I'm not sure how to phrase it. But have i wonder why is it even if people are nasty and lied to me, lets say i will promise myself to ignore that person but at the end of the day i still end up talking as per normal.. den that same person do the same thing again and the cycle just never ends... its like they think im just to forgiving or dependant on them .or i'm just being nice?. how do i break this cycle . please help! thanks
2006-08-12 20:39:08 · 29 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Forgiveness is a virtue that says allot about your character.
2006-08-12 20:42:47 · answer #1 · answered by iggwad ™ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe, you don't really care how they treat you, meaning it doesn't hurt you if they lie or are nasty to you. How do you feel at the end of the day, after they mis-treated you and you are still talking to them lake nothing happen? How do you feel about yourself. These people might not think, like you said , that you are forgiving and depend on them, they might just think you don't have any self esteem. Let them know, when they are hurting you!
2006-08-21 01:45:20 · answer #2 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Being nice, means forgiving is one of the good nature of a man... Be considerate always... thats 100% acceptable... at the same time be honest. You can tell them thats they made a mistake by not telling you the truth... on this way, you let them know that they made a mistakes and that mistakes should be corrected.
Well, ur not only nice but your honest too! And thats the qualities of a good friend! So, keep it up!
2006-08-21 03:01:42 · answer #3 · answered by latteen 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oy, you sound like me! I can't say that you're being too nice, but you may be a little too successful at imitating a doormat - you're letting them walk all over you....and that's not healthy.
If you're sick of it happening, what I found works is the next time they do that, let them know you don't appreciate what they did and you're not going to accept that treatment any longer. If they continue to do the junk, let them know that you know you deserve better treatment, and you'd be happy to hang out with them as soon as they agree to treat you nicely. Then, you're gonna have to walk away and not hang out with them, etc., until they do their part.
Saying a polite 'hi, how's it going?' isn't bad. It's letting the negative cycle keep on chugging along that's not healthy.
Good luck!
2006-08-20 02:54:18 · answer #4 · answered by tydlywnks 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are,and you are being taking advantage of that,if you keep being like that,no one will pity you because you are the only one that can break the cycle,people will get fed up advising you not to be too nice,because you keep participating in the cycle,you are hurting yourself emotionally.Without you,there is no cycle.Whether you want it to continue,its up to you.Its time for you to show some authority,independant and being miss-not-nice for a while,you are being bullied for kindness,tough up to break the cycle
2006-08-20 20:01:58 · answer #5 · answered by Janet Y 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dr. Phil says we teach people how to treat us. People treat you like that because you allow it to go on. Not only should you begin to pull back from such friends, you should begin to expand your friendship web and get some new ones. There are people out there who do not do the things to friends that you have described
to us. No friend is perfect, and we will sooner-or-later disagree with a friend on some issue -- but then again, no one should have to put up with characters like those you've told us about.
2006-08-13 03:51:34 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, it's a good thing that you forgive people wo are mean to you. The thing is you are just being yourself. I mean, you can't stand to hate someone because it's just who you are, a friendly forgiving person. You can't break this chain because it's really in your personality.
2006-08-20 11:08:12 · answer #7 · answered by fashion_model 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not all people will lie to you. Your going to meet more of the sources becasue of the sex you display as a woman as yourself and that attracts and when you attract you have "The Good, The Bad, The Ugly, The liars". End of story!
2006-08-20 20:28:40 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that's due to : 1- your kind ( or shy ? ) personality , 2- your mind , sometimes , telling you : if you changed , you will have no friend . start talking openly to them... notify them ... they may not be treating you on purpose ... if they do the same again , then you can say : I don't need such a friend any more .
2006-08-13 04:02:42 · answer #9 · answered by mario 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why do you let people treat you like this? Do you realize that we teach people how to treat us? We also attract "like" people so my question to you is do you have any of the same personality traits? Get a real friend. One who wouldn't do that to you. Change your own behavior, get some confidence...
2006-08-13 03:43:09 · answer #10 · answered by cinson1999 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry I couldn't pay to much attention to the question I was to busy looking at the picture. If that is you you are a very beautiful girl sorry again about the question
2006-08-19 15:12:19 · answer #11 · answered by robert d 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋