I'm with a man who I love more than anything. I plan on spending the rest of my life with him. He's ultra-het and has some discomfort with my sexuality. I'd never trade him in for anything and he feels the same for me. My experience with women has been little more than nonexistent. I'm very secure in who I am and who I care for. I'm just worried about people's perceptions of a bisexual feminist who has never had a real girlfriend, is in a relationship with a 'traditional minded' man, and will most likely never experence physical nor emotional intamacy with a woman.
(please don't answer this question with 'who cares what others think'. I know and I don't. but I do have a semi-public job and am simply wondering about what this means to my image not my self-perception)
2006-08-12 21:52:29 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
It's not wether your with zero women or 100 that decides your sexual preference, it's the fact that you still feel that attraction.
2006-08-12 21:56:20 · answer #1 · answered by Zander Mathis 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
First and foremost I think that sexuality is fluid and it's a state of mind. If you know for a fact that you would be open to having an intimate relationship with another woman then you ARE bisexual. Whether or not you have had intercourse with a woman doesn't change who you are or what you know you are comfortable with.
Secondly I'm gonna have to say that even though you claim that you don't care about other people's opinions you actually do. It's only natural to care about what others think. The truth is that people will have many different opinions about who you are. As for your "traditional" boyfriend. If he really loves you then he will accept ALL of you.
2006-08-13 03:51:12 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ok, you do know that is what really happens if or when a bisexual person does find a long-term relationdship, don't you? Even though you're bi at some point you are going to be with one sex or the other. That doesn't take away from you being bisexual.
Even if you marry this man and are only with him then you don't turn straight, your attractions are still there though you don't act on them, so you are still bisexual. Just like if you were with another girl long-term, you don't "turn" lesbian, your still bi. It doesn't matter what kinds of relationships you had in the past. Not everybody dates a lot, it doesn't mean you weren't attracted to both sexes just that you didn't date a lot of them.
This is a good answer, 5 points for me.
Edit to Poppet:
You are wrong about her not being bisexual. You don't have to act on it to be one. Just like you don't have to have sex with another woman to be a lesbian. It's not like a rock hard lesbian that only likes women was straight until she had sex. It's the same thing with bisexauls. Please don't pass on that myth.
2006-08-13 08:19:11 · answer #3 · answered by MindStorm 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
a lot of human beings will disagree with me in this. i'm bi and married. at the initiating, do no longer deliver anybody else into the bedroom. that's not a reliable theory. that could end a wedding ceremony. If it a probability to have the relationship with you woman chum and keep it out of your bedroom then do it. attempt to describe for your husband that he's the only you'd be with till lack of existence and that is it. i'm bisexual and married to an outstanding woman. I actually have obstained from having a male sexual better 1/2 for a lengthy time period and am desirous to discover one. it truly is fairly complicated at the same time as your married and performance little ones. i could under no circumstances deliver yet another man or woman in my bedroom. that is an section for me and my spouse in straightforward words. Make the time for you and your woman chum something particular for you and her outside your position. keep it separated. Like I stated many gained't like this besides the undeniable fact that it truly is distinct if you're bisexual because we do want both and performance a deep inner want for both. i am going to't clarify it yet there is an emotional and actual want that desires to be met that one sex can't finished. My suited desires.
2016-11-24 22:45:11 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're attracted to men and women, that's that. You're bi. Whether you express that or not ... I don't think you need a certificate.
As a bi person, you can't have a closed relationship with two sexes at once ... unless you find a VERY unusual person!
Will you be able to be -happy- never expressing your attraction for women? Maybe. Not to wish you any bad luck, but if your "traditional" relationship broke up, you might find yourself on the other side of the street.
2006-08-12 23:14:23 · answer #5 · answered by Luis 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
even if you never sleep with another woman again... you are and will remain bi sexual... being in a heterosexual relationship does not change that fact...
If you have a semi public job... Im wondering why your sexual identiy is known at all... that I dont understand unless its some sort of job working in equal rights or GLBT rights/activism ect
Im not sure what your job is so I cant say for sure if it could damage your public image... but Im doubting it will be an issue
2006-08-12 22:13:03 · answer #6 · answered by Levi Cristopher . 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Bisexuality is defined by attraction, not by what you have or haven't done. Sadly, this is something lots of people don't understand, so you're probably right to be concerned about people's perceptions. However, what I don't understand is how this affects your job, since no one (presumably) can tell you're bisexual by just looking at you.
2006-08-13 00:13:37 · answer #7 · answered by catelf7 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would agree with one person who said that you're bi-curious...because that's what you are. You are not "technically" bisexual...
I am "technically" bisexual because I have had relationships with women sexually many times. I am now married...but that doesn't change the fact that I am bisexual.
So frankly, you're not bisexual...and even if you were, the point of bisexuality is not to go with one sex and then the other and so on and so forth; it's to go with the flow of the chemical reaction in your head to another individual regardless of sex. So chill...
2006-08-12 22:05:40 · answer #8 · answered by Poppet 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Of course others are going to think "Oh, she's not bisexual. She just says she is." I'm in the same boat (though I have dated woman in the past) and people always say I'm only declaring myself as bisexual because it's trendy. I'm not. You're not. *shrugs*
2006-08-12 22:05:35 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Dating ...no. But I think if you get married to this man then yes , if you are true to your vows , then you give up ALL others , that includes women too. I'm sure you may feel attracted to women still , but it would be unfair to your husband if you were intimate with one. And don't assume that ALL men want to be with two women at the same time- some of us are content with just one-and we don't like to share.
2006-08-12 22:04:28 · answer #10 · answered by budlowsbro420 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋