I'm 17 yrs old, i love my parents very much but my sister hates tem with passion. Because of her i have suffered a lot and so did my parents. My parents and my sister got in a horrible fight. I am so tired of all of this!!!!! I don't know what to do anymore. My mom has now told me that i don't exist for her anymore. i have not done anything to harm her. i am starting to act a lil like my sister. I cannot stand this situation anymore. I am still a studet in high school and i feel like im going to go crazy if this won't stop. I sometimes feel like i just wanna die, but my boyfriend is the only one that comforts me. What should i do, It is a long story and it is a lil bit hard to explain the situation.
2006-08-12 19:08:47 · 9 answers · asked by puf988 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
They have been through a lot and i kinda of understand but im tired that way i am getting treated!!!
2006-08-12 19:23:26 · update #1
the thing is that.... i am a 4.0 student top 1% of my class i am not a stupid girl im not going to go out in the streets and do other bad stuff to harm my future. what im trying to figure out. am i doing something bad? i dunno wat to think anymore. But slowly is starting to destroy me......
2006-08-12 19:30:36 · update #2
Your mother needs to grow up and learn what it means to be a parent. Unconditional love is what she should be giving, not putting conditions on her mothering responsibilities. More than likely if two of her children act the same it came from close to home, and she is running away.
2006-08-12 19:14:17 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry that your mother is treating you like this - it sounds as if she has some issues and is taking her inability to deal with your sister out on you! Is there an adult you can talk to, such as a counselor at school or a relative you might be able to stay with for awhile until/if things get better? See if you can get a referral to someone in the mental health field who can help you determine what your options are -this is a really unhealthy situation for you to be in. What does your father have to say about all this? It's normal for teenagers to "pull away" from their parents during their high school years as they learn to become more independent. I got a full time job that kept me away from my mother as soon as I entered high school, and I saved most of my earning until I could move into my own apartment. Not only did working get me out of the house, but saving the money gave my life purpose and meaning as well. I finally got an apartment of my own when I was 17 and I never looked back, although I remained close to my father. My mother now has dementia and hallucinations, and it's been ironic that in her last year's I've had to make all the decisions about her care. But I've tried to treat her the way I would want to be treated, so that I don't turn out the way she did! Good luck to you, I hope this helps.
2006-08-13 02:18:37 · answer #2 · answered by Mother Bear 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok, I don't have a quick fix for this but I know of something that will work.It will take the participation of at least one of your parents so you're gonna have to be couragous and be the one to lead the way in the quest for your family's unity. Go to www.landmarkeducation.com and read about the landmark forum. Then read some of the testimonials from people who've taken it. I did The landmark forum in 2002 and my relationship with my mom went from me thinking she was a nag and hating it when she called me, to me being the one that she can talk to about everything. So what you need to do is click on the link that says "attend a free introduction" and on the page that comes up click the "contact your local landmark education office" link and follow the steps until you find out which office is nearest you. Call them and ask the following::"when are you having the next Landmark forum or advanced course evening session?" Both of those courses happen over a weekend and on the Tuesday evenig following the course, people invite friends and family to find out about it. It will be great because you'll get to hear people share what they got out of taking the course during the weekend. I know this is a long process so I want to thank you for stepping up and taking charge of your family's future at such a young age. You can be the one to have things turn around. If there's anything else I can help you with, please let me know!
2006-08-13 02:34:37 · answer #3 · answered by Don Ricardo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am sorry that you feel this way. I know from experience what you are feeling. My mom is not a part of my life and hasn't been since I was 18 yrs old. I am now 35 with a 15 yr old daughter. My daughter has seen "granny" no more than 5 times in the 15 yrs she has been on this earth. "granny's" loss. I have moved on with my life. So should you. Finish school, go to college or whatever it is you want to do. Make a life for yourself. Learn not to act this way to your children when and if you have any. Your mother should be ashamed of herself for even saying that to you. Go on with your life you deserve better. You have so much to offer the world do not give up on life. I love You Kid.
2006-08-13 04:06:13 · answer #4 · answered by Marcia G 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a tough situation to be stuck in I know from experience. I left home and hit the streets at age 13 because I couldn't get along with my dad. I am now 31, and things are a lot better now. I do not recommend hitting the streets like I did. That road is way too tough, and I never would've made it without a few great friends and an attorney who helped me. You are just going to have to be patient with the situation and keep to yourself and friends. As long as you are able to stay out of sight and out of mind, things will work out. Just be strong, and keep talking to your boyfriend and other friends that you trust.
2006-08-13 02:23:48 · answer #5 · answered by absolute genious 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would seek some counseling for this, it sounds pretty serious. Do you have a guidance counselor at school you could talk to? Your boyfriend sounds like a loving, caring person, but I fear the stress of your situation could cause trouble in your relationship with him, if this goes on much longer. For now, I would advise distancing yourself from your mother, because it sounds like push-pull behavior on her part. You watch, she'll start accusing you one way or another of not being a good daughter, when she, herself, asked you not to acknowledge her in the first place. That's why I say get some mature adult to help you sort this out, so you don't get anymore damaged than you already are.
2006-08-13 02:30:47 · answer #6 · answered by Chatelaine 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you were here i would give you a hug and tell you everything will be OK. ( I'm not hitting on you do not worry lol). sorry to hear about your issue. sounds like a rough 17 yrs . Some of the situations you probably went through. i know exactly what you went through. I've been there myself. seek help go to a counselor at school, a trusted friend. we are here for you.. A BIG HUG TO YOU. my prayers are with you. EVERYONE GIVE HER A GROUP HUG SHE NEEDS IT.
2006-08-13 02:28:31 · answer #7 · answered by loveable_bear3030 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your mom is wrong for scarring you like this, and she is NOT acting like she is your mom. That being said, stay away from her and your sister when they fight. I know that they drive you crazy, but you can be stronger than they are. I guarantee that if your mom continues with this, she will regret her actions, as will your sister if she doesn't stop her hatred. It will destroy her, and she will have only herself to blame. But again I say to you hold your peace and do not say anything out of the way.
2006-08-13 02:23:13 · answer #8 · answered by savvyd 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
try talkin to ur mom alone without ur sis there!! if this failed then ur sis must have driven them crazy!!! just stay out of their fights, TAKE NEITHER SIDE!!! u r not to blame,well ur mom should not treat u like that!!
2006-08-13 02:14:35 · answer #9 · answered by maria32greece 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋