I have a problem in my relationship?

Question

my husband never shows me any affection. no hugs kisses or anything. I'm a person that needs this contact to feel loved.now i'm finding myself attracted to other men and some are attracted to me i love my husband but this lack of affection is making it so difficult

Answer 1

let him know how you feel..

Answer 2

Hm...well, before your marriage, did your husband act the same way towards you? If so, you can't expect him to be more affectionate. If not, maybe there is a problem and you should talk to him about it. You should probably tell him that you are feeling less loved when you don't receive displays of affection you need.

Answer 3

You are no different than any other couple that I know out there. Its seems the fire has cooled down since you fell in love some time back. What you have to do, is create a new YOU to show him that you are more than his EYES can see. Break away from the old routine and start that Fire again. Its not as hard as you may think. It takes two to tangle, let this round be YOURS to start. Good Luck and thanks for asking the question.

Aloha from Hawaii

Answer 4

As it should. Tell him about your needs, and if he doesn't seem to act or talk as if it is his duty to do his best to meet your needs, tell him this is what you believe to be an integral part of a warm, loving relationship. If this doesn't work, tell him it might become natural for you to try to reach out to others if he isn't interested in meeting your needs. Tell him you are telling him about your needs because you really care about the relationship, and don't want to do or thing anything that might betray him. Be as open and kind about it as possible. This should work, but if it doesn't you may have to think about leaving him. Having an affair is a very bad idea.

Answer 5

Yes, I agree, let him know how you feel and what your needs are. Communication is most important in any relationship.

Also, you might be a touchy feely person and maybe he is not... You will need to find a compromise...

On the other hand, if you are obese, he may be turned off by you if not totally repulsed. It is my opinion that you need to keep yourself in reasonably good shape and do what is necessary to remain attractive to him...

Answer 6

tell him you need it. And if he loves you he will give it to you. If he has other feeling for someone else. Then fine, end the marriage on difference of opinion. But its no good feeling alone when your married. you can be alone to feel alone then its okay. But enough is enough. Just because his mother didn't show him affection when he was an teenager, doesn't mean he can't learn to give it to you. RIGHT!

Answer 7

There has to be a reason for him not doing so.....tell him that you need affection and love....its normal for you to feel attracted to other men but try to control yourself and save your relationship rather than destroying it...Good Luck

Answer 8

Hey Poptrash, mistake number 1 was hooking up with someone like that in the first place! But since you are married, I would say don't fool around unless you either get a divorce or come to an agreement with your hubby!

Answer 9

maybe you can talk to him and let him no how you feel and u should hug and kiss him first and if he doesnt show any back then u have a problen!!!
good luck

Answer 10

you need to talk to your husband and tell him whats going on with you and your feelings

Answer 11

I think you should tell him how you feel.Say I need more form you or Im leaving you.There is a possiblity that he might be cheating on you.Think about it.