For six years my BEST FRIEND (female) keeps on changing "BOYFRINDS".She only choose the handsome and macho boys who are very unintellegent. She does not even like those boys and these boys only flirts with her, they dont even care for her.She will choose them on 3rd January and just leave them on 1st December.Why in the world she is choosing and ditching boys. She does not even choose the boys who cares about her like me and some other friends.Should I talk to her about this matter and what advice I'm going to give her. Please help me
2006-08-12 19:56:56 · 15 answers · asked by Aditya 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
I am 17 nand she is 18
She does not even think or do S*x
2006-08-12 20:07:22 · update #1
What if I show her this question
2006-08-12 20:12:33 · update #2
and yes I care for her
2006-08-12 20:34:58 · update #3
Tell her what you see and how unattractive it is.
2006-08-12 19:59:49 · answer #1 · answered by brogdenuk 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She sounds very out of touch with herself. You can tell her you are concerned about her because you care about her, and that you believe that a fulfilling relationship might look very differently from what she is doing, but you can't criticize her. That will close her off from you. Remember that life is long, and that the best thing about friends is that they accept you the way you are. You are right to think she has a problem, but you can't change her. Only she can change if she wants to.
2006-08-13 03:00:43 · answer #2 · answered by calliope 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If she is happy then I'd leave it. I'm like you, I have been with my boyfriend for 7 years and am very happy but monogomy it isn't for everyone! When she meets the right person she will settle down, in the mean time let her enjoy herself!
There is nothing wrong with having sex with lots of different partners as long as it is SAFE SEX! This is the only point I would make to your friend.
2006-08-13 03:02:31 · answer #3 · answered by DippyGirl78 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your friend sounds like she has low self esteem. She chooses the handsome and macho boys because she thinks that if they go with her, she is also good looking and desirable. Having many boys also validates her own self worth. You can try to talk to her but be prepared, it may damage your relationship.
2006-08-13 03:03:49 · answer #4 · answered by Paula P 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
for starters its her life.but being a concerned friend u can tell her what u feel.but dont accuse or criticise,it'll make her withdraw from u.if she's among the wrong set of people as u say then its even more important that u be there for her.in doing all this dont lose urself.u might end up being depressed for no fault of urs.so keep ur sanity intact.
2006-08-13 03:07:46 · answer #5 · answered by archie 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
six years is high time for people to understand each other.either u are wrong in understanding her or she is?try and find this out first?u can explain every bit of urself to her.wat u feel of her and her attitude towards boyfriends?tell her that it really disturbs u wen somethin wrong happens to her and show the care which u have for her.may be if she really takes u as a best friend then she will understand of ur phobia and concern for her?best of luck..........
2006-08-13 03:05:33 · answer #6 · answered by cooldude 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
God, that's very terrible!
kawaisou na, anata wa..
well, for me, she's probably doing that to just draw attention.. moreover, she likes having fun.
well, you should talk to her, as her bestfriend..
try talking to her
"what if YOU were those guys you flirt with and then you were ditch by him?"
i feel poor for someone who really likes her. Like you, for example. i can say that u really care for her.
PS: think about your feelings too.
do you LIKE her, or LOVE her..?
sorry if i seem too bossy..
and sorry for any grammatical or any word error. i live in Japan and my mother language is not English.
Good Luck. Ganbatte, ne!
2006-08-13 03:29:55 · answer #7 · answered by kisa 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i had a friend like that, she would not date them for that long, and wouldnt choose them for what they looked like, she only chose guys that i either liked, had liked, or where close friends with idk why, but i figure she goes with the guys because she doesnt feel she is loved at home and that she has to be better than me, i didnt talk to her about it or nothing when i did she wasnt interested so i guess if just depends, if you want to talk to her about it just say what you feel like saying, but dont talk to her about it unarmed, write things down that you want to say in no particular order and it may come to you
2006-08-13 05:54:28 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You can let her know that her choices bother you. But you also need to accept that this is her life and these are her choices to make, rightly or wrongly.
2006-08-13 03:00:13 · answer #9 · answered by suzanne 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe she is trying to get your attention.Tell her how you feel about her and her situation.Maybe she will tell you the sme.
2006-08-13 03:08:26 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
well maybe she only want attention and if you are a cloes friend then maybe you should tell her and to have more respect with in herself
2006-08-13 03:00:29 · answer #11 · answered by chloe f 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋