears and open i will come in and have fellowship with them always.
2006-08-14 02:51:46 · answer #5 · answered by rudy 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Two wrongs don't make it right. But it was very low of the husband to cheat on his wife. Follow your heart on this one, as I don't know the entire situation.
2006-08-12 21:57:54 · answer #6 · answered by metalheart19 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, do not get stuck on stupid cause he was weak in the flesh, be strong and futhermore this situation is ground for a divorce.
You can forgive him of course but how do you know he will not
repeat the offence again. Let stupid catch a flight honey.
2006-08-12 22:01:23 · answer #7 · answered by JoJoBa 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
the only thing you should do to get even is get another husband I am a male and trust me if he cheats once he will again and lots of men will hate me for this but men do cheat again don't let him tell you it was a once off thing honey we are men and if a female shows interest and if you are not faithfully you wont be not then and not now. sorry males that I am like this but we are like that.
2006-08-12 22:00:16 · answer #8 · answered by tazdevil007au 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
imagine for one moment if you wanted very much to divorce this guy and you wanted the divorce because he was unfaithful, how would you feel if you had also been unfaithful .that's being as bad as him. i know it hurts but the best thing you can do for yourself is to leave him .it doesn't get any better ,it just gets worse so go now while you are young enough to start again
2006-08-12 22:00:19 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
It will only make it worse you need till to heal having a one night stand wont make you feel better
2006-08-12 21:56:41 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋