In the past (high school), I've had some really crappy boyfriends. But the one I'm with now is wonderful. He makes me happy, has a very bright future, works hard, and loves me. But my mom seems like no one is good enough to pass her standards. It's so frustrating, my mom and I fight about the same thing so many times. It always has to do with her criticizing something he does, and me getting p i s s e d off because they're little things that SHE isn't happy with, but it doesnt bother me. I love her and I love him, but I feel like she can't just let us be happy while we are happy. She makes comments like i'm too young (i'm 22) and i'll learn in the future that little things he does say something about him. why cant she understand that ppl are brought up differently and not everyone is trying to live up to her standards. I'm so frustrated, please help. I'm sick of fighting with her about the same old s h i t
2006-08-12 21:14:18 · 21 answers · asked by mkitkatj 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
You could stop fighting if you come to the understanding that sometimes mums dont understand that we will only learn through making our own mistakes. i am not saying that your new boyfriend is a mistake not at all. but i am saying that it sounds like your mum loves you very much, and she does not like to see you get hurt and maybe she still sees you as her little baby girl. there comes a point though in every ones life where they have to cut loose from their parents and have faith in their own desicions. You should not feel like you need your mums approval for this relationship to be real. your mum has her own lessons she is still learning, just like you have lessons you are learning.
2006-08-12 21:21:45 · answer #1 · answered by alilovespete 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know moms, they are always like that. They always doesn't want their 'baby girl' with a 'jerk'.
When a mother has a daughter they are always overprotective of them, they always wants the best for them. That's why no matter how perfect a guy is (well, not that perfect, because nobody is perfect.) the are still a jerk in a mom's eyes. No matter how old you are mothers always try to keep their daughter from growing-up for they are afraid of losing them. So most mothers think that all guys are their enemy in their daughters affection.
So don't try to be rebel, it'll just worsen your relationsship with your mom, she's just afraid that you won't love her like before. Try talking te her about your boyfriend (in a good way, not in a yelling tantrum way.)
If it makes you feel better I still don't have a boyfriend but I had alot of suitors bec. my mom scares them off,lol hahaha, she saiys that I only can have a boyfriend when I'm 24 or 26,hahahaha ^_^
2006-08-13 04:24:27 · answer #2 · answered by Artemis 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
do not fret. let me tell you, your mom is not jealous or is against you going out with ur boyfren. the fact is, she is still possessive of you. every mom wants the best for her baby. so the same principle applies. she is yet to see the the better half of him. be selective in what you tell her next time about your boyfriend. tell only the good point. listen to her, mom will feel happy when someone is listening to her. do not fight with her. the more u fight , the more she will resent to your relationship with your boyfriend. you may want to start giving some gifts for your mom, saying it is from your boyfriend, once in a while. start getting him into her good books. all will be well. remember, she is just possessive and she knows that you are not spending enough time with her. she is also feeling lonely i guess. take care.
2006-08-13 04:33:22 · answer #3 · answered by CuriosCAT 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've been through this before with my mother. If you're over 18, which you are, and can make the decision for yourself, then you need to tell her that it's none of her business. I understand your mom and you are probably close on everything else, that's why you value her opinion on stuff but if she's really straining your relationship you might as well, in the nices way possible, say "mom, **** off, he's my boyfriend, if you don't like him so much, then you don't date him, and let me!" Not in those words, but with that message. lol.
2006-08-13 04:19:35 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well your mom want you to have a much better boyfriend.Just listen to your mom eventhou if that guy treat you right.You never know a guy did something bad at the back of you but infront he is just some drama guy acting like he is good to you.LIsten to your mom.You don't want to end up like my auntie single forever and she has kids now without a husband because she never want to listen to her mom's advice last time that now she ends up with a worst "punishment".Love can be blind.Your mom also wants you to have a great life,just follow what she say.
2006-08-13 04:23:28 · answer #5 · answered by cherrypumpkin 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you live with your mom? If not, just let it go - you're an adult and it's your life, you can date whoever you want to without any interference from her.
If you still live with her, that is a different story and you may just have to learn to be diplomatic for a while.
Just keep in mind that no matter how much you and your mom love each other, you are different people and you may never agree on certain points. You are an adult with your own life to live, and she will have to deal with that - let her say what she wants to say and keep on doing what you have to do.
2006-08-13 04:18:33 · answer #6 · answered by Bwilkerson 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey, your mom wants the best for you look back at your other boy friends remember how at first they made you happy then they either left you or did something to make you leave them. Finish school go to college the right guy will come around don't settle because it looks good to be with a bf
2006-08-13 04:30:41 · answer #7 · answered by da_Boo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
every mother will tell you that ''no boy is good enough for my daughter''!! and so it is with your mom. the more you let her see that he is the one for you the more she will protest because she knows that if you feel like that about him then you will sooner or later decide to live together and move out to do that ,she doesn't want to lose you from home . as you are 22 you are quite entitled to live your own life the way you choose to and if you are wise you will keep it ''nice''. then mom will have nothing to nag at you about and if she does tell her you love her too as well as the boyfriend and that you are old enough to make alife of your own now .
2006-08-13 04:21:19 · answer #8 · answered by clrdanlob 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl i hate to break the news to you but usually when mom has a feeling about a boyfriend its for a reason and shes usually right. you know what your moms heart feels like from the inside cause she carried you. Shes not going to hurt you or tell you any wrong. I know you have feelings for your man and everything but keep your guard up.
2006-08-13 04:34:23 · answer #9 · answered by meka g 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok first all parents are like this lol. Especially with girls, nobody is good enough for their baby lol. And really from what you say your mom should be glad lol. It could be much worse. Can you imagine your daughter seriously dating a muslim asian samuri wannabe rock star. Lol keep your chin up and your mom will eventually come around.
2006-08-13 04:17:29 · answer #10 · answered by freeze_guy_2001 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋