okay i am 16 and my bf is 17 not so unusual but recently my bf always wants sex so why ? also all my friends are calling me a s l u t or a whore cuz me and my bf and some friends were palying truth or dare and my bf darred me to make out with this really hot guy who i liked before me and my bf dated and now they all call me a s l u t and a whore so how can i get them to stop ? also is it wrong for me to date my bf who is 17 ? and 1 last question why is my bf obssessing with getting in my pants again and again ?
PLEASE HELP ME
i have one more question why does my bf say that some times he gets so hard that it hurts ? you dont half to answer this question if you dont want to
the reason he darred me is cuz he was i know this is illegal but drinking not alot though and he hasnt drank since
2006-08-12 18:45:57 · 15 answers · asked by Frank Iero from MCR is HOT!! 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
Please Help I Really need Help
2006-08-12 18:48:50 · update #1
Please i need real help
2006-08-12 18:50:09 · update #2
for all of u saying u r a virgin dont give it up well i am not a virgin
2006-08-12 19:26:50 · update #3
Get away from this whole crowd.
This is not good.
2006-08-12 18:49:06 · answer #1 · answered by Texas Cowboy 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
1. Stay away from alcohol and drugs, they can cloud your judgment and you can end up doing things you don't want, regret or hurt you.
2. Break up with your boyfriend, and if possible switch to a new school, or start homeschooling, or distance learning.
3. Take some time to be alone and single. Ask yourself how you wish to lead your life, what kind of relationship you would prefer having, why you have been hurt and how to prevent this from happening ever again,
4. Internally forgive yourself and start anew without falling into the sex thing again. Someone who respects themselves and others will have a healthy relationship and both will protect the other from pain.
5. Try not to let things hurt you, What people say...and who you are, are two different things. Because someone may say you are stupid, does not make you stupid. So, recall the strengths you have and what you know about yourself to be true. That is what you must believe in. Let others say what they want, it can't hurt you unless you start taking it personal or believing it.
6. Discuss the situation with the school counselor. Maybe they can help you at the school to stop this type of bullying (that is bullying and slander you are experiencing).
I hope some of these help you!
2006-08-12 19:15:00 · answer #2 · answered by schnikey 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well your boyfriend is a horn dog. Your friends are mean. And you done something out of poor judgement, you completed that dare. Which why did he dare you to do that???
If you don't want to have sex and your boyfriend can't understand that then you need to get rid of him and get a real man that will worship you for the goddess you are.
It's not wrong for you to have a boyfriend whom is 17. My boyfriend is 5 years older than me, he's in his 20's.
And it sounds like to me that your boyfriend is trying to trap you or guilt you into having sex with him. There are other ways to "have fun" with out sex, like you could give him a hand job. That way he can't use that so hard it hurts thing. Honestly I don't think that's possible. I know guys can build up to the point it hurts but it takes a long time for that.
Remember you should NEVER do anything you don't want to do, you'll just feel cheap afterwards. I live with the motto "No Regrets". I figure I should be able to walk out situations in the long run and go "well I've got 'no regrets' about that" and I've manged to do that so far.
Also remember that if your a virgin still that it's ok to be a virgin. There's no shame in it. There's less worries that's for sure.
Anyway Good Luck!
2006-08-12 19:12:52 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You won't get the real reasons to all your questions due to the fact that we don't know him. You know him "best" by being with him. However, these are some example reasons of maybe why.
"but recently my bf always wants sex so why ? "
True colors are showing of that is who he is, a sexual craver.
He is a male and hormonal male.
"how can i get them to stop ?"
You can't get them to stop. You are not in control of what comes out of their mouth.
However, they are not friends. Friends down degrade other friends.
As far as the truth or dare, I find that a little immature on what your bf expected you to do and you actually did it. However, do as you wish.
That wasn't the reason why he asked you. When people drink, they loose control of their ability to control of to withhold information that they wouldn't tell people if sober. For a bf to dare his gf to kiss another guy, that is a little beyond "normal".
"also is it wrong for me to date my bf who is 17 ?"
How come you questioning if it is wrong or not? Does it matter what we think about it? I didn't think so. One year older than you is no big deal. Why you worried so much.........?
"1last question why is my bf obssessing with getting in my pants again and again ?"
Same as the reasons why he is sex craved. Either you are letting him or he see's you as his sex symbol.
If you gave up sex for at least a month, would he respect you or would he throw a fit? I believe he would throw a fit about it if he is that bad "again again again".
"why does my bf say that some times he gets so hard that it hurts ? "
The blood flow and not being released. Another form of "blue balls".
2006-08-12 18:56:13 · answer #4 · answered by Mutchkin 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
so, im 12 and my last bf was 14. 17 yr olds are supposed to get horny and stuff at that age. tell your friends this "if you can't understand what I'm going though and keep calling me a slut and a whore without hearing my side of the story, i think i should call you kickass stupid bitches just to make it even." more 4 you if you made out with a hot guy!;)no, dating someone 1 year older is so not wrong! it's great! but one advice, try as less sexy as possible and talk to your bf bout the problem. he has boners which means when he gets really aroused all the blood goes in his dick and it hurts real bad. don't sweat it, almost everybody starts drinking at 16~17yr old
2006-08-12 21:31:18 · answer #5 · answered by Holly♥ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you and you boyfriend have had sex in the past, that could be the reason he wants more. If you and your boyfriend have never had sex and you really aren't a virgin than he has heard about you and wants some of the action, you just have to decide whether you want to give it to him or not. No one can make that choice but you. As far as your so called friends go, there really isn't a way to get them to stop, you just need to find new friends, but you have to admit, you did use poor judgement when you made out with another guy with your boyfriend right there, and him actually daring you to. No, dating someone older than you isn't wrong, but if you have to question it, than you may not feel comfortable about it yourself, and your looking for a way out. Like I said before if you have already let him in your pants than of course he's going to keep wanting in there. Boys say alot of things in order to get a woman to sleep with them, I've even heard the "if I don't get it I'll die" speech. When a guy says he gets so hard it hurts it means that he has a case of "blue balls" which means he's really horney and the only way to reduce the tension is by having sex or masturbating. It could also be one of those things to get you to feel bad enough to sleep with him. Out of everything I have just said the only advice I could actually give you is to find a new boyfriend and new friends, because to me it sounds like you headed down the wrong path with the ones you have now. Your only 16, you still have your whole life ahead of you, don't blow it over a bunch of low-lifes you call friends and a loser you call a boyfriend.
2006-08-20 18:50:23 · answer #6 · answered by DELLA R 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
oka first of all your being called a slutt because you made out with another guy that your weird b/f dared you to make out . You should have walked out then it's a clue drinking = stupid things that people will call you a slutt. As for the pee pee thing being hard well for a man when a young man does not release hardness and does not masturbate then yes it will hurt just think if your nipples were hard all the time.He your b/f wants to get into your pants because your dumb enough to drink and make out with a guy your b/f tell you to he's just seeing how dumb you are and how far you will go for his weird love how much are you willing to give up . Are you willing to give up your freedom ? Please use common since it sounds like he's using you
2006-08-12 18:58:23 · answer #7 · answered by stefania_n2000 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the reason your boyfriend wants sex all the time is because his hormones are changing and he don't know how to handle it
the thing with you making out with another guy was just poor judgment and you should talk to your friends and tell them that you know it was wrong and that you were just trying to impress your boyfriend
and as far as your boyfriend getting an erection that hurts that is very possible because an erection is caused by a rush of blood to the penis and for some men that can be very uncomfortable and sometimes even pain full particularly if you are very young
2006-08-20 15:31:55 · answer #8 · answered by just_a_fat_chick_9669 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your bf wants to have sex because he is a boy. if you do not want to have sex, do not let him pressure you. if he won't stop bringing it up then leave him.
if your friends are calling you a slut and all that then you need to get away from them. you shouldnt be around people that make you feel bad for your decisions. you are your own person and you should only have to answer to yourself and your parents.
it's not wrong for you to be with a 17 yr old cuz thats only a year apart.
2006-08-20 03:19:34 · answer #9 · answered by Baby G 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell your friends that I said it takes a slut/whore to identify one.... and if they were true friends they wouldn't be calling you that!!! They are just jealous of you... hands down....
And as far as your bf obsessing about sex... one he is young...two he is probably being pressured by his friends who are having sex and three... you may need to ditch him b/c he could just be using you for sex. Explain to your bf that your not ready to take it that far just yet and if he can't except that f*** him... you deserve better. If he was interested in you for you, then it wouldn't bother him!!!
And remember, you are sixteen and if you have sex you could get pregnant... The only 100% way of not getting pregnant is abstinence!!!!
2006-08-18 12:37:32 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you let your b/f defy who and what you are in life.
"my boyfriend this" or "my bf that", blablabla. It's ok to be into him, but girl YOURE SCARY-SPRUNG. You should never be sooo into a guy like that. What's going to happen when you two break-up? At your age, the chances are pretty high that a break-up will happened. You will be lost. Don't loose your sense of who you are over a guy. Trust me, he'll love and respect you more if you live for yourself and not him.
2006-08-13 19:58:24 · answer #11 · answered by kylanusoftly 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋