I have been out of the dating game for so long, I don't know what is real and what is not. Plus, there is the emotional turmoil of getting the divorce, which I want! The younger friend seems to flirt with me, but like I said, I am not sure what it means. He is also a semi-friend of my soon to be ex and I that that is a problem for him. Another mutual friend makes it seem like the man I am interested in likes me, but I don't know how much to believe. I am very confused and lonely. I am more upset about not seeing the guy I want than I am about getting a divorce. What do I do? I do not see him very often and do not know how to proceed. I am pretty sure he knows I am interested. Please help.
2006-08-12 18:22:56 · 12 answers · asked by sad1199 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Ask him point blank.
2006-08-12 18:26:38 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nothing like a little rebound sex while you are going thru the divorce. You are nowhere near ready for a real relationship yet, so have some casual sex with the guy, and both of you will feel better.
Dont try to start something ongoing right now, it wont work and will just create problems for everyone. Have some fun and keep it discreet.
2006-08-13 01:40:14 · answer #2 · answered by n2bateyou2000 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
start with hanging out in a group so you can see if he is worth all of the headaches he seems to be giving you. If things go well, casually suggest that you go see a movie together or grab a bite to eat. Take things slow. You are probably more hurt by the divorce than you realize and starting something right away isn't really fair to you or him.
2006-08-13 01:28:33 · answer #3 · answered by cockermom 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get your divorce out of the way, and then you can deal with this guy who might be interested in you...a guy that doesn't seem to understand you're IN THE MIDDLE OF A DIVORCE and it might not be a good time to be pulling this with you. In fact, consider this my tip-off to just leave him alone and give yourself some time to deal with the turmoil you're going through and process it rather than bury it.
2006-08-13 01:30:33 · answer #4 · answered by You'll Never Outfox the Fox 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take it slow darling! Finish up what you have to do to finalize the divorce and then get to know the guy. What you can do is talk to him and ask him if he likes you or not, and if he does let him know whether or not you like him. Then let him know that as soon as the divorce is done you'll be glad to get to know him more. That way you will be more determined to get the divorce done quickly and move on.
2006-08-13 01:35:08 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are going thru a mucky period in your life dealing with the divorce proceedings...
If your "admirer" is a true friend he will be there for you in times of need....
And if he is not...well youve got your answer.
My Words of Advice to You are:
Be careful, very very careful as there are a lot of gold diggers out there......and knowing that you are coming up for a settlement....he might have his sights set on something completely different to what your imagining...BEWARE!!!
2006-08-13 01:36:36 · answer #6 · answered by harrrisfamily 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be straight forward. Tell him your interested, but you must wait until this divorce thing is over. Also tell him he must sever all ties with your ex-husband. If he says why. Tell him is queers you out, and you don't want ex hubby to get any dirt on you. He will understand.
2006-08-13 02:02:38 · answer #7 · answered by crafty 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would get the divorce out of the way..You can't think clearly when you have that hanging over your head...Tell him you need time to get thru your divorce and get yourself together because right now you can't think straight..If he really cares he will wait
2006-08-13 01:39:00 · answer #8 · answered by Mrs. M 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give yourself time to finish the divorce. Don't jump into anything too fast. Give yourself some space before you start this.
2006-08-13 01:29:19 · answer #9 · answered by bortiepie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Jesus, get through the divorce first, have a "little" character....
2006-08-13 01:26:24 · answer #10 · answered by lickmemel 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
get some self-esteem training and study relationship books so you don't make the same mistakes again.
2006-08-13 01:43:27 · answer #11 · answered by jimrich 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋