I have always felt like people have excluded as if I am not important. I do not have a sister and being female I have always wanted a close relationship with a female for emotional support. I would in turn give support back. I have always been giving to people and especially ones who seem to be friends. I am 28 and I am a teacher. I work with all females. I just want a female friend who does not try to competer with me.
2006-08-12 20:52:48 · 16 answers · asked by Michelle R 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
nobody will think you're important until you do. if you feel excluded, it's because you bring it on yourself.
2006-08-14 10:42:27 · answer #1 · answered by Gabrielle 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know why you are having a problem finding a good true female friend, but it sounds to me like you might be trying too hard and are too needy. No one likes to get into a relationship, either a romantic kind or just a friendship with someone that is too needy. However, if that isn't the case, then maybe it isn't you at all but the women you choose to be around. Do you live in a city? I used to live in a big city and found that woman, while friendly, were detached when it came to actually forming long term girlfriend relationships and this made me feel sad, as I was hoping to make a few friends. People in the city seem to have have a tough time connecting with other people, it seems to be the culture. I now live in a small town and everyone is very friendly and welcoming and I have made some friends here that are true. Hmmmm.
2006-08-12 20:59:37 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It has been my experience that I form better,longer lasting friendships w/ older women.They tend to be a mother figure in my life,and very positive role models.Plus they have maturity.
Friends I have found around my age (a 'young' 40) and friends younger than me have not lasted,mainly because most are immature,careless of others' feelings, and tend to be reckless in many areas of their life,like cheating on their husbands,picking up hitch hikers',and just 'running off' from their problems,ect.These things I have no tolerance for,so I dont keep them,as the 'friendship' becomes too stressful for me,and that isnt 'friendship' in my book.
But the best way to meet friends is by going to places YOU like(doing anything YOU like to do),and there you will meet people who have interests' like yours.It feels awkward at first to go places by yourself,but start out easy,like museums,or plays,or take an evening craft class,which only last 4-6 weeks,they dont cost much,and many are offered by community organizations .
Join other community activities if you have some spare time to give,like volunteering.
One of the first areas I helped out was serving Thanksgiving Day dinner at a homeless shelter.If you can stir a pot,and dish up plates,that's all the skills you need....and I met some really neat people there!And many of them are doing the same as you...looking to bond w/ other people.
2006-08-13 18:19:29 · answer #3 · answered by ms ellimae 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're not alone with this situation.
There are lots of people who share your opinion that it's tough to find a true best friend.
My advice:
Find a friend that doesn't work with you, and doesn't even work in your field. Even if you won't be seeing her everyday,
this will eliminate the competition factor.
You don't have to have the same personalities.
And choose someone who doesn't have too much friends, this way more attention will be focused to you.
And try to be a bit independent.
Best Wishes
2006-08-12 21:18:04 · answer #4 · answered by Líbano 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
U can always find a true friend that has closed personality as u. But try not to get colleagues. It's always good to have someone to pour out to. But is does not matter if it is a male or a female. Try your best to look for one around u. I am sure u can get one soon!
2006-08-12 21:04:42 · answer #5 · answered by pooh_bear1919 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd say I've had the same problem in my life.
I read an article in this magazine saying that it takes up to 3 months for emotions to get fired up and up to 3 years if not longer to have a real intimate relationship with someone.
Have you moved around alot? How long have you known your co-workers? Maybe time will help things. Just be your true friendly self and try to engage in activities whenever possible with woman.
Love to chat anytime. E-Mail me
2006-08-12 21:01:29 · answer #6 · answered by Brandi D 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-24 22:42:31 · answer #7 · answered by ganz 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Having a real good friend unfortunately, is not someone you can find. You have to be lucky! Just try to be the best person you can be and maybe some day...who knows.
Just remember...true friends have to pass the test of time.
2006-08-12 21:03:25 · answer #8 · answered by Robere 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well Michell
i could really use a good friend to but i am not a female i am a single dad of 2 little girls that live in Alaska and i know you are probley laughing at me bye know but if you really want a good friend and some one you could trust because i have been though a lot in my life i would really like to be your friend if you want to.
my e- mail is little_ace48@yahoo.com i know i probley wont hear from you but i would be a really good friend and some one you could trust and my 2 little girls would like to talk to you to.lol some thing to think about OK.art
2006-08-12 21:02:27 · answer #9 · answered by little ace 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hello Mitchelle,
I feel so sorry to know about you.... BUT I can be 1 of your friends. Lets keep in touch and share our thoughts and feeling. Why not give a try?
Keep in touch.
Best wushes and regards
Sunny
aarveesy@yahoo.com
2006-08-12 21:20:56 · answer #10 · answered by itsme 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know what to tell you but maybe start to talk to a female cousin. Start hanging around with her. Someone that is around your age. Girls are haters. Trust me. Maybe they hate you because your beautiful or maybe your annoying. Maybe you should ask yourself that question. I don't know you so I can say.
2006-08-12 20:57:59 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋