and he's kind of creepy. Luckily I'll be leaving work soon, but he keeps telling me I'm the only one at work that'll talk to him and dork around with him, and he decided that he should get me a giftcard and a nice card that I'm "not supposed to show anybody else" ... but other than that creepiness, he's really nice and everyone likes him. Should I do something??
2006-08-12 18:57:51 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Perhaps I should also mention that I'm happily in a committed relationship that doesn't involve Mr. Work.....
2006-08-12 19:01:58 · update #1
Also I happen to be under legal drinking age, and he's like in his thirties....he's married with 4 kids.....it's a little on the awkward side for me...
2006-08-12 19:06:34 · update #2
it won't be harmful as long as he does not stalk u. ^__^
2006-08-12 19:01:18 · answer #1 · answered by bark_larky 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is looking for a friend. I am sure it is nothing sexual.
He probably has not had many friends and has found a friend in you. He is pro bally use to having to buy friendship.
Tell him you do not want the gift card but tell him that one day after work the two of your could go out for burgers an a beer. His point of not telling anyone is reasonable.
Then the other co workers would or may get jealous.
What is kind of creepy, is that like kind of pregnant. Either he is or he is not. I am sure he not creepy.
Just remember he has a mom and dad that love him very much and are proud of him. Be thankful you are not in his shoes. He trusts you and you have made a difference in his life.
You said luckily you are leaving soon. So are you saying you are arrogant, and can only be friends with a certain class of people.
He is not asking to move in with you. He trusts you and needs a friend. Just think if you had a grown child who went to work and was called creepy and did not have friends.... would you not be hurt?
everyone has parents that love them..... you need to do nothing more then be his friend and if everyone else likes him then he can not be that creapy.. Nothing wrong with having fun......
2006-08-12 19:10:10 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I guess I'm confused -- nice is creepy? I could understand if you found him standing outside your window not saying anything; that would indeed be creepy.
However, perhaps he is just shy and his way of saying he is really into you is through this card. He doesn't want you to embarass him, or he is afraid of ridicule.
There are too many scenarios to go over here. The point, I suppose, is you should do what your heart and your gut tell you. If you think he's dangerous then yes, do something about it. If not, then humoring him isn't going to hurt a thing.
Your choice.
2006-08-12 19:05:22 · answer #3 · answered by Lonnie P 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if someone gives you the creeps then there is probably a reason for these feelings. what is with the card that you are not supposed to share? a normal, natural work relationship doesn't involve mandated secrecy - be careful and keep your distance. If you are found with him try to not be alone with him - if your internal alarms are going off , don't ignore them
2006-08-12 19:05:20 · answer #4 · answered by unasmariposas 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nothing is free. Be carefull , I once had a guy stalk me at a party over 5$ that I did not know I had to pay because He flipped the money when he seen me in the drive way.
2006-08-12 19:05:45 · answer #5 · answered by glennakay2004 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Trust your intuition. If you are getting the creeps around this guy, be polite but don't initiate any conversation with him. Try to spend more time with other co-workers to show him that you are not his one and only buddy, but are a friend to all. Then he won't feel that special bond with you. Good luck!
2006-08-12 19:03:57 · answer #6 · answered by sweet_leaf 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He sounds like he is interested in a real friendship.. probably will turn out to be great buddies where you can share everything with each other and not get to sexual.. I would state the ground rules to this guy..unless you want something more
2006-08-12 19:02:11 · answer #7 · answered by passionate 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If everyone likes him how come you are only one that talks to him ? except the card no harm in a card.Are you married if so talk about your husband or Bf to him .Just to remind him you are taken,
2006-08-12 19:04:26 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think you should really just be his friend...cuz if he creeps u out..then ofcourse ur gunna not b with him..be a good hearted person and just chill with him dont be a ditcher..but also if u dont have those feelings for him....then dont lead him on the wrong way
2006-08-12 19:02:03 · answer #9 · answered by Jamie M 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unless if it's unappropiate i really wouldn't make too much about it. just except the gift and say thank you and leave it at that.
2006-08-12 19:00:52 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe he likes you,, so he kept on making himself noticed by you, i think his creepiness will be gone if youre already comfortable w/him
2006-08-12 19:00:57 · answer #11 · answered by gillette 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋