My husband and I have been trying to concieve since may..?

Question

And we haven't gotten pregnant yet. I calculate my fertile days, and my ovulation. I watch for signs of ovulation, and still nothing. Do you think that my body has reacted to the stress, the let down, the frustration, and the planning of trying to concieve? Do you think that I should just stop calculation, and just have fun, and not stress so much about it? Do you think my body will ever relax since we want a child so much? Has anyone on here ever had a similar experience, then stopped worrying so much about it, and then got pregnant?

Answer 1

Hey there, I know exactly what you're going through. But I still have not became pregnant either!!! I think we both just need to relax and find something else to take our mind off GETTING PREGNANT!!! (it felt good to scream that!!! LOL!) I know it's hard but just let nature take its course. I bet that's easier said than done, but find a hobby. I love to knit so I'm working on my new scarf collection for this winter. I know how addictive it can be to sit at the computer and go from one web site to another looking for some magical answer directed right at you, but every women is different and no one will have the same issues. Just pray and live life. That what I'm trying to tell myself. But besides working on a baby I'm also getting married really soon so that's got me anxious as well....I've got 1 month 1 week and 3 days before the big day....

Answer 2

If you're getting that wound up about timing and calculations, then your body may be reacting badly to it. However, it takes a full year of trying in that fashion before a doctor will say something's amok and needs to be looked into. So you may just not have taken enough time. But, it might be worth a call to your doctor to double-check that none of your medications or health conditions, or your spouse's, affect fertility. Also wouldn't hurt to both be tested for common health problems and hormone imbalances, to be sure you both are in the best possible health.

Have you tried Ovulens? I saw a generic of it at my Walmart recently. It lets you know your fertile days without all the charting and calculating, similarly to how a urine test verifies ovulation. Except, there's no urine involved, and it's reusable. Makes it easier to relax and not be all wound up about things. Very cool little gadget.

If you want more thoughts on what to do to increase your chance of success, contact a local midwife for advice. And if you find yourself taking things too seriously, go shopping for a new nightgown, or something. Or whatever floats your boat... don't let trying to conceive become something you'd rather avoid, but deal with in order to obtain a child. Save that feeling for when you're in labor.

Also, something I learned from hanging around other foster parents. Alcohol is about the most dangerous thing to an unborn child, so if you're trying to get pregnant, don't have any, not even a sip, not even a single dose of cold/cough medicine that contains alcohol. It's just not worth it, believe me. Fetal alcohol exposure is one of the most disabling conditions I've seen (and I'm comparing to my two autistic teens).

And, since you asked, we've had the experience of charting, calculating, counting, stressing out, testing, testing some more, getting negatives when we were sure we had it right, getting positives that end in miscarriage 3-4 weeks later, the works. After a year, we stopped caring about it. Then quite by accident, we got sucked into the world of adoption, and now we have two kids! Not exactly the pregnancy you desire, but it turned out perfect for us. So.. your fairy tale ending is not out of the question. But, you may find it not to be what you expected!!

Answer 3

If you took the ovualtion test already you will know that that doesnt work , an ovulation test usually only tells you when your ovulating , most of the time its too late for the sperm and egg to catch up with eachother.
Note that ovulation is 14 days before your period starts not 14 days after
a good way that women swear by is cheap and easy, the temperature method
keep a basel thermometer and pen and paper next to your bed every morning after your period take your tem. and mark it on the piece of paper. When its time to concieve your temperature will rise a couple degress. Thats when its time to start concieving.
Those ovulation tests are a waste of money and they tell you after its too late. Too much sex will lower your chances, try having sex every 2 days. Sperm can live inside a women for about 4 days.
Another thing you can do that may help a tiny bit is buy there called "instead cups" doctors put them in women after they get an UIU , this was the semen wont fall out, its purpose is for menstraul cycle.
Dont go to the bathroom after sex , and can defect the chances of sperm. Try to have an orgasm 10 min. before he finishes as it may be easier for the sperm to travel with me fluid. If he finishes before you then you finish this will decrease your chances, because when you ***, your cervix releases more liquid, this can push the semen out.

Answer 4

Pregnancy is not a game of darts or tic tac toe.
Both of you must schedule physical exams.
you should know everything about his family's medical history prior to conceiving a child.
Then you have to get a gyn exam and tell the doctor that you have been trying to conceive.
You could have damaged scar tissue or Endometriosis which is a condition that many women have but have no idea.
His sperm should be tested to detect if he can produce children.
If after checking your reproductive organs an you still don't conceive
take it as a message from God.
When I was dating my sons father he was a good father.
I was in my last year of High school and felt that he would be both emotionally and financially supportive.
Once I had the baby , he changed.I ended up residing in a shelter.
He had the audacity to charge me for rent while I was carrying his child. i paid him one week and left the following week.
Years later, he lost his apartment. I had the pleasure of charging him rent and putting him out 2 years later.
I hope that everything works out with you and your family.

Answer 5

It took me six months to get pregnant. I was under a lot of stress at the time. My dieing grandmother lived with me and I was taking care of her. A month after she passed away I found out that I was pregnant. I do believe stress has a lot to do with it. Just relax and you will have a baby on the way soon. Good luck.

Answer 6

It's only been four months, give it some time. It does seem like calculating your fertile days and watching for ovulation, etc. would detract from the fun part of conception. Unlax! you'll have all the stress you can handle once the kid is born.

Answer 7

My husband and I are trying to conceive as well but other problems are in the way...as for you it would probably be the stress and worrying...you know trying to time it just right and all...just relax and let nature take its own course. You will become pregnant when the time is right. I know it has been three months for you and your husband hopefully and prayfully something good will happen for the two of you. In the mean time keep trying and like I said don't worry.

Answer 8

I had a sister who took 9 years to get pregnant;
another sister took 5 years. It will happen sooner or later. If for some reason you don't think it will happen; maybe you need to see the
doctor.

Answer 9

I think you should stop calculating and making everything so planned and sharp and strict. Just let go, have fun, and have fun often, and these things will happen on their own.

Answer 10

Your thinking is wonderful, because you are covering all aspects of "what might be wrong?". So I must think you and your loving husband both are quite sex- literates. It may be worth for both of you to see a physician - just in case either one of you could have a physical condition.